Ideas on How to Introduce 2.5 Year Old to New Baby in Hospital?

The only time my husband stayed at the hospital with me was with our first. The next 3 babies he stayed home at night with the others so they woudn't have to be stressed by us both being gone. I understand this only works if the birth timing is right. On the times that we had an under 3 year old coming to the hospital I made sure the baby was in the bassentt (sp) when they came in and the baby would have a little gift with it for the toddler. And my Toddler had a gift for baby. With my most recent baby I and my then 2 1/2 picked out a pink bear months in advance that she cuddled and filled with lots of love before the baby was born. That's what she then gave at the hospital for a gift. We used the bear to talk about her baby sister coming soon. Read books but nothing but positve. I always edit out any talk of jealousy or anything negitive. Cross that bridge if it comes up. It never has with my children. congratulations

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Gifts are always a nice idea. I had a gift from the baby to big sister and one from mommy and daddy to big sister. Before the delivery I took her to pick out a special gift for her to give the baby. We wrapped it up and everything and then she got to be the one to unwrap it for the baby.

She stayed with my in-laws while my husband and I were at the hospital with the baby. We made sure that when the in-laws brought her to meet the baby, my husband went out to the lobby and got her so she could come in by herself and meet the baby first and we could spend a little time as a family. Then the in-laws came in and made a big fuss over the baby AND how she was a big sister now. It all went very smoothly.

Mercer Mayer's book "The New Baby" was a favorite of ours in the 6 months before my second was born. We talked about the baby a lot, and took my son with us to the OB appointments so he could hear the baby's heartbeat and everything. WHen he came to the hospital, I was holding the baby and he was fine with it and really wanted to touch the baby. I have read that it is good to have the baby in the bassinet so that it is less threatening for the sibling: they see Mommy not Mommy with a replacement (though it wasn't a problem for us). My son was 2 years and 4 months when my daughter was born. I didn't understand what you meant by "his Chinese family"... but maybe if you find out what they are saying, you can reinforce the same ideas in your own words.

You've gotten some great tips already! I just want to add one that seemed to help my daughter, who was just under 2 1/2 when my son was born. A couple weeks before my due date, I took Kenzi to the hospital to drop off my pre-registration form. I talked to her about how "this is where mommy and daddy will come when Baby Kevey is ready to come out of my tummy, and Nana will come have a sleepover with you and bring you here to meet him." We even talked about little details ("Here's the elevator you and Nana will ride! Can you push the button?") and we looked at the newborns in the nursery so she'd know what he would look like. They let us look inside one of the unoccupied rooms, and I told her that mommy will stay in a bedroom just like this and sleep in one of these beds, and Nana will bring you here and you can cuddle on the bed with me and Kevey, etc.

You can't totally prepare your child for having a new sibling, (Kenzi did cry when she saw Keves for the first time)but you can lessen the anxiety about the actual hospital setting. I really think it helped for her to be familiar with the hospital and the rooms and to be prepared for what a newborn would look (and sound!) like. After the initial cry she was really fascinated with him. Good luck! It's definitely work but it's so fun watching my kids interact and I can't imagine life with just one anymore!

Hi A.,
I think you're on the right track. My older daughter was 2 years, 9 months when her baby sister was born. You are right that even if he understands the idea of a baby, he does not really understand what it means to have a sister yet. It will not be real to him until he meets his new sister.

What we did was to have my daughter stay with Grandma and Grandpa for a week before my due date (we lived about 3 hours from them at the time, with no family near us, so we wanted her to be in a safe place when the time came for us to go to the hospital). Anyhow, during that week, Grandma and Grandpa took her to the zoo, to the park, all kinds of fun places and made that week all about her. When I went into labor, they all drove up to the hospital. When they arrived, we had a baby doll as a gift to my older daughter, and my parents had taken her to buy a gift for the baby (she chose a little plush Piglet doll). So the new sisters exchanged gifts, and my older daughter was SO thrilled to meet the new baby. She smiled from ear to ear all day!

Of course, about a week later, she came to me and said, "Well, it's been nice having the baby around, but I'm ready for her to go back to the hospital now!" And then I was left to explain that the baby was going to stay with us... forever... and she was a little bummed by that. But now that they're 3 and 6, they are BEST friends and get along great most of the time.

Congratulations on your baby to be!!