Is My Son the Only Uncircumsized Boy on the Block?

Both my boys are uncircumsized as well as one of my friends son. My friend is also uncircumsized. It is up to you but know this as long as you teach him how to pull back the skin to clean it there everything should be fine. Like I said it is entirely up to you but if you do decide to do it then do it asap because they are cutting skin off of him. And the earlier you get it done the less pain for him.

I have a little girl and no other children (yet) but my little brother (who is now 23, we're 8 years apart) was not/is not circumcised and has not had any problems in that area and I do not recall that it was ever an issue growing up and being different from his friends. You just have to make sure to teach your son proper hygiene, etc. Remember you are your son's mom and you know what is best for him. If that is your choice, stick with it!

I have one son and six grandsons none of whom are circumcised. I am an RN who works with infants. Circumcision is not without risks and is not medically necessary. You made a good choice. Sexually your son will be fine! Many cultures wouldn't even consider circumcision.

I am a mother of three boys, all uncircumcised. We chose to go this route because there isn't any medical need for such a procedure. I know how you feel about second guessing your decision, but most of the world does not circumcise their boys. So, don't feel alone. Many parents in the States choose to circumcise, but I think many are also opting for the other alternative. Feel good that you didn't put your son through any unnecessary pain!

My son is 14 and is circumsized as well as my husband. We decided to have him circumsized to be like his father. There is nothing wrong with having a boy circumsized or uncircumsized. For us it was a great choice, because our son wasn't so good at personal hygiene and is only now starting to get better at it. My nephew wasn't circumsized at first and then he was 9 and it done. My nephew had had several urinary tract infections before he had his done. Either way, boys once they become sexually active will enjoy it. You can't prove that sex is better when uncircumsized. I totally support your decision in not.

Hi K., I made the decision not get have my son circumcised, too. As well, I researched the issue, spoke with a pediatric urologist as well as researched the necessity of the procedure vs. cultural tendencies which are not based in medical necessity. I'm sure you did the same thing (admirable, in my opinion) so that you would not cause your brand new baby unnecessary pain and discomfort hours after he was born. Thank God I did not have the procedure done because my son had some real sensory issues - crying hysterically even just at diaper changes in the middle of the night. I can't even imagine how he would be if there was real burning pain in that area. He would have cried constantly. Anyway, I don't know how many others on my block are not circumcised but I do know that my sister chose not to circumcise her 2 boys. Her husband is Greek and that is the custom for their culture. I spoke with my brother in law about it and he said he never experienced riducule in school and it never was an issue for him. Of course, he said he was never one to want to take "group" showers in the locker room with a bunch of other guys either. My husband has always been concerned that the problems will surface much later (like middle school/high school) because kids are merciless with the teasing at that age. But, my thought was that is years and years from now and I felt (from my research) that the tide was changing and there would be more and more kids that are not circumcised that it will be less of an issue. What do you think? Boys can still have the procedure done at any time, you know. I felt that if it becomes that much of an issue for him that he can make the personal decision to have the procedure done at that time. This way, I leave the decision up to him instead of making it for him and maybe causing him unnecessary pain. Being brought into the world is such a dramatic sensory overload for newborns. Why cause them terrible pain at this impressionable time? BTW - my little guy is 4 years old now and happy as can be...

Hi K.! We Chose not to circumsize our son. His father is not circumsized and did not want him to be. My only reason for wanting it done was purely for "looks". I have been with both and there is no difference. My sons father never had to deal with teasing or anything nor has anyone I know. ( My brother and father and and paternal uncle aren't to name a few) Don't worry about it. As far as diseases go anyone can contract an STI. When he gets older you have to teach him to protect himself the same way you would if he was: Wear a condom! There really is no medical reason for it. It just our Western Custom lol. Hope this helps. Keisha

hi K.,

we chose not to have our son circumsized as well. like you we saw no reason for it. from what i understand about 50% are uncircumsized. i plan on talking to him about by explaining that people are different and it's ok either way. i would even feel comfortable explaining that it was a choice we made that we thought was the best thing for him. hope this helps.

K.

I had my second baby late in life but was and am still interested in going as natural as possible so before I knew I was having a second girl I had already decided to NOT circumsize if I had a boy.My husband at the time was uncircumsized and was over 40 and never had any problems,he grew up poor and I am sure there were few doctors visits so everything went well for him even without being educated about how to care for himself.I found nothing unpleasent about our sex life and I really believe that sensation is enhanced for both the male and female.Do as much research as you can before deciding to leave well enough alone or to have him circumsized.Hope this helps and if you have any other questions I would be happy to share.

In Europe where I am from it is very unusual to be circumsized. It is rarely done for anything other than religious reasons. We do not have more sexually transmitted diseases or a greater number of women with cervical cancer as suggested by another posting. The only reasons I can think of would be purely social. If most boys here are circumsized would he be embarrased in the boys locker room? with girls when the time came? That would be my only concern, it certainly doesn't have to be done and he will function perfectly well either way.

Nope.
I have two boys and one is circumcised and the other is not. I was persuaded to have my oldest boy C'd by his pediatrician. We changed pediatricians in the interim and had our second child and decided not to. We were warned by others that they would compare and make a big deal of this. I must say that they are 10 and 8 and it has never come up between them. I have brought it up as I wanted to make sure they understand that God makes us all special and unique and that we had our reasons for making the decisions that we've made. They seemed unphased by it all. It does require that we stay on our younger child to properly clean himself, but we also need to do that anyway with teeth, body, room cleaning, etc. They are boys.

We are not planning to circumsize our soon to be born son (March). You are not alone. Every person I have talked to that has a boy-says if they had know what the procedure entailed and the healing process before hand then they would not have gone through it.

Here's an excerpt pulled from babycenter.com :
Between 1989 and February 1999, the American Academy of Pediatrics' policy had been that the potential medical benefits of circumcision outweighed most of the risks. But new research — and never-ending debate — prompted the academy to update its circumcision recommendation in March 1999. The AAP now says that the choice is best left up to parents, who should make an informed decision based on possible health benefits and risks, as well as cultural, religious, and ethnic traditions. And, for the first time, the organization says that if you do decide to circumcise, your son should be given pain relief.

Full article at http://www.babycenter.com/0_circumcision-what-you-need-to...

Hi! Neither my first husband nor my current fiance are circumsized. I don't think it is as common as you think. If we would have had a boy, we wouldn't have circumsized because it is noot at all necessary. C. widowed and recently engaged mother to 3 girls ages 4, 6, 8.

Hi,
we are a 3 yr old son and he is not circumsized either. My husband is not cicumsized so that was the main fact in not circumsizing our son. We did listen to advice from doctors and both told us it was more or less a matter of preference and tradition. My husband grew up in Europe and it is not common to be circumsized over there. Personally, I did have partners in the past that were circumsized but I didn't feel like it really made a difference as far as sexual experiences, from a woman's stand point. For men, if they are uncircumsized, it is suppose to make them more sensatitve. I have not yet figured out how I am going to explain him being cicumsized and majority of his friends not but I know it will all work out. My husband and his 2 brothers are swimmers and grew up playing lots of sports and I don't think it really effected them in a negatitve way.

Our son isn't circumsized.
No good reason to do it as far as we were concerned.
I've heard only about 50% are getting circumsized these days.
Our healthcare providers were all very glad to see that he wasn't circumsized.
My husband is also uncircumsized and he felt this is best for our son as well, but admits that it may be an issue between our son and his peers in the future.
Hopefully the statistics are changing and it won't be so uncommon anyway.

Hi K.,

My husband and I decided against circumsizing after watching a show Penn and Teller did on them on HBO about two years ago. It is a multimillion dollar biz., and not even necessary to do. Back in biblical times, in order to know who was jewish and who wasn't, they performed circumcisions. When watching the show the Penn and Teller did, it really made us think and make a decision not to do it. My husband also made a point that it god put the skin there, he did it for a reason, so who are we to remove it. All it will do when the time comes, is make your son reach his climax a little sooner then someone who is not circumsized. If we teach out boys how to clean themselves and how to wrap it up when the time comes, they will be just fine.

I hope this helps.

Hi K.! I, too, opted against circumsicion for my son. Fortunately, I married a traditional "meditterean" man who is also uncircumsized. I felt no medical reason existed to have it done and I certainly had no religious reason. I make sure I am teaching my son about proper hygiene, important for ALL boys but even more so for ours.:) Sexually, I have no complaints!! Since your husband will look "different" you may have some explaining to do in the future but I would let that play itself out. By the way, if my son ever decides he would prefer circumcision I will take him to a qualified plastic surgeon and it will be done properly with the careful use of pain relievers!! Bottom line, it will be HIS choice. Good luck, S.

Hi K.,
My son is six years old and is not circumcised, neither is my husband--that's one reason we decided not to circumcise our son, also just like you we did not see a compelling reason to do it when he was born. So far there are no problems with my son (or husband either for that matter). Although I do wonder how things will be in the locker room when he's a teenager, if the other kids will mention it or tease him, but it's too late to worry about that now! I also am unsure of how common or uncommon this is. But I hope I reassured you a little. I'm not aware of my husband ever having any problems with it, at least he's never mentioned it. Good luck! --A.

I also chose not to circumcise my 3 year old and 14 month old boys. It just seemed like a cosmetic procedure, and I didn't want any more trauma (neither were great nursers in the beginning). I have not regretted our decision. My dad and brother are not circumcised (my husband is) and I talked about it with my brother before our first son was born (awkward conversation!). He (20 something) feels that it has not been any trouble for him, sexually or otherwise. I did not talk about it with my dad, except from the medical standpoint, and he, as a dr., feels that it is an unnecessary surgery. I don't judge those who do circumcise (if my husband felt strongly about it, we may have), but it has been the right choice for us, and your son won't be the only one! My nephews also are not circumcised. Good luck with your new baby...enjoy!