Kindergartener Still Crying After 5Th Week of School

My son did this most of preschool and his 1st year of kindergarten (he did 2 years)!!! Same thing, teacher said he was fine after about 5 minutes! As sad as it is, they know right where to get to mommy! School was hard for my son, so I think it was a bit of anxiety for him, especially if it was computer day (he is a lefty and had more problems with the mouse than the others, it was set up on the wrong side of the computer for him) Just talk to her every morning before shcool about how much fun she will have, how lucky she is to be able to go see her friends and (my son loved this one...) I need you to go learn new things so you an come home and TEACH ME!!! Then when I picked him up I would ask him what he is goig to tech me today, who he played with ..ect.... It helped a little bit! GOOD LUCK I PROMISE IT GETS better!!!

Trust the teacher. And tell your daughter, "yes, and I will miss you too."

We rarely have any days like this, but about 2 weeks ago, she came running after me (she's in 1st grade this year) crying becasue I didnt say goodbye to her (i actually did). I gave her a hug and kiss and told her she would be okay, then I took her over to her teacher on the playground and gave another hug and said goodbye and left her with her teacher. About 20 min after I got home, I recieved a call from the school, she was in the office crying because she didnt get to say goodbye (?!?). Everyday since then, she wants me to say goodbye three times. So we now have a routine, drop off her stuff in her class and walk out to the playground, say "goodbye, goodbye, goodbye" a hug and a kiss, and an I love you, be good. Then I hand her off to her teacher, and she is happy as a clam.

Your little one is still adjusting, perhaps making a routine, a funny saying, or handing off to a teacher is what she needs right now. It does get easier!

L.

this is normal for some kids. i think what would help is sitting with her and writing out her day so she can see what to expect. maybe start with: (you could put times but i'm not sure that is necessary)

1. wake up
2. eat breakfast
3 get ready for school
4. mommy drives me to school
5. have a fun day at school (let her fill in what she might do at school)
6. mommy picks me up from school
7. come home and have snack
or whatever you might do..errands, park, nap, etc.

then whe she does get to school maybe having a certain thing she does every morning to ease her into it all. a certain activity or friend she can hook up right away. it has only been a month and eventually you will see her get more at ease, especially when she makes some friends. i was a teacher and have seen this all too many times! good luck :)

Oh, this must be so hard for you! It is heartbreaking when your kids do this, I know. I really think that since the teacher says your daughter is just fine after a few minutes, that your daughter is just really attached to you. I imagine that since you are a stay at home mom, maybe your daughter is just not used to being away from you all day. It will take time, but she will get used to being in school, and I bet within a few weeks she will start looking forward to going to school (and then you will be sad when your little one runs off to see her friends and forgets to give you a hug goodbye! I speak from experience on that one! =) Hang in there, it will get better. Rome wasn't built in a day, and some kids have a harder time than others getting used to a new situation.

Hmmm. Well, can someone else drop her off? Like carpooling with a friend/classmate/neighbor? Sometimes that helps.

Or, can she work toward so many consecutive days of no morining crying episodes to earn some reward? Doesn't have to be anything pricey - could be a picnic lunch at the park, her choice of play time with parent(s), etc.

Sounds like she pulls it together though, so that is great. It takes time, be patient and consistent. Best wishes.

My niece had a really hard time with this and it turns out she was super jealous that her two little sisters were home with mommy while she had to go to school and "work". They made sure she got special one on one time with mommy on Saturday morning. They made a really big deal out of it, even if it was just going grocery shopping or running errands. This helped tremendously. The other thing they did was give her a locket with a picture of her parents in it so that she could look at it when she felt sad. I don't know if it was just getting a new piece of jewelery or what, but it seemed to help too. My other suggestion is that there is a really good book called "The Kissing Hand" that deals with separating from mommy to go to school that is very sweet. My son was super nervous about starting preschool and this book seemed to help. He asked for the kissing hand each day before school for about a month, and then he said he had enough kisses saved up that he didn't need it anymore. Lastly, stay positive. Kids are really intuitive and if you are anxious about the separation since you know it is going to be stressful on you if she cries, she is going to act upset since she is feeling that energy from you. Plaster a big smile, talk in a higher pitched upbeat voice, and reassure her you will be back to pick her up at whatever time. Maybe even getting her a watch and showing her on the watch what time you will be picking her up may help.

Hello,
My daughter is going through a similar problem. She was fine in preschool but has been crying at Kindergarten. Due to our schedules my husband drops her off in the morning & it breaks his heart. I know she has fun at school & in a few minutes she is also fine. She is an only child & I work part-time so she is used to being with Mommy a lot. I really liked the advice one of the other Moms said about a locket & the book "The Kissing Hand". Our little ones go through different phases in their life & I hope this is just one of them that will pass quickly. As mom's we feel everything so deeply. Good luck

I am a teacher and have a student who just started crying every morning this week. Her mom and I both have spoken with her and she just really misses her mom. She used to stay home with her mom and worries about whose going to run errands with her etc. Just keep reassuring her and maybe see if sending a picture of you to keep in her cubby would help.