Kids - Port Orange,FL

Dear K.,
I'm not sure where you live, but if you are in Broward County, please contact the Crysalis Center, they can help and are very good at it! The ph. # is: ###-###-####; explain your situation; and I am positive that they can help your daughter & your family!!! They helped mine and it is like night and day! God bless you all! You are in our prayers!!!
Sincerely,
Kathy N.

I'm sure you both have a medical support team (group of doctors that you see.) Talk to them. Find out what they would recommend... surely there are behavior modification and coping strategies...? It sounds like you are frustrated. Best wishes for the new year.

First of all i am a mother that has raised four kids and i cannot say that i know what you are dealing with, but first of all remember she is the child and you are the mother. Sometime before we act we need to take a deep breath to get that inner strength for what we are about to deal with. Do your daughter get counseling along with yourself and also what is the doctor adviseing you about her situation. Sometime anger can come from that child just needing to be loved on more, but not having her way or trying to control you. I mean i could say so much more but i guess it is a matter of what is being treated and not treated. And also her age. I will pray for you and your daughter for peace and understanding always.

Honey, Stephanie has the right idea. Look, if she has been diagnosed as bipolar and depressive, she is mentally ill. I agree completely that diet is a huge component, but you still have to address the fact that she is mentally ill. Getting her diet straight will not magically fix the messed-up chemicals in her brain, that are in part likely hereditary. It will help, and it is worth doing for her health, because stabilizing her blood sugar and other bodily functions will help with her mental state, as it may reduce or eliminate some of her triggers, but her mental illness is not a result of diet.
Stephanie is right. She is manipulating you by saying, don't you dare punish me because I can do what I want and if you stop me you are ruining my life. You were in a hospital and now you have a family; what did the mental hospital do for you? Didn't ruin your life.
I just read an account by a father of his daughter's struggle with acute psychosis (Hurry Down Sunshine). The mental hospital was the only answer for her for a while. She did get through it, with medication and help. Your daughter can get through this, with help certainly, and medication if necessary, but I have to say it sounds likely.
If she has an acute episode and she is out of control, the ERs will take her, and believe me they've seen it before. If the ER sends her to a mental hospital she in all likelihood belongs there. Work with the doctors and find one you trust and it may be a long hard road but I believe you can come out on the other side.

i think you should handol her with care. If she is angry be the to go person for her to rely on and try to calm her down by letting her know eevrything will be okay. If she is sad talk to her cheer her up have a night in with your daughter go shopping and try to get her mind off of things. thats what i would do anyway. If you were in her situation what would you do or how would you feel if your mother told you, you had to go to a mental hospital? I bet you wouldn't feel all that great. im all about natural remedies. pills is like drugs and who likes knowing there is something wrong with them and not normal? god created us all differently for a reason we're all unique, she's unique. There might be a blessing behind it you just don't see it. Any who there is a calm tea Publix sells. you might want to try that if she's too upbeat...just try to find natural ways for her but the best way is to be a loving mother to her and instead of sympathizing with her help her beat it, so she takes control of it and it wont take control of her. i wish you and your family the best. take care.

You don't say how old your daughter is however, she seems to be old enough to have pretty serious conversations with you. If she has these diagnoses then I am assuming she is under professional care. They should be able to tell you where she should be taken during a breakdown. Any ER will do in a crisis. There is also Central Florida Behavioral near Sea World. As far as her telling you not to take her to the mental hospital please remember, she is NOT the one who should be calling the shots. You are. Sounds like what she is saying is the equivalent of "I will act out all I want and don't you dare punish me or ruining my life is all your fault." Taking her for help when she is out of control is not punishment. She is just going to have to accept that her own behavior is what brings the consequence, not you. Good luck, sounds like you have your hands full.

K.
I would suggest going to therapy with your daughter and ask the therapist to help you with discipline.

Nutrition- please start with nutrition- if you are missing some or all of you b vits you can act what has been called all kinds of crazy-
isn't it a terrible waste to go the so called "mental health route" when what is needed is to supply the vits and minerals that are missing from agri business food.
The business model is to make their product last as long as possible- taking the things that go bad out of the product increases the shelf life- unfortunately then those products are no longer supporting life.
Then we give drugs to cover up what is a nutritional lack.
What is needed is to give the body what it needs to work and see what happens when that normalizes the body-
If you would like some help send me a message, and I;ll give you some wonderful places to start.k

I was wondering, how do you know that your daughter is bypolar and depressed?
What are the signs of bypolar in a child? Does it run in your family?

I guess for me I would need to try to work with my child 24/7 to make sure that he or she does
not end up hurting themself or others.

If you tell the doctor about it then they might think that you are unable to help
your child the way that they want you too. Because to them they might think that it is best for her to go to the mental hosp.

You said that you went to one when you was younger. How did you feel towards your parents, when they sent you away?

I wish you the best.
God bless you and your famly.

Wow...you have quite the situation. My advice (based on personal experience) would be most definitely to avoid a mental hospital. I got stuck in one when I attempted suicide in my early teens, and they are definitely traumatizing. People who don't know what it's like think of white gowns and quiet therapies, but if you've been to one, you know it's nothing close to that. She will end up being scarred for life. Is she on medication? If not, then she probably needs to be. If she is on one, then maybe you should try a different one. I'm bipolar, and I can tell you first hand that it can't be cured with herbal tea or cutting out sugar. It's a serious disorder that needs to be addressed. My advice to you would be to find a child PSYCHIATRIST (psychologists can't prescribe meds) and get her on a medication, or most likely a combination of medications, that will help her. Best of luck to you and to your daughter. You have a rough road ahead.

How old is she? Try homeopathy. Look for a homeopathic doctor in your area. Here in Tallahassee it's Dr. Jensen. The medicines have no side effects and can help curb issues with physical health as well as behavior. Another thing that helps people emotionally is diet. White flour, refined sugar, food dyes, preservatives and possibly dairy foods exacerbate a lot of behavior issues. More whole foods and things cooked from scratch can help. I know the average American resists healthy food. you and your daughter have to want to keep her even-keeled and out of a facility. It's a good motivator for the whole family to make healthy choices.
My sister is bipolar. We did not know until she was around 30. Before that we just thought she was intense (to say the least). Anyway, it all makes sense now. Many bipolar people I know have gifts--they are gifted healers or even have psychic gifts. Also they may have artistic talents. Encourage her to find outlets through music, poetry, painting, etc.
Your daughter might also benefit from yoga or martial arts or meditation. Something that trains the mind and promotes body awareness. Even long deep breathing can quiet the mind. Good luck.

if they get her on the right meds she will not have to be hospitalized explain that to her. tell her bi-polar is another name for manic depression and she needs meds and when she takes the faithfully and theya re the right ones she will be ok. in the mean time remember that she is truely sick and sometimes can not help the angry things she does. my son has it and it is very hard to deal with. good luck.