Longing to Be at Home with My Son

You will make it. I just want you to know that you will make it. I had to get creative and pursue a home based business to fulfill my desire to stay home. To my surprise, I love what I do and get to have the flexibility for my family. Also, I tapped into my family gift for cooking and perfected a delicious pound cake. I now make special order pound cakes.

I say all that to say that getting creative is the key. All the women I know that are SAHMs, fulfilled their desire to stay at home by coming up with something creative to make it happen. Here is a list of some things that may work for you
1. Job sharing. A typical job share involves working two to two and half days a week. If your company does not have this option, you can create it. Go online and there is a lot of information on this topic
2. Telecommute. You did not mention your profession, but maybe this is an option for you. A friend, who fill shipping orders, suggested working from home to her company. Guess what? They said yes. So, now she completes all of the company shipping orders from home. She loves it. There was a learning curve on how to get organized to complete everything. Well, like you her two kids are at school part of the day, so she crunches her work into that time frame. She does not clean the house, schedule outside appointments or anything else during the time the kids are away so she can stay on top of her job.
3. www.simplyhomemagazine.com is a great resource for a list of home based companies. I used to frawn upon home based companies, not anymore. I found something I am excited about (Home Based Travel)so what I am doing is a joy. Once you find something you are passionate about you will find the rest to be easy.
4. www.workathomeagent.com or www.liveops.com are legitimate home based companies. There are others, do your homework and make sure you feel great about the product.

Hang in there...set a goal to make a change and work toward that goal.

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Hi there!
I am a mom to a 2.5 yr old little boy and a 2 month old baby girl!
If you are looking for a work at home business, I would love to talk to you about mine. I never really thought about starting a home business. I just did not think it was for me. I have worked for someone else my whole life. It makes me sad to think about all the firsts I missed with my son. He is growing up too fast! .So now with the one on the way - I have been blessed to be able to stay home and work. It is so worth every minute I put into this business. I am able to work when and where I choose. I have the freedom to see my son grow up , and I'm not a stranger. I can work anywhere and everywhere without losing time with my family. If you have children and family, and wish you could be with them instead of your 9 to 5 job, please contact me. I can help.

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Hello C.,

You are among many mothers who want to be at home to watch their kids growing and be there every happy moment while earning full potential income. I might have the answer you are looking to all that...:)

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U.(un-hee) Linsey

Hi C.:
I know how you feel. My oldest is now 24. I remember laying by her crying, not wanting to leave her and go back to work. But I Had to at that time. I have had 5 more children since her. My youngest is almost 2yrs old. I have found a legitimate work from home business. It is a company that truly helps every family who wants to be a part of it. They are a 23yr old Inc 500 BBB Accredited and Honored, Award Winning company, expecting to double sales in the next 5 yrs. I would love for you to hear all of the information about what we do. There is no obligation. If you would like more info please email me at ____@____.com or ____@____.com can visit my website at www.workathomeunited.com/debbie6 or www.livetotalwellness.com/debbie6 and request more info too. Looking forward to helping you in this most important decision. You can be a stay at home mom. I am 47 with 6 of my own, plus a step daughter, 2 grandchildren, been living frugally for years. This company I have found is changing our finances and our health and happiness.

Sincerely,

D. Smith

I feel your pain. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I suggest that you find something that you like about your job or that is important and tell your son. If you truly have no option but to work, let him know that and that what you do is important. He will take your cue from you, I feel. I also had to go back to work and felt that my heart was literally ripped out. But on those hard mornings, I tell my daughter that Mommy has to go help boys and girls learn how to read. It helps me feel better, whether she understands now or not. One other thing is that I also call my sitter on those hard days and just check in. It helps to hear that sweet little voice in the background playing. I hope that you find a solution that works for you, so that you can have peace. Hang in there!

I am a mom of 3 kids under the age of 7 and came home to be with my very first newborn in 2002.

This process of being a homemaker and working from home is not an easy one, but it is much easier on my conscience to know that my kids are definitely getting what they really need every day.

I spent a lot of time searching for work from home, and still do look for other streams of income from home.

It is great that you are looking for ways to be home with your child. That is so important, and it is possible, if you start planning now.

Also, if you'd like information on what I am doing that is working, contact me through the MamaSource email system.

Also, I have knowledge of and access to many other helpful resources, groups, people, etc., that could be useful for you I am always looking for moms to develop friendships with, online and in my neighborhood. We really do need each other, and I am grateful for Mamasource and other online sites for moms.

Hi C.,

I understand exactly how you feel. I used to quit work when ever I had my children. I do have an option for you. I've been working at home for over 3 years. I do Sales/ Cst Service. There are other positions also. Log on too: www.arise.com and enter The ACP# 39296 (it will bring up my name as the person who referred you) You will need a computer and headset to take calls. One of my clients is Walgreens. You can email me also. ____@____.com

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C., have you explored all the alternatives for working from home? I don't mean those companies that make false promises, but legitimate jobs.
I don't know what fields you are qualified to work in, but there are a variety of options. Our CPA works mostly from home and comes to his client's offices as needed. He saves thousands in overhead expenses every month and makes a very comfortable six figure annual income.
Not a proffesional? Don't worry about it. I spend a few hundred dollars every month at the drycleaners, but I still end up spending hours every week on laundering other clothes. I would gladly pay someone else to wash and fold my laundry for me, but there is no local service to do so.
The best way to make money from home is to find a need and meet it. If you live in an area where there are a lot of single people, but not great restaurants, you could offer a home-cooked meal service. Just be creative.
Identify your strengths and find a way to convert that strength into profit.
But before you quit your dayjob, I should remeind you that your little one is four years old and will be starting school very soon. Carefully consider whether or not you will still be happy with an at home job when that happens.
Good luck!

Hi C.,

I LOVE selling Mary Kay - if you are interested in at least hearing about the opportunity I would love to set up a phone interview with you and my director. It has unlimited income potential and it is a great way to network and meet new people and make new friends.

The incentives are fantastic - free car, free trips, etc when you meet certain goals. You can also check out my website at www.marykay.com/J..campbell and click the "Earn Extra Money" icon or the "Sell Mary Kay" tab at the top. I look forward to hearing from you.

Hi C.,
My advice is to follow your heart. You won't regret it. No one else can fill your shoes in your son's life. I don't know your situation, and whether you are the sole provider for your son or not, but a lot of the time you are not taking home as much as you think when you factor in additional costs that working requires, such as wardrobe, lunches, childcare, convenience foods and other types of conveniences you use when you are lacking in time. A lot of expenses can be eliminated or cut back if you look at every penny you are spending and evaluate it ruthlessly. You can even do something as drastic as changing your housing situation. There are ways to do it if you make the choice. It can seem terrifying, but I think a lot of the emotion that you are experiencing is because of the conflict between what you desire and what you are doing. Eliminating that conflict and putting your energy and creativity into determining what you need to do to make the choice you want to take will take that burden away from you. There are a lot of online resources for frugal living. Two are www.mommysavers.com and www.miserlymoms.com. The book Miserly Moms is also very helpful, as it is written by a woman who figured out how to stay at home with her children in a very expensive area of the country. There are also options to work from home, such as home day care, cleaning houses, home-based businesses...
So I guess I am writing to say that yes, there is hope! :)You can do it. I stay home with my three children (and have through a variety of financial situations, living arrangements, etc) and there is nothing that could take me away from them. :) You sound like a wonderful mom.
Blessings,
T.

C.,
I feel your pain. There was nothing I wanted more than to stay home with my kids. My son is 3 1/2 and my daughter just turned 1. I was lucky to stay home with my son until he was about 2. Then after my daughter was born, I never went back to work. After almost a year, I started to get stir crazy for sure. I had remembered an at home party I'd been to. It was a blast and something I needed...adult FUN and interaction. So I'm now an Independent Consultant with a Romance company. I make 50% commission and have a lot of fun at what I do. It's given my confidence level a boost for sure. If you'd like to know more, let me know....if not, that's fine, just thought I'd let you know I understand...and you're not alone. My website is www.partytimepleasures.com

Hey C.,
I recently started doing internet marketing from home and its great!! I am able to show other stay at home moms how they can make lots of money working just a few hours a day from home. Check out my website and see if this automated cash system is for you. There is a one time investment of only $60.00, and you can easily make from $40 to $400 DAILY from the comfort of your home. Here's the link to my site, let me know what you think:

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I can't relate to your feelings except for the times that I have had to leave my babies such as when my first was born and had to be put under a light just 1 day after bringing him home and had a week stay and my aunt offered to sit with him while I went home for a night and got some rest since I haden't since giving birth to him and before I got to the parking lot I was in tears and just wanted to run back in to ease the guilt I felt about leaving him there with an unfamilar face and wondering if he would want the comfort of mommy there.And then again with my second who was born with pnemonia in the lungs and he had to stay 4 days longer while I had to go home to take care of my oldest.It was really hard being wheeled out holding a car seat with no baby in it at that emotional time.So I understand the guilt and anic u must feel knowing your losing valueable time with him.Thankfully I have been able to sit home with both my children since my first childs birth.But I do long for a job or something that makes me something other than a mom,but I have to make that sacrafice so that we don't have to spend money we need on childcare.All I know to say is if it's something you wan't to change then find another job or make the most of the time you do get with him and know he thinks no less of you.