Hi L., my 4 year old is going through this. We make him sit down to eat with us every night for dinner. If he chooses not to eat what we eat he doesn't get dinner and he doesn't get dessert. He gets to decide what his dessert will be each night (I love cooking!) so he knows in advance what dessert will be. I also let him help me cook - it seems to make him want to eat dinner. I also let him eat what we are preparing to eat (I don't care if it is cooked as long as he eats). I also do not let him eat anything after 2:30 pm until our dinner at 5:00pm - except for the prep stuff. It's hard to send your child to bed without dinner because he refuses to eat. As his pediatrician told me, he won't starve himself. He has not lost any weight and he has grown 4 1/2 inches since July. We also only limit his breakfast to a regular child size portion. The way we do this is let him have a 1/4 cup of his dry plain oatmeal (disgusting, but his favorite), a 1/4 cup of plain lowfat yogurt, and then if he is still hungry a 1/4 cup of Cheerios with milk, a piece of fresh fruit (this usually stops him because he doesn't like the next step), and a fresh vegetable. For lunch because he goes to school he gets a cheese sandwich on whole wheat bread (dry because he doesn't like the meat or condiments), fresh fruit, watered down juice (1/2 100% juice and 1/2 water), and some fresh veggies. If he doesn't eat it, that's his choice. He gets two snacks at school and one at home. My point from this long winded tirade is: It's their job to not want to eat well and our job as parents to give them proper food and nutrition. That way when they are old enough to move out, they have the healthy eating habits already ingrained in them.