My child is four and was potty trained about a month ago. She also got off a bottle late and she studders. Is she going to be late for everything? It seeems that she is doing stuff at the below average times? Is she slow? What is happening? Ami not strict and firm wenough to my little baby?
I took her to a pediatrician and he said the studdering is normal and will go away and i should just stop babying and everything will be fine
I would ask for a referal to a developmental person and see what is happening. Strictness can't be considered an issue with the information you give.
Get a proffesional opinion, it seems late to me as a mom and grandmom.
Best wishes!!
I would definitely get professional advice. Talk to your pediatrician and see if he/she can refer you to a good specialist. I would be concerned. You don't want it to go too long. Everything could be fine! but if there is something wrong you would want to get on the boat about it.
Good Luck. sorry i couldn't help much more.
These are issues that you should discuss with a pediatrician. At four, this child should be able to access SEARCH AND SERVE through your local school district to help with some of his/her delays. You should address these issues now with doctor and school district.
hi A., she was potty trained late in my opinion, but that is not on her if you didn't start her earlier, also to with the bottle, if you didn't take it away at 1 year, she's has no control over that either. Sounds like grandma has kept her a baby, I would put her in a daycare that has a pre school program so she can be ready for kindergarten, I know it is cheaper to have a relative watch her, but it sounds like she is not advancing like she should, and you are not there to see that she does, my kindergaten daycare child we had him reading at 4 to prepare him for kindergarten, I have a little girl who turned 4 in March, and at 3 she learned to print her name. Now this does not mean she will be late for everything, you need to put things in place to learning and kids love to learn, my 17th months old in my care counts to 3, know's how to say please and thank you, children are sponges as long as you will put the time in with them they will learn, my kindergardner can also tell time, he's 5. your daughter will spring a head if you put her somewhere where she will be taught. J.
A.,
I would not be too concerned with the bottle and potty training timeliness...some children just take longer. However, if she has a speech issue I would advise you to have her assessed at your local school district. Contact them and request a speech assessment in writing as soon as possible. They are required by law to respond to your request, provide an assessment and free services if needed.
I don't know about the stuttering, and I don't know your daughter, but things like bottle weaning and potty training tend to have very little to do with a child's intellectual ability and (like you suspect) more to do with the parents, be it their parenting style or lack of discipline, whatever. Whether or not you're doing something wrong is kind of a relative question. There is no single "right" way to raise a child, but the key is to ask yourself, "is the way I am raising/treating my child going to affect her in a bad way in the future?" Like, when she starts school is she going to have a difficult time because she's used to always getting her way and everyone doing everything for her? I think I've figured out the key to parenting, period. The key to parenting is to think about every decision and how it will "play out" in the future- will it cause problems for her/me/our family? From there it's just a risk/benefit analysis. But if you look at your daughter's behavior and development and how you and your mother treat her and think of every little thing in this way you'll be able to tell if you're doing something "wrong."
So far as her being slow, look on parentcenter.com- they have developmental continuums for different ages, and you should be able to check off benchmarks to see if she's doing everything she should be able to do developmentally. That way if you do have anything you really need to be concerned about you can talk to your pediatrician about it and have some real issues.
I believe that is late too...(bottle and potty training). I tried to ween my boy off the pacifier. I looked in the window at the babysitters one day before i knocked on the door... and low an behold... my son had a pacifier in his mouth! After I had already talked to her about helping me ween him off too! My mom also... was no help with this. As soon as he whined or cried....she stuck a pacifier in his mouth.
If she is late for a couple of things.... so what... kids go at their own pace. However, theyre development skills should be encouraged and by the parent. Know what other children are doing in their age groups.
My son had a kicking and hitting problem....although this was how he played. I started him at a daycare at 18 months because he was bored and didnt have interaction with other children....children learn from other children... sometimes bad things...but sometimes good. Theyre challenged by their peers. I warned the teachers he was hitting and kicking.....but "THEY" never saw him do it. He sat down at the chair (which he never did with me)...and played with the other kids nicely. Your child might act a certain way with you because your the mom. They can observe and fall into place. Which helps them later when they start school. And grandmothers usually have the job of "giving them what they want"...
Sometimes your a lil more tired after your youngest child and the baby usually gets their way. She might need extra time and attention before you claim slow.
I would definately look into it and talk to a doctor for starters though.
