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Is Okay to Carry My Toddler While Pregnant?

I am pregant and a stay at home mom and I have a 18 month old toddler who weighs about 30 pounds. I am with him alone all of the time and he constantly demands to be picked up. Such as when we go out for a walk, or when we visit the laundy room or just at home. I hate saying no to him when he asks to be picked up and when I do, he screams and cries. Is it safe to carry him around during pregnancy?

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Thanks so everyone for your responses. Whenever I ask someone this question, I hear no, no, no. It was nice to hear some alternative feedback and actual suggestions. Special thanks to the lady that told me not to say "Mommy cant hold you because it will hurt the baby". I have actually said that before and thinking about it now I realize that that could indeed make my toddler resent the new baby. I am never going to say that again. Thanks so much mamas!

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My dr told me that it was safe to lift baby as you are used to carrying that weight. You wouldn't want to start lifting things that you normally don't.

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You may want to consider getting more acclimated to holding your hand during some of those times when he would rather be held. Soon there will be someone else in your arms and you don't want him to feel displaced.

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My dr told me that it was safe to lift baby as you are used to carrying that weight. You wouldn't want to start lifting things that you normally don't.

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The human body protects that baby so well, it's completely fine for you to carry your 18 month-old. However, I do agree that you're going to start needing to set a new precedent for him regarding his desires to be carried. Once that baby arrives, your ability to carry him is going to be limited, and it doesn't sound like he's going to like it.

Around 18-19 months is when both of my kids began to exert themselves a little more. I was 24 weeks pregnant the first time around, but I also realized that the ability to devote all my attention to one child was limited, and I needed to make the most of it.

Good luck!

You should ask you doctor. Mine always told me with all three of my pregnancies not to lift over 25 lbs.

I worked in a nursing home while I was pregnant and I had to lift and move a lot more then 30 lbs. Unless you have any underlying issues I say its perfectly fine to pick up your child.

I wouldn't carry him around. Not only for your and the baby's safety but he needs to get used to not being held since you'll have your hands full soon. You don't want to stop carrying him when the baby comes b/c that will just add to the jealousy. I tried to only hold my kids while I was sitting down when I was pregnant.

Unless your doctor specifies that you have a weight limit it should be fine. If you start to feel discomfort then you may have to stop but I understand what you mean mine goes up up up and lifts a leg it's so hard to say no to that. There was a good point previously though about trying to get him used to walking with you more. It'll be no fun with a carry me toddler and a newborn. I wouldn't tell him no I'd just encourage him to walk more as you go through your daily life.

as long as you're healthy and it doesnt hurt, there's no reason not to.

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