It is interesting that you would post this after my day yesterday. :)
I don't have an answer for you unfortunately but here is what I experienced.
Our church offers "sunday school" for the kids DURING the service. Therefore, my kids NEVER sit in church. My daughter has come to the beginning of the service for worship but then goes back into her class.
Yesterday was family day and ALL the kids were in the service. It was quite the loud service. It seems as though NONE of the kids know how to act/behave in church.
While I understand the scheduling with them going when we go, I think they need to learn how to sit quietly, listen and pray. It was very difficult for them yesterday.
And it takes away from the whole experience for me. I don't remember half of the sermon from yesterday. :(
I am going to read some of the responses - thanks for posting such a great question! I appreciate it.