If You Could Go Back a Few Years and Change Something What Would You Change?

I wouldn't marry my husband, even though he is kind and I have a great son. I will finish my school first, take my master and get a job. I never know how it feels to be a career woman because I married before graduation and Indonesia doesn't know the part time students works. I really want to know how it feels to wear stiletto and suits in the office, seriously:(((
I will spend time more with my family
I will save money so I can buy some gifts for my parents

Not a darn thing. It is strange, every time I read a question like this I go through everything in my life that was less than pleasant or that I can't get back. Nothing ever stands out as regrettable.

Using your example and god knows none of my kids have full baby books. You have to look at what would you have missed by keeping up on that baby book. You can't make there be more than 24 hours in a day, ya know? So if you could go back and change the baby books consider what you would have to give up to do that. What memories would have to be erased from your mind to give you that time?

Maybe my viewpoint is driven by one too many sci fi movies. Disrupting the time space continuum and all that but I realize that to get something back means to give something up. I am far too content in my life to want to go messing that up. :)

I wouldn't have followed my parents' advice about waiting to travel until I had established my career.

I wouldn't have married my husband (although I don't regret our children at all)

I would have worn more sunscreen as a teenager.

I would have told my father to get a second opinion before his cancer became deadly.

I would have saved more money when I had it.

I would have spent more time with my grandparents.

1. Finished college when I had the chance
2. Taken more baby photos and more journaling.
3. Spent more time with family

I wish I had known about the danger, and the explosive increase from my generation to the next, in vacccines. I believed what my ped told me. :(

If I could pick ONE thing to do over it would be that one.

Sorry, it's truly how I feel.

All those years ago? I would have gotten a teaching degree in my major, rather than a performance degree. Even if I hadn't taught early on (and I think that teaching when I was in my 20's would not have lasted, so I'm glad I had my other career), I would have had the degree and would only had to get re-certified so that I could teach later. I really regret that.

I did do a beautiful baby book for my first child, but never got around to it for my second. I did BUY the book! It's big and beautiful, and alas, empty!

20/20 hindsight is a hard thing - we see what happened and wish we could have dodged a bullet (like Ephie's story about the truck with the mud flaps), but it's unfortunately little comfort. In my case, the mack truck was someone who posed as a friend to my family, but was a user and cruel when we weren't going to be able to be "used" anymore. I hate feeling like I can't trust people - that's the worst part of it, the lack of trust I feel now because of ONE person. If I had the chance to do things over, I would not have been associated with this one person just so that I could feel like I could trust other people. Stinks, really.

How lovely that your sons like their baby book! I should get my ONE baby book out and show it to my son. Maybe he would like to see it as well!

Dawn

I would have let go of the friendships that I tried to keep up with for the sake of "we have history" and listen to all the signs that were there that screamed move on!!!!

I would have to go back two years to the day of my accident.

Still have my accident.....But I would tackle getting through it so much better. I would stay strong and not let my insurance bully head me around...I have learned too much about my self though through the healing process, to just remove that part of me totally and completely forever..I would change the severity of how badly Cameron was hurt....That is also the one thing I would remove...

I also always say I would go back and redo ALL three pregnancies.......and deliveries.....I chickened out when it came to the pain.......Now I wish I had done it all naturally different....At home for starters.........

Last but not least....I would want to go back and feel the butterflies of being in love for the first time. I think it is underrated in how powerful it can make you feel....And one of those things you only get a few times in your life.

For one the babybook! Also, I would have found a better way to enjoy my kids as babies instead of always feeling so stressed out. My oldest was a handful ok two handfuls, he had alot of shall we say "issues". And my children were 22 months apart, it was really stressful while they were young and sometimes I feel like I dont even remember too much from that time. As hard as it was for me, I wouldnt change the closeness in their age, they have always been very close with each other and I am thankful for that!

There was a long time, I would have said go back and somehow prevent my ex-husband from having an affair - like you can control someone else...
I would, however change my response. I enabled his behavior which led to a lot of fallout that effected and hurt a lot of people.
In my marriage I had everything I thought I wanted, but now I have everything I need and deserve! I'm much happier and love my life more now.

My fortune cookie today: How can you have a beautiful ending without making beautiful mistakes.

I would say that I would not marry my husband but then I would not have had my children and I would never choose that. I would have put more money aside for the kids for college. I would have rented rather than bought our homes. I would have taken more birth pics of my births and done a belly cast.

I would have kept my kids in public school instead of thinking that private school is automatically better because it is private. I would have put my daughter in Kindergarten when she was 4 eventhough she had a September birthday. I would have tried to get better paying jobs early on instead of working for pennies at non-profit organizations.