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Infant Death

I have an ex co-worker who recently had a baby that died right after the birth. I am wondering what is appropriate to send..obviously a card but what about flowers? I feel like that's not appropriate. Also I know this girl from when I used to work but we haven't kept in touch since I left and at this point are not real close. So I wouldn't be comfortable with something really personal since I essentially don't know her that well anymore. Please let me know what you did if you were in this situation and how it was received. Thanks.

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My husbands friend lost a child last year around this time. The baby had a very bad heart defect, and died when she was 6 days old. We got them a card and a small gift. I found a website called personalcreations.com. They have a wind chime that is really nice for a gift, just go under Special Occasions and then sympathy and memorial, then under keepsakes. Good Luck

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Hi A.,

A card, flowers, or whatever seems appropriate for how close you two are. How thoughtful of you to acknowledge her pain. A simple "I'm sorry" will do. Statements like "you can have more" or "this was for the best" are more hurtful then helpful.

I would just do the card. Just a simple message like saying I am sorry for your loss, please let me know if I can be of any help. She will appreciate the fact that you took the time to think about her and her family. How sweet!

You could also bring a live plant or tree over to her and she could plant it in her yard. If you knew it was a boy or girl you could choose a rose bush for a girl and maybe a nice shrub or tree if it was a boy.
My sister n law and husband lost their baby after giving birth and they planted a tree in his memory...they also plant a small plant for each of there other children as well.

Money is always appropriate. Funerals can be very expensive and money and a card expressing your sympathy would be nice.

I would definately send her a card. It's nice to always know that people care. My brother was killed in a car accident in 1990 at the age of 16 and my parents neighbors gave them a small tree to plant in the yard. It was a beautiful tree and it got a disease and had to be cut down a few years ago. It was actually quite sad to see it go. My parents planted a new tree in it's place.

I lost a child and honestly just the fact that someone took the time to send a card was enough. The cards I still have the flowers i don't. Please be very sensative to what you say. I'm sorry for your loss and if there is anything i can do, is probable the best to say.

I would send a card and maybe some money because they will be having funeral expenses that I'm sure they can't afford right now.
Just say something in there like "I'm so sorry for your loss, you are in our thoughts and prayers".
J.

My husbands friend lost a child last year around this time. The baby had a very bad heart defect, and died when she was 6 days old. We got them a card and a small gift. I found a website called personalcreations.com. They have a wind chime that is really nice for a gift, just go under Special Occasions and then sympathy and memorial, then under keepsakes. Good Luck

I agree with a card and some money...just having someone from the past sending a note to say you are thinking about her is a really nice thing to do.

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