February 05, 2007,
G. asks from Peoria, AZ on January 30, 2007
Looking for a "Life Coach"
I am great as a secretary outside the home behind a desk working for other people- but what I have found is that I am not great at managing our household. I yell to much, don't decpline myself to clean like I should, and manage the groceries/planning meals, find time to play with my kids (2 year and 4 years) and so on...
Many mom's I talk to empathize with me. I think in some ways I feel like I am falling short and well - I thought before I go back to therapy to talk about my problems I would put it out to other women to see if there is anyone out there who is a "life coach" or knows someone who is? I would love to learn the fundamentals of how to manage my time effectively, plan dinners with health"wise" foresight (not mac-n-cheese and Mc'Ds).. I guess I'd like to feel successful at being a mom and running our home in a loving, creative way that everybody in the family can enjoy. Right now I am running on loose ends and flying by the seat of my pants with not alot of enthusiasim for playing legos' with my 4 year old... I wish I was that mom who does it all with time to spare to laugh and paly with her kids. I am sure there are alot of books out there and yes, I watch Supernanny every week (she's actually inspiring to me) I realize there isn't such a thing as a "perfect" day or not even a "perfect" mom - - but if there is anyone out there that can help me declutter my life and help me understand how to run a great fun loving organize home --- I welcome you to contact me soon!!!! :) Thanks!
C. answers from Phoenix on January 31, 2007
I feel the same way as you so many times! I have been using a free online service called Flylady.com. If you check out the web site she gives you 'baby steps' to decluttering your home and keeping it clean. You can sign up for daily alerts. They are simple reminders like "check your laundry' or "start your morning routine'. She also introduces you to an inexpensive service called "Saving dinner" that gives you healthy menu's for dinner. As I write this my house is a mess (I am a SAHM of a 7 year old and 3 1/2 year old twins.) But I know that each room is only 5 - 10 minutes away from being clean because I have been using her decluttering techniques for about a year and everything has a place.
I hope you do find a coach to help you run your home. If you please post it on this site. I would love help too!
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S. answers from Phoenix on January 30, 2007
I don't have any answers for you. I was hoping that I'd find other responses here. I also Have a 2 and 4 year old. The letter you wrote sounds like it could've been written by me.
I too have been wondering how I can manage my time more efficiently. I have come to the conclusion that I need lots of structure to get stuff done. SO just today I bought a dayplanner (on sale at Barnes & Noble for $2) It has times listed from 7am to 7pm. I JUST got it, so I hope it helps me schedule my time better.
The Crock- pot is the other part of my plan. It is hard to cook with kids clinging on you. My 2 year old is home with me all day and will not nap anymore- and if he does is up til 11pm My 4 yo goes to school MWF for 3 hours. It's not alot of free time.
I have disovered a thing called "flylady" online. It helps get your life/house back in order.
I'm not yet flying but am fluttering.
I guess I'm just not ready yet.
I hope my small suggestions might help a little. Best of luck to you
G.M. answers from Phoenix on January 31, 2007
Hi G., I understand about being disorganized at home. I use to be a Pharmacy Tech at a hospital and when I went to work, (before I was married and before my son was born), I went in with a set mind to get everything done, and I was good at it. I was efficient, and organized, and very timely with my work that needed to be done. I was able to organize what I was currently doing, and was able to juggle new orders that came thru. Now that I'm a stay at home Mom, my life is a complete, and utter MESS. My house isn't as clean as I use to keep it when I was single, and I'm tired all the time. I sometimes cook, but doing dishes afterwards is not on my top priority. I would ask my Mom how she managed the house with three of us girls on her hands, and she said that she use to do her cleaning at night when we were in bed. Except for the vacuuming. She'd get that done during the day. I don't even find myself doing the cleaning at night. No way. What I have found that works, is make a list of what all you need to do in the house for cleaning, and spread it out thru the week. Don't try and get it done all in one day. Say like, laundry is on Monday, bathrooms on Tuesday, Vacuuming and dusting on Wed., etc. Of course dishes are an every day thing. UGH...Dusting is a fun chore for kids to learn. If you have the Pledge wipes, you can make a game out of it. Instead of a game of "pick up sticks", make it a game of "pick up toys". My two year old son likes to help me dust. Of course I don't say no to that. LOL Try to plan your dinners a week, or two weeks ahead a time when you know you're going to the store and write down what meals you're going to cook on what days. Crock pot meals are great. Less mess, and less time to prepare. Casaroles are great also. Rachael Ray has some great 30 minute recipes on her website. Just go to www.rachaelray.com Once you get to that website, look on the far right under "FOOD" and you'll see the 30 minute meals. Click on that and you can choose the recipe you would like to try. Her website is awesome.
I hope I've helped in some way. I too live in Peoria. If there is any time you would like to talk let me know. Email me at: ____@____.com
My name is G.. There is no such thing as a supermom...so go easy on yourself ok. :-) If you feel too overwhelmed, may be consider giving up the AVON job. That will save you some time there. You're doing great with being a part time student, with two children, and all your pets. :-) I only have two cats, and one son and I still feel like my life is disorganized. HA. Take care and remember to go easy on yourself. :-)
T.R. answers from Phoenix on January 31, 2007
I have two thoughts that come to mind. I ran across a website yesterday called Create the space...here's the web address; http://createthespace.com/
The woman who runs this business lives in the Phoenix valley, she is a professional organizer! However she doesn't stop there, she also helps the client with the emotional issues and stress involved with home disorganization. I talked with her for roughly 25 minutes and I already want her services. Check it out online and give her a call.
The other resource I think of is my friend Crystal in Litchfield Park, she is a counsler and author on child rearing, she has a masters degree and many many satisfied people she has helped.
Her website is; http://www.aolff.org/
It's called Arms of Love, this is something different that you ever have come across, a truly beautiful way of parenting. God bless you G.,
C.H. answers from Phoenix on February 05, 2007
My name is C. H and here is a lady that may help you find some answers. Rachelle Taylor (Professional Coach) if she is not what you need she may know of someone. ###-###-#### ____@____.com
A.B. answers from Phoenix on January 31, 2007
Hello G.. I recommend that you contact the following:
Maria Teresa Busch
Crew Relations Arizona
She is a member of the International Coaching Federation here in Arizona and holds a position of leadership in that organization. I, myself, am a life coach but my niche is working with youth and young adults. I HIGHLY recommend Maria. Please tell her that I sent you.