S.C. asks from Des Moines, IA on July 06, 2009
Late Talker? - Des Moines,IA
My son will be 18 months in a coupe of weeks. And he does NOT talk! He'll occaisionally say Mama, but that's it. He is VERY verbal-- he just speaks "Isaac-ese" instead of English. so I know he can make all the neccessary sounds. I'm pretty convinced he CAN talk, he just WON'T. Every now and then he parrots a word (even hard one's, like "hilarious" or phrases like "excuse me") I was talking to my StepMom yesterday and she agrees that he CAN talk too, but usually doesn't-- she says if she goes to the bath room and shuts the door he'll yell "Grandma" clear as a bell, but he refuses to say it otherwise! She says that he gets everything he wants without talking, so he doesn't see the need to bother. And he DEFINITELY UNDERSTANDS everything that's said to him!
This is typical of his pattern of development-- I KNEW he could roll over for weeks before he actually did it, then he one night he just rolled and rolled (he was to busy trying to crawl to bother rolling before then) and I KNEW he could walk for MONTHS before he'd take more than 5 steps at a time, then one day I went to pick him up from my Dad and StepMom and he came RUNNING to the door, and he's been running ever since. So I'm kind of convinced that someday soon, he will just start spouting off complete sentences, but in the meantime I'm getting a little frustrated!
C.D. answers from La Crosse on July 07, 2009
S., don't worry. He is still very very young to be speaking. Both of my children didn't speak much their first couple years and then one day when they were about 3 or 3 1/2 they just started speaking whole sentences. Don't let anyone make you doubt him, he sounds quite normal and so smart to have developed his own style of language!
C.S. answers from Minneapolis on July 07, 2009
M.N. answers from Madison on July 07, 2009
He is more than likely fine. My son was a late talker too. He was signing more than talking up until just last week. He just started going through a vocabulary explosion in the last few days and he is almost 21 months old. I wouldn't worry too much for the next few months. My little guy is definitely becoming a "parrot" right now.
H.P. answers from Milwaukee on July 07, 2009
My son didn't really speak until 22-24 months. He is now 7. But by age 4hehad an extensive vocabulary and is extremely articulate. I just wanted to share because sometimes there is nothing wrong, it's just the kid's development and it's normal. I think my dr did indicate we would talk about it after he was 2.
M.J. answers from Green Bay on July 07, 2009
What you need to do when you want him to say a certain word like thank you or any thing just keep saying it before you give him what he wants . If you know he can talk and he says words just work with him . I work in daycare and we start very young with just repeating a word like thank you when we give them some thing a toy a snack . Or please when we want some thing . I know it may seem like you say it a million times but when they say it is worth it . I think in any given day I may say please and thank you a million times . Any one who talks to him have them do the same . If Grandma wants him to say grandma have her say her name when he wants her . It works . I did it with both my kids I would just sit and talk to them and they picked up on it fast they were both early talkers because I would talk to them all the time .
A.F. answers from St. Cloud on July 06, 2009
Hi S.! I don't think you have anything to worry about. My son didn't REALLY talk until he was 2 years old. He started by speaking in full sentences and never stopped. By the time he was 3 he had a better vocab and enunciation than some adults.
Our theory is that he didn't actually need to speak. We anticipated everything he needed before he had to ask. By comparison, our daughter spoke excellent full sentences by age 11 months. Every child is so different! I believe your instinct is correct. Soon your little one will be talking so much that you'll wonder why you worried! :)
K.B. answers from Duluth on July 07, 2009
I completely know where you're coming from. My son had maybe a couple words at 18 months, and his pediatrician told me if he wasn't talking more soon we could start considering speech therapy, etc. I was also pretty convinced he'd just up and start talking, so I decided to wait until he was two to worry about it. And sure enough, by the time his two year appointment rolled around, we couldn't even count how many words he could say. I totally know how frustrating it is - but hang in there. My son has been the same way with all of these milestones: a lesson in patience. :)
K.S. answers from Cedar Rapids on July 07, 2009
I am 100% on your level ... but I really am not too worried myself. (altho my MIL is very freaked out by it because her son spoke a billion words at 18 months)
But I have a question kind of along those lines ... my son knows a ton of sign language words. So whenever he wants something he'll just sign it ... do moms out there think that this is still ok? I feel like there is a lot of pressure about baby talking. But is signing acceptable as the same thing? My boy doesn't even say hi or bye or yes or no ... he just knows it all by signing. Should I be worried either?
K.C. answers from Madison on July 07, 2009
See if you can get your pediatrician to refer you to
Birth - 3 for an assessment. It doesn't cost anything and will give you peace of mind. I wish I had done it much sooner.
D.D. answers from Madison on July 07, 2009
Have patience. His time will come when he spaeks very well. My 3 1/2 yr old was the same way and now he talks amazingly. My 19 month old is also the same way and he become a great mimmicker, also. Children do what they want, when they want.
B.J. answers from Rochester on July 07, 2009
My fist was just like this as well. I was so worried about what he could and could not do. Now I know that they do things on THEIR time. My son now 5 never stops talking, but when he was little he would grunt or wine or point and we let him get away with it. When he was 2 we said enough was enough and we would not give him what he wanted unless he said the word. He pointed at the milk so I gave him juice. He was mad at first and then just gave up and suddenly all these words came out!!! don't worrie he will talk soon!