hi mamas, just something i have been thinking about. my son is 4 1/2, and (i hope) nowhere near me needing to worry about this, but he has always had a head of very cute curls (not ringlets, but i keep it kind of long and he has kind of straight bangs but then the sides and back are longer and curly, kind of like the popular styles right now) and he has always gotten compliments on his hair. of course there are the men in our lives who swear he needs a "high and tight" or a buzzcut, and i am refusing to even consider that. but i wonder will there come a time when he gets older that i will feel "it's time"? or if he really puts his foot down some day and wants it all off....
i truly think little boys hair long is adorable...and he is a "sweet" boy, not a "butch" boy. (please, no one take offense at those terms, you know what i mean!) i am afraid of the day all his hair goes away- i think i have set myself up for heartache down the line...! lol! anyone gone through this? did you survive or is your heart in tatters!? :) thanks as always...
Enjoy this time as it will probably be the last you will get to really decide how it looks! My boys each had strong ideas of what they wanted as soon as they hit first grade. One has long and the other a buzz. Hair is not a battle that I wish to fight with kids...I let them have it how they like it.
my boys are High and Tight kinda boys - rough and tumble - yet good boys...each child is different...at this point - my boys don't like their hair touching their ears and tell us when they need a hair cut...
I personally don't like boys with long hair (by long I mean middle of the back or lower)...yes, there are some MEN who can carry it off and do it well...
If it gets in his eyes or in his way - then it's time to be cut...
GOOD LUCK!!
If my sons had that hair I would do the same, leave it longer. I call it "hockey hair" My brother always had curly hair and left it a little longer. So far both of my sons have pin straight hair and they just look shaggy when it gets too long so I have to keep it cleaned up often. I don't buzz cut it though. Their faces are too round :)
I cut my son's hair when he was six months old:-) I really like the trim look on boys. The current hair style that I see many have (70's looking) is one of my least favorite styles. It doesn't mean I think boys have to have buzz cuts, but I definitely like a clean shaven head on a boy.
Recently my son (4 years) had his hair longer on top so he could do a messy look, and it was shorter on the sides - not buzzed, but it was definitely shorter. He likes to wear it all sticking up and messy...a little like Ryan Seacrest maybe, only longer on top?
I haven't felt the same as you about little boys and long hair. It's never been something I have had a desire to do, and honestly, when I see little boys with longer hair, I want to shave it off (hehe...and I don't mean that insultingly to you!). But I do have friends who have done the same as you, and some of them cried when they cut their son's hair. I think it can be a rather emotional thing for some moms!
My hubby had long locks as a little boy. Probably up to age 3-4 or something. It looked too girlie on him. Very pretty hair, but it wasn't a boy hairstyle. He hated it (not then, but looking back on it) and very strongly wanted our boy to have a very definite boy hair style. His mom LOVED his hair like that, though. It sounds much girlier than your son's hair.
I find that I think my son looks cute no matter what his hair looks like. So, while you might feel sad when his hair is gone, I think you'll enjoy (on some level) seeing whatever he ends up looking like with the new hair. But for you it might also mark the passage of his baby years, and that itself can be quite emotional.
Eh, I didn't cut my son's hair until he was almost three - much to the chagrin of everyone in my family. LOL
Then he got the traditional boys cut - never a high and tight or a buzz though. When he hit 4th grade he decided he wanted to grow his hair - he didn't like the "boys" cut. He got occasionally trims, but by 6th his hair was pretty much shoulder length with long bangs that blended in. He had a moment of what I call hair insanity, in 6th, and had it all cut off again, and regretted it almost immediately.
He is now going into 10th, his hair is still shoulder length with long bangs, and he now plans to keep growing it. He has embraced his natural curls, and given up the flat iron (thank goodness) and likes the modified "hippie" look that he has. Also, he has to either cut it short enough to fit under his band hat, or have it long enough to pull into a ponytail and stuff under the band hat. He opted for long enough. LOL
Personally, as long as he keeps it clean and groomed I don't really care how he wears his hair. He has so few options, in school, for personal expression, that I encourage him to grow it.
I for one, ( I have a son), DO NOT EVER BELIEVE THAT A BOY has to have a Buzz cut or "high and tight" hair.
UGH!
I don't know WHY on earth, some think boys have to have, that kind of hair!
I think, it is really, ugly for one, and these are just kids... boys.
My son has really nice thick hair... and it was long for a long time.
But from about 4 years old, my Husband decided to take him to the Barber. So he has a boy cut now... but no way, a buzz cut nor a high and tight hair style. I told my Husband, NO buzz cuts on our son. My son likes his hair. So that it the main thing.
It is really cute.
It is longer type layers. But not all short short.
I think my son has adorable hair and I will not go SHORT! He is 5 and actually likes his hair just the way it is. My husband is an officer/paramedic and has a bald head and always jokes with our son and says "You want your hair like daddy's?"... When he decides he wants it cut...then you can cross that bridge! :D I say love it while you can!!!
My son had curls.... I couldn't bear to cut them! I would wash his hair, brush it out, and it would be wavy.... 1/2 hour later, it would be sausage curls! Of course, the boy got the curls... the 3 girls just got their daddy's dead straight hair.
I finally cut it at 2 1/2 ..... got too many comments on how cute "she" was......
He still prefers it long and shaggy.... it never looks neat, but he prefers the longer hair. Unfortunately, the place he was working required him to cut it, (last August) so he did. He is 19 now. He actually has been at a different job and has let it grow out now, but he will be home in a couple of weeks and may have to get it cut again. Oh, well.
I am with you on this! I love a little boy's hair being a bit on the longer side. In my opinion, boys have a lifetime of looking like a grown-up man, why do it when they're little? I hate buzz cuts on toddlers/preschoolers, but a 10 year old - OK, I get it. It's also why I can't dress my little boy in button down shirts and pants - too business like for a 4 year old in my opinion!
There is no haircut that your son "has" to have! Do what looks best for his hair type and face, and what's easiest for you to maintain. And at 4 1/2, he probably has some opinion of what he'd like as well. I personally don't love really long hair on a boy, but that's my personal opinion and it should have no bearing on your son's hair.
My son is practically bald but the little hair he does have is getting super curly in the back, and it's adorable. No way I'd cut that off! I know a baby with much more hair, all of it curly, and it is CUTE. I'd yell at his parents if they buzzed it!
My friend's son is going on 11 and has had the same "surfer shag" type hair style since he was little - so I think there are styles that can be worn long and still look "cool". My stepson had adorable curls as a toddler but his mom eventually decided to cut them cut (I think he was between 2 and 3) because she was getting tired of everyone saying what a "cute little girl" he was - as he was wearing denim overalls, a dinosaur shirt and work-style boots.
I guess you can either figure out a way for him to wear the hair without looking too "feminine" - or once he starts school, he may decide he wants his hair to be like the other boys that have short hair and then it will be about honoring his voice in the matter.
