A.N. asks from Louisville, CO on January 03, 2009
Is My 11 Month Old Baby Done with Breast Feeding?
Hi,
I have been breastfeeding my infant for 11 months now. I breastfeed him 3 times a day and give him an 8 oz bottle of breastmilk before bedtime. He is in daycare 3 days a week so he gets 3 bottles at daycare. I've never had a problem switching from the breast to the bottle until now. This morning I fed him when he woke up. He ate as he normally does (about 15 minutes). But at his noon feeding he seemed completely uninterested. He cried and was really fussy so I didn't force him to eat and just figured he was not hungry for milk. I fed him some baby food and he ate that just fine. I went to feed him at 4 o'clock feeding and he did the same thing! He seemed like he was hungry but when I would put my breast to his mouth he would turn his head and start to cry. I knew he was hungry so I warmed up some milk that I had saved in a bottle and he ate it right away. So, is he trying to tell me that he is done with breastfeeding? This is the first time he has ever done this. I am wondering if he is frustrated because the milk may come out quicker from the bottle (he uses level 4 nipples) than it does from my breast? I think he may be teething again also because he has been waking up more during his naps and at night. But I thought that when they're teething they would be more prone to want to breastfeed rather than bottle. I wasn't planing on weaning him from breast feeding for another 4 months or so. Has anyone else gone through this?
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J.L. answers from Fort Collins on January 05, 2009
I went through the same thing when my daughter was 11 months. She was indeed done with breastfeeding. I could not coax her back to the breast. At first I was depressed, as I wanted to at least make it to a year with her, but the more I thought about it, the more okay I was with it. I realized that it would save us the fighting and stress of weaning later. So, she took formula bottles for one month before staring her on cow's milk at 1 year. She was perfectly fine with it, and in the end I was too!
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S.W. answers from Salt Lake City on January 06, 2009
This sounds like a nursing strike to me, probably related to teething and maybe to the fast flow of the artificial nipples. I suggest contacting your local La Leche League Leader for info about how to get him back to the breast, if that's what you'd like to do. You can find her at www.llli.org--all LLL services are free.
Congratulations on your breastfeeding relationship!
H.F. answers from Pocatello on January 04, 2009
Sometimes babies will go through a "nursing strike" but it is not the same thing as being self-weaned because they will want to go back to nursing afterwards. There are many reasons for a baby to suddenly refuse to nurse, he may be in pain from teething or a sinus infection or he may be too conjested to breathe whie nursing. Or it may be that you ate something that is making your milk taste bad to him, I once had a very garlicly meal and for the next 24 hours my baby would make sour faces when she tasted my milk, it was kind of funny! It could also be taht he is too busy playing to want to stop and nurse, many active babies have this problem, sometimes they do better with many "mini feedings" rather than a long feeding (although that can drive you crazy as it seems they want a "snack" every few minutes!) Just keep offering the breast, if he will not nurse then pump so that you will not get engorged or get a plugged duct. My guess is that he will feel like nuring again in a day or two. Good luck!
J.L. answers from Fort Collins on January 05, 2009
I went through the same thing when my daughter was 11 months. She was indeed done with breastfeeding. I could not coax her back to the breast. At first I was depressed, as I wanted to at least make it to a year with her, but the more I thought about it, the more okay I was with it. I realized that it would save us the fighting and stress of weaning later. So, she took formula bottles for one month before staring her on cow's milk at 1 year. She was perfectly fine with it, and in the end I was too!
K.G. answers from Denver on January 04, 2009
All 3 of my sons weaned themselves (I wanted to nurse longer)at 10-11 months, each one stopped nursing as soon as they were walking. They just weren't interested except maybe before going to bed at night for a little while longer. I would just go with the flow and let him decide when to wean, he may still want to nurse before bed for a little bit but I would switch to a sippy cup for all other drinks now, because it is a lot harder to wean off the bottle if you get that habit started!
J.L. answers from Boise on January 05, 2009
This is exactly what my son did. I was heart broken because I wanted to breatfeed for so much longer. We never had any issues moving from breat to bottle through out the day (I had to go back to work so I pumped and he was bottlefed at daycare). He always gladly took the breast when offered, and the bottle when offered. He only seemed to perfer the breast at night. Then one day he just stopped. Turned his head and cried and would not latch. We gave him a bottle and he took it no problem. I continued to breatfeed at night time feedings, but that only about lasted about 2 weeks before he refused then too. The doctor said that he must have relized that the bottle is easier then the breast. Babies have to work more to get milk from the breast and that's why alot refuse it after being started on a bottle. Makes perfect sence to me! I was so sad about the whole ordeal, but everyhting worked out just fine. :)
M.C. answers from Denver on January 04, 2009
Hi A.,
Yes, I totally went through this with my 2nd son right around the same age-- 10 months or so. It sounds like a nursing strike. It was totally out of the blue-- no rhyme or reason, and it caught me completely off guard-- just one day I put him to the breast and he would turn/lurch away and be crying even though I knew he was hungry. Sometimes he would even arch his back-- it was so wierd and unexplainable. I was devistated and thought maybe he was weening himself, but my gut said he wasn't ready and something wasn't right. I spent a lot of time on La Leche league and continued to stick to our routine and offer the breast and tried to be calm when he rejected it and was screaming (I was an emotional basketcase of course, but was trying to be calm :)) Anyways, 3 days later he resumed nursing as if nothing happened and to this day it is still a mystery as to why he went on a "strike" as they say. He ended up self-weening at 22 months!! Both of my boys self weened (at 14 months and 22 months, and it is more of a natural-feeling, over time type of thing-- at least my experience. What you are describing doesn't sound like he is ready to ween but more of a nursing strike. I would recommend checking out LaLecheLeage online and continue to offer the breast, and pump if you are in discomfort. Chances are, he will resume breastfeeding. Best of luck to you!!
B.M. answers from Salt Lake City on January 04, 2009
Hi A.,
My first daughter stopped nursing with no issues after I gradually cut the feedings down and then stopped when she was 12 months old. However my second daughter nursed well multiple times a day and then one morning when she was nine months old she did what your son is doing. She was fussy when I tried to nurse and turned her head and just refused. I kept trying for about two days and then just gave up. I pumped and gave her the milk through a bottle and she was great. It was a little sad for me and physically painful for a few days but we all got through it. She was just ready. So, keep trying if you really think it is the teething thing, however, I would recommend not to make it a fight. Perhaps he is just ready and that is okay.
Take care,
B.
M.H. answers from Denver on January 04, 2009
I wouldn't give up yet. La Leche League has some good info on breastfeeding strikes, that you might want to check out. However, he might be done. I would suspect that it might have to do with teething. Good luck! Here is a link that might be helpful. http://www.llli.org/FAQ/strike.html
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