S.H. asks from North Charleston, SC on May 01, 2007
Learning to Walk
Hello! I know I have asked about this before, but it's really starting to stress me out. I feel like my husband and I might be doing something wrong. My son is 16 months now and is still not walking. I absolutely believe that he has the ability to but for some reason he has no interest in it. He will push a walker. He will walk if you hold his hands and help him. But the moment you let go, he is back to crawling. He can climb on things. He gets on and off the sofa by himself. People have told me to keep working with him. Others say to just leave him alone all together. He'll walk when he's ready. I feel like such a failure as a mom. He hasn't had any problems developmentally. If any one has any tricks or advice, I would really appreciate it.
So What Happened?™
Thank you all so much for your advise and responses! Dayne finally took his first steps this weekend. We finally just left him alone and let him do his own thing. It was like a light came on and he just got up and walked!
O.S. answers from Charlotte on May 02, 2007
my son 17 months just started walking about a month and a half ago so no big deal which i thought it was because of his size hes a big boy but it has came to my attention that all kids are different no matter there size or shape and try the ball thing my son started walking by me bouncing his favorite ball and backing away from him with it good luck
T.E. answers from Asheville on May 01, 2007
My brother did not start walking untill he was 18 months and so did one of my good friends and they are both just great. I am envious of you ;) my son started running at 11 months, and I cant have a minute to sit down untill he goes to sleep. sigh. If you have talked to his pediatrician and they are not worried, I would not worry. It is in no way a reflection on you as a mom! He just is not ready to take those steps on his own. There really is no trick other than what your doing already.
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S.J. answers from Greensboro on May 01, 2007
I wouldn't worry about if you're talked to the pediatrician. One thing my hubby and I did was sit on the floor across from each other. We made it a game for our boys. each tie he walked from one to the other we made a big deal, clapping cheering him on. Then we'd move a bit further apart each time. It became a game all three of my boys loved to play. Don't stress, your lil' one can sense that.
S. L Jaskolski
A.M. answers from Greensboro on May 02, 2007
I didn't walk until I was two. My mom wasn't overly concerned bc she knew I was able, just didn't want to. I don't know that I would worry yet, esp since he pushes walkers, holds your hands etc. He might just be cautious. As long as he is putting weight on his legs and taking steps one at a time, holding on, I think he is probably fine. Call your ped to put your mind at ease.
B.L. answers from Greenville on May 02, 2007
I am not sure if this will help but what I am about to tell you has been told to me throught the years of my life, some of you may think it is funny ( I sure did ) but here it is ..
My Older Brother was a Twin born 2nd and he did not walk til he was allmost 2 years old.. the Doctor (a very old home remedy type of doctor).. told my Mom to hang his toys out of his reach to where he will have to stand and get them.. it will take awhile but he will start getting up and he will walk.. my Mom told me it took about a month or so but it worked.. I do hope this will help and if you need to know more about it feel free to e-mail me... B.
S.B. answers from Charleston on May 01, 2007
Don't worry! I have 4 kids who are all very smart and all started walking between 15-17 months. I was glad...as soon as they're mobile you'll be racing around after him. Also, there is some research supporting a link between reading skills and crawling. Supposedly the longer they crawl, it positively affects their ability to read later. Be grateful for the extra time crawling. He will just one day start preferring to walk, but right now he feels okay with getting places by crawling. There are exercises you can do to help it, but I never did them because they kind of just decide on their own. If you want, line up your kitchen chairs in a row, spaced a bit so he can start at one end and "walk" with help to the other end....place a toy on the end chair. space the chairs further every few days. You're not a failure...now relax! If he's 2 and still not walking, consult your doctor then.
A.P. answers from Norfolk on May 02, 2007
My daughter didn't walk until she was 18 1/2 months old. She pulled herself up, stood and cruised around holding onto things. She had some nasty spills when she first pulled herself up at 13 months, so that made her a bit more cautious (of course, my back was turned when she fell, so I don't know what happened, just the aftermath). We think she just wanted to be able to walk perfectly and not do so much falling down. The week before she walked on her own, she would take a few independent steps into our arms from a piece of furniture. Then she just stood up and walked on January 13, 2005 (9:30 am) She was an early talker, too. I agree that kids focus on one thing at a time, either they walk early or they talk early. Now she sounds like a 10 year old when she speaks with you.
Hope this helps. I worried, too, but only because my feet turned out when I was a baby and I was concerned that she would have the same problem, but she doesn't.
L.M. answers from Charleston on May 04, 2007
My doctor recommended not using a walker. She said that it teaches little ones to lean forward when walking. If you take away the walker they will fall down if they use the same posture. I would get rid of it.
Oh, also, fyi, Einstein didn't walk until he was 2! You are doing great and all kids are different :)
N.B. answers from Spartanburg on May 02, 2007
Hi, My son had zero interest in walking until he was 14 months old. He wouldn't even push a walker much! But once he did, he never fell. He is now nearly three. He is still very cautious about physical things like slides, swings....
He was an early talker though. By 17 months he was using three word sentences. He has never referred to himself in the third person. We like to think he was just saving up his energy for early mental advances over the physical.
I hope this was somewhat comforting! N.