Have you discussed the possibility of maybe doing the RIP Program with your Pediatrician/Doctor? We have had some issues last few months with our son. He does not have ADHD or anything like that, that we know of. I had him evaluated last fall and doctor said then definitely not ADD OR ADHD. He did say that if there are a few to a lot of changes in childs life, even small changes, that they can be significant to the child and take several months to adjust. Anyway, last month our pediatrician suggested we do the RIP Program. It is free...sort of. It can be a long program for some and shorter for others. They have a video on their website you can check out, it is interviews and testamonials from other parents (very relatable). Don't know if that would be of some help to you or not, but it might be worth checking out. There is no charge for the program. It does require 2 hours a day twice a week, once you successfully complete the program, you then become sort of a teacher of the program for new families entering the program, for however many weeks it took your family to complete the program. Our pediatrician said it was an excellent program and produces great results, so did the director of our preschool. I must admit, we have not started the program ourselves...yet. I know how difficult this must be, as I have 2 nephews with ADHD. One of them was diagnosed with the most extreme ADHD you can have. That was several years ago...He still has problems...he is a good hearted boy (young man now), but still has problems with authority and holding job.
Also, you might get a second or third opinion. I did read up alot lately on ADD and ADHD...some doctors jump to diagnose ADD and ADHD; only to find out later, that the child had a medical problem that caused very smilar symptoms and behaviors. I read that something as simple as inner ear problems can cause same behaviors as ADD and ADHD. You should also make sure that you research and get all the info you can on any meds that the doctor prescribes or suggests...it is ultimately your decision what meds your child takes. The best of luck to you.