K.K. asks from Scottsdale, AZ on October 04, 2008
A little background. I am 37 and my husband is 44. We were married 3 years ago this month. I have a history of PCOS. We had very little trouble conceiving our first child, once I was really paying attention to my cycles and fertility signs. We have been using Natural Family Planning since we were married. When our daughter was 5 months old we found out we were pregnant again. We were exctied but very surprised. I was under a lot of stress at work, and we did not tell alot of people about the pregnancy. At 8 weeks I had some bleeding and after that did not feel pregnant. Long story but, a week later we went for an US and there was no heartbeat. We were devestated. I miscarried spontaneously at home two days later. WORST experience of my life and my husbands by far. Very scarey, very painful in all ways. We gave it some time and then started trying again. They said the miscarriage was a fluke, and felt it was a chemical pregnancy. That was April 2007. We waited a few months and then tried again. No problem conceiving again. I was pregnant in September, but my HCG were not rising, we did an US and there was a HUGE cyst on my left ovary. My OB (who I adore and trust) felt it was an ectopic and strongly encouraged me to receive a methotrexate injection. I am a strong Catholic and was very torn over this. My parents were coming into town and it was a week before my daughters first birthday. I did my research and kept going for HCG levels and they were not going up or down. After much soul searching and prayer I agreed to the methotrexate on Oct 6th. My HCG dropped immediately and it was my second loss. This was emotionally, and spiritually very difficult for me. Since then we have not been able to conceive again. I am considering participating in the Ceighton Method. I am looking for any ideas on conception, outside of drugs. I am taking my prenatal vitamins, I also take an Indian supplement Leptaden, and this month started taking a baby asprin 81 mg daily. Anyone have any similar experiences? Anyone use the Creighton Method? All help, positive energy and prayers are appreciated.
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C.H. answers from Flagstaff on October 04, 2008
I confess I don't know a lot about PCOS. My ob/gyn thought I had it but the only symptoms I have is I am overweight and can't get pg easily.
I have read the sometimes acupuncture can help and some herbs as well. I take an herbal supplement to help me regulate my hormones. It has dong quai, chaste berry and wild yam.
You might need to change your diet. I've heard that eating a lot of dark green leafy vegetables is good.
I hope you find what you are looking for.
A.V. answers from Phoenix on October 06, 2008
I personally know what it is like to have a emotionally, spiritually, and physically painful miscarraige. My prayers to you for strength, peace, and good health to move through these losses and move toward a new beginning.
My sister in law (in Kansas) went through almost 2 years of infertility issues - ended up going through in-vitro, which was successful. However, she did start seeing an accupunturist who specialized in infertility. Though he couldn't do or prescribe certain things because of what she was already doing medically, she is convinced that he could have helped her concieve without in-vitro. She continues to see him with other issues during this pregnancy and feels so much better than she did with previous pregnancies. I'm just telling you this because many times we don't think of Eastern Medicine as being a way to help us with pregnancies/fertility issues. I know a Naturopath in Scottsdale who is also an Acupuncturist and specialized in Women's health and Fertility. Perhaps she knows more about th Creighton Method as well. Here is her info.
Dr. Christina Kovalik NMD, LAc.
God has already blessed you in many ways as you know. Even through your losses you have been blessed. Sometimes it is hard to understand how we are blessed through loss and grief when we are going through it. It really isn't the loss that is a blessing - the loss is HARD. But it's how we move through it, how we grow as a human being, and what we've learned about ourselves by going deeper that is the blessing. It sounds like you have done alot of soul searching, that you know yourself better. So how can you move through this next journey of desiring another child with your new knowing? How can you move through doing the best you can, without being attached to the outcome? Because when we are attached to the outcome we can't truly be present in our every moment. How are you moving through your journey with less stress and the faith in knowing that you already have what you need. Knowing that the child that comes to you will be the child you chooses you - at just the right time.
In peace and Light,
mom of 4, Birth and Parenting Mentor
M.P. answers from Phoenix on October 05, 2008
First I would like to say I am sorry for your loss.I too had a miscarriage at 13 weeks this past July. I am also up there in at age 40. I do not know anything about the Creighton method but I would like to tell you about the website dailystrength It has helped me soooo much there is a miscarriage, fertility and pregnancy after loss group. All these women are kind and helpeful. They might be able to answer some of your questions. We are activly trying to get pregnant again. I hope that everything works out for you soon. On dailystrength my screen name is Melanie40. If you happen to log on...look for me. I have nothing to do with the site other than be a memember ( its free) its helped me so very much to get over what I also think is the worst thing I ahave ever had to deal with in my life.
N.S. answers from Albuquerque on October 05, 2008
I had both of my children thanks to fertility treatments (Repronex injections and IUI)so I know the road you are considering.
As far as something natural to try, there was an article published in Newsweek, Dec. 10, 2007 issue about infertility and diet. The article is called "Fats, Carbs and the Science of Conception". You might want to try to look the article up online or at the library. This article came out after I had my children so I never tried the diet suggested, but it might be worth it for you, especially if you want to avoid using drugs to conceive.
S.L. answers from Tucson on October 05, 2008
Most fertility issues are caused by imbalances in the systems. I have researched some herbal formulas that include herbs traditionally used for sexual/reproductive health and could recommend them if you like. One herb in particular, Muira Puama - known as "potency wood" - has been studied for its activity in promoting healthy sexual function in both men and women. Healthy sexual function includes fertility and the ability to carry a child to term. The formulas I recommend are very specially prepared and are assured pure and vital as they are never irradiated. They are only grown in the virgin soil of the Amazon rainforest so there are no pesticides or chemical fertilizers or any other pollutants contaminating them that commonly impair other herbs. Plus the proceeds of purchases go directly to supporting the indigenous people of the upper Amazon basin in sustaining an eco-enterprise of harvesting these herbs instead of cutting or burning down the rainforest. And to make them completely risk-free, all the products come with a 100% satisfaction guarantee for one year. Let me know if you are interested in more information or a web link where you can check them out for yourself.
A.L. answers from Phoenix on October 05, 2008
hi, we have also battled with infertility. There is a great website with a wealth of information and support. http://fertilethoughts.com/ There are many women in your same situation. Also, try acupuncture with herbs. Good luck to you !!
T.S. answers from Phoenix on October 05, 2008
First, know that you are in my prayers as you deal with the ups and downs of this difficult time. Know also that as long as your thoughts and concerns are of God's will, your decisions that you make along the path to having another baby will reflect this. God doesn't punish us or look down upon us for getting help along the way, if that's what our body needs. I'm Catholic, as well, and I truly believe this. One very wonderful priest once told me that our choices are between ourselves and God. Only He knows what we are going through and will help us make our choices accordingly. It sounds like you're doing great and I hope you have success soon.
I don't have advice for you as much as support in the form of a great, true, "keep the faith" story (sorry, it's a little long!). My best friend just turned 36 this February and had been trying to get pregnant for a year. Frustrated, she went to a fertility doctor and found out that she had less than a 1% chance to getting pregnant. She was devastated, and being Catholic, was concerned how far she should go medically in order to persue her dream. She eventually decided to go on Clomid and tried IUI- she was told her chances were excellent at this point since everything was textbook perfect. The doctor was shocked when it didn't work. My friend was really down at this point and decided to really go forth aggressively and try in-vitro, just once, before giving up. Again, there was bad news. She had a cyst and was going to have to wait a month to try IVF; meanwhile, they'd have to monitor her cyst. Well, a month later they did some routine bloodwork and much to everyone's surprise, she was pregnant. It had happened naturally, even in the midst of all the testing! She's almost 6 months along at this point (she took progesterone and baby aspirin the firt trimester to be safe), doing great, and her due date is actually on her own birthday. We say that it's God reminding us that even though His gifts don't always arrive according to our schedule or to our specifications, He has a plan for us nontheless and is truly amazing and miraculous!
Hang in there and know that others are thinking of you and supporting you as you make these difficult choices. Good luck and prayers for a happy and healthy baby soon!