Part 2 - I know that I need to call social services and have that number, I guess part of the problem is that if I call, they are going to know who is was that informed social services. I am afraid since they are not from here, that is how they would know. He is violent and I can speculate that he is abusive, I am afraid of retaliation. How will this work with social services???? Part I - I run a daycare. I have a 23 month old girl that I have concerns about. She is constantly laying on top (and positioning) her doll. I have learned that her father is an alcoholic and that he has destroyed their apartment on one occasion. She arrives at my home normally about 10:30am and always seems sleepy and hungry. Should I call social services, I don't want to be paranoid but I don't want this to slip through the cracks either.
I have gotten the advice from several different sources (therapist, teacher, etc.) I am trying to get my nerve up. (I am worried about retaliation.)
Legally, if you think there is a situation where a child is being abused, you have to report it to DCFS (child protections services). They'll take your call anonymously if you want it so.
Although at 4, children can have masturbatory behavior that's considered normal, having the doll as part of the behavior doesn't sound right. She may be trying to act out something that's happening at home or to her.
I would not think behavior like this is normal but that is just me. I babysat for a while some time ago and had a little girl who was sexually abused. If nothing else they can get some servics in the home for the family. They usually do not eove children, at least in Indiana, unless it is a dangerous situation.
I would call the numbers Elizabeth gave you! Maybe they can offer you suggestions. Or tell you other signs to look for. If you try talking to the little girl keep in mind she's not just going to blurt out ... this is whats happening to me. She'll probably be shy or embarrased about saying anything or worse case someone might be telling her not to say anything. You'll have to ask a lot of questions she can answer yes or no to. Get more help! Good luck!
I wish I could help, but I'm just guessing here. Do you know who the girl's pediatrician is? Can you call there? Maybe they can help you. Do you have a medical power of attorney in case there's a minor accident while she's at your house that requires a doctor? If not, maybe you could ask for one as a way to find out who her pediatrician is? You are doing the right thing. Sorry I can't be more helpful.
At this age children are in to their sexual discovery, but you are right if you have concerns document it and also talk to her about what she is doing and why, if you see her acting out with another child, talk to her and if she trusts you she will be able to tell you something, if it doesn't happen ( no other signs occur) she is just discovering, but their is nothing wrong with you discussing what you deem appropriate within your daycare. Hope this helps. I'm a licensed therapist.
