L.B. asks from Milwaukee, WI on August 20, 2009
Looking for Care Package Ideas
I need help brainstorming care package ideas for my sister-in-law. She lives two states away and has been down lately. She was going to school FT but is looking for employment and going back to school PT. Her 2-year-old has been throwing monster tantrums. She's also been gaining a lot of weight. She just sounded so down on the phone the other day. I was thinking of bath salts for stress relief, almonds for snacking (as opposed to sending candy or something sugary). I'm not sure what else. Any creative, inexpensive ideas? Thanks for your help!
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C.O. answers from Minneapolis on August 21, 2009
Sometimes it does not have to be "something" A simple "thinking of you" card in the mail has brightened my day. Otherwise delivered flowers are nice - as for gifts to send - Does she like to read - the Chicken soup books, magazines, etc, anything for a distraction.
Just letting her know that you are "there" for her if she should need to vent and reminding her that "it all passes" tantrums, bad days, classes, money issues.
Best wishes to you
C.
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L.M. answers from Madison on August 21, 2009
Fake eyelashes for fun!
S.S. answers from Minneapolis on August 21, 2009
I am in the same situation as your sister-in-law. Luckily for me my two year old isn't throwing tantrums. I think the idea of a gift certificate to a spa is great. At a time when you are looking for work and going to school and money is tight it is hard to rationalize spending money on yourself. You didn't mention this but if she is a single mom you may want to think about how you can help her to have a break from her child. I know you live further away but maybe you know someone who lives close to her that would be willing to babysit while she goes to the spa. Just a thought. Good luck.
R.V. answers from Green Bay on August 21, 2009
I did a care package for a friend when she was having a tough time turning 40. I wrapped everything seperate with little notes: Hot pink nail polish for when she's feeling fun, a good book when she has some down time, some kleenex if she's feeling blue, some cookies for when she's craving, some lipstick for a good night out, some candles for a good night in, and a few other things. Maybe some bath salts or fuzzy socks. Everything was small and inexpensive, but she sure got a kick out of the little gifts and notes!
K.T. answers from Minneapolis on August 22, 2009
Sister poems, mom poems- motivational, poems about getting through hard times. Same thing with songs- maybe make her a mixed CD [I remember making mixed tapes for my friends long ago that pertained to them in some way] with some of her favorite songs/cheerful songs/songs about getting through hard times, etc. Or an iTunes gift card if you can't think of that many.
A DVD of a good chick flick- I still love "My Best Friend's Wedding" ...that one is funny, and is also about making it through a tough time and knowing everything will be okay in the end.
If she is struggling to study with a 2 year old at home, and you have the money, maybe you could prepay an hourly drop-in daycare in her state to give her a chance to get some homework done or just get a break in general. You can't really find a babysitter for her long-distance but at least with those places you can be sure they are licensed and have certain standards. That would be pretty expensive obviously [the ones here in Minnesota are $8-$9 an hour...I have never used them but have researched them, wishing I could use them sometimes! I've just never had the extra money for it or any babysitter for that matter]. If someone did that for me, or paid a babysitter for me to get a break I know I would be sooo grateful.
Dark chocolate, nice earrings or some other kind of jewelry, a gift card to a department store of some kind, and I totally agree with Bath and Body works- can't go wrong there. Everything they make smells great!
T.R. answers from Dubuque on August 21, 2009
Things to reminder her to give herself "me time". Nail polish, personal size items you find at Bath and Body. They make about everything they have in small sizes. They also have awesome shea infused soft cozy socks. A pretty journal and pen - I have been lucky finding those at a dollar store. How about a little photo album with old and current sister pictures letting her know you are there for her despite the distance. For snacks how about sugar free gum and little hard candies. How about a little teddy bear to represent a "bear hug" you would give her if you were there. Whatever you do she will have a smile on her face opening your package and so appreciate your caring.
C.O. answers from Minneapolis on August 21, 2009
Sometimes it does not have to be "something" A simple "thinking of you" card in the mail has brightened my day. Otherwise delivered flowers are nice - as for gifts to send - Does she like to read - the Chicken soup books, magazines, etc, anything for a distraction.
Just letting her know that you are "there" for her if she should need to vent and reminding her that "it all passes" tantrums, bad days, classes, money issues.
Best wishes to you
C.
L.R. answers from La Crosse on August 21, 2009
Hi L.-
I don't know if it's the weather or what, but I've been longing for some nice fall things. I would love to receive some fall scented candles (pumpkin, cinnamon, apple) and one of those really snuggly blankets they have out. Also, maybe some nice bubble bath or a good book to curl up to. A gift card to a coffee shop is something I always enjoy, too. Good luck finding the perfect gift. You are such a sweet sister-in-law to be thinking of her. I'm sure she appreciates just having someone to talk to.
-L.
A.M. answers from Minneapolis on August 21, 2009
Relaxing candles, supplies to give herself a pedicure or a gift card for a pedicure (At Ulta you can get little inflatable foot soakers so you can fill it with water and soak like you would at a salon), gift card for somewhere she enjoys - coffee, bookstore.
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