i think a lot of us have had that one experience or situation where hubby or wife did or said something that let you really know how much they care without them saying it. mine is kind of a series of things but all related. i have been sick lately and have been to the doctor probably about 12 times in the past 2 months, and a 4 day hospital stay in the mix. well, i've had an ear infection for the past week or so and last night it was super bad. on top of the constant pain i was having those really bad/sharp shooting pains. it woke my up crying and my hubby, who normally sleeps like the dead, woke right up and was holding me and rubbing my head, even shushing me like a baby, LOL...he got really scared because i was all curled into a ball and having a hard time trying to not wake up all the kids. he started to kind of panic and he jumped out of bed and said, "thats it, i'm calling 911 you need to go to the hospital!!!" I had to try to calm him down so he didnt call for the ambulance. i got him back in bed and told him to just hold me and help me calm down because it hurts worse when i get really upset. so he did and he told me he was so scared and he didnt know what to do. then tonight on the phone he asked if my ears were going to hurt that bad again tonight because he is scared for me because he doesnt know what to do. just they way he was so concerned and how he just held me really let me know how much he loves me. what is your story??? anything your SO does to let you know without having to just say i love you?
to Erin: I think a lot of times it is the little things that count!!!! i love your story!! Congrats on the baby and I hope you get to feeling better soon!
Marla Amanda and Dawn,,,awwwwww!!!!!!!!!
For my birthday last week he took a vase and put in little wads of paper and each one is something that he loves about me. When I need a pick me up I can pull one out and know that he loves me. I think it was the most thoughtful, personal, and wonderful present I have ever gotten.
I'm 21 weeks pregnant and haven't been feeling well lately. My dad called early this morning unexpectedly to say he was on his way over to our house, (long story) which wasn't very clean today! My dad is very judgemental about messy houses. I was starting to panic when I came out of my room to find my husband and my kids frantically picking up toys and vacuuming. I know it doesn't sound like much, but it really meant a lot to me that he knew I wasn't feeling well and took the initiative to clean up, when I usually tell him I'll take care of it. I don't really mind doing all the housework because he works very hard at his job, but he has really stepped up and started helping since I started not feeling well, without even being asked to. He also put away all the groceries today while I was in the bathroom without me asking him to. Doing little things can be so helpful and it makes me feel really loved.
It's nice to see a post about the good things our SO's do, usually they're about the bad things they do. :-)
Well, here's my attempt at a list:
• He loves me unconditionally, warts and all!
• He supports my decisions and actions that allow me to grow as a person.
• He busts hump to provide for our family and never thinks twice about it.
• He supports my desire to work PT, even though ANYONE can use extra $!
• He has a sense of "flow" about what needs to be done when (dinner, laundry) and jumps in when needed, mostly without being asked.
• He will stay in the pool for an hour with my son, so I can finish my book.
• He never scrutinizes my spending or purchases, he trusts that I don't hose money away.
So....maybe because I'm 47 and have been married nearly 15 years, those things are more important to me than a foot rub or holding my hair while I puke--although he has done those as well! :)
he tells me he loves me everyday, even if its just a text after a long hard night of work (he works offshore) He is very obvious of his high opinion of me and stands up for me if need be. hes a very generous lover and father and husband by making sure i dont want for anything and that i can have peace of mind. He works very hard to accomplish that.
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He lives this new life we built everyday. He used to be a heavy drinker and smoked pot, he hasn't touched a cigarette or pot in 7 years, we both drink VERY occasionally (we could have a 4 pack of Boddingtons in the fridge for 3 months, lol). That, and working as hard as he does, his dependability, his trust for me, coming home in the evening and being involved with the kids and then still finding some time to hang with me and have FUN, being involved instead of hunching in front of the TV-that shows me that I'm worth it.....that he loves us in a big way. That, to me, is very cool. He supports me when I want to do something but am a little scared of it (like going to school, or relearning math that I haven't used in decades, or whatever). But as for little things he might do.....I love how if I'm feeling fried or have had a hard week, he'll say "Hey----you go get a pedicure or massage, hide in the library (something I like to do)...I'm going to take the boys off your hands this afternoon". He sometimes brings me flowers or a card, sometimes writes me a little note or a poem, or he may bring home a coke (I love coke but don't keep them in my house because I might accidentally drink 6 in a day). I like how if we're watching our show together, he'll absentmindedly grab my foot to massage it, or stroke my hair. Also, every evening when he's leaving work he calls and says "Do you want me to pick up anything on my way home?" so that I don't have to make a 6pm run to the store with the boys, just for milk or whatever. We're big on teamwork. Those are nice ways to show me he loves me. He's groovy. :)
He does things all the time for me and the kids. He randomly brings me flowers and buys me jewlery. He works hard every single day and is determined we will be "millionaires" one day...and I believe him! He does anything that needs to be done around the house, I don't ever have to ask, and in fact, I think he does way more than I do! After a long day at work he will come home and immediately play with the kids, no down time for him at all! He never goes out with "the boys", he doesn't drink, spend excess money or in any way disrespect me or the kids. He tells me all the time I'm beautiful, even if I'm wearing my robe with my messy hair and no makeup. and he asks me all the time how I'm doing and if I need anything. And I KNOW that if I tell him I need anything, he will do anything to get it for me. So I don't really recall any BIG thing hes done, but so many daily things that really matter the most. =)
My husband is a great guy as well!! He usually does most of the grocery shopping on his way home from work. He says "that way you don't have to" which is great for me!! He also goes jogging when he wakes up, and will come home from running 5-10 miles and will start picking up the house, paying the bills, or starting dinner. He does that before he gets a drink of water!! haha He is a very hard worker, and I appreciate him so much!! Great question!
