I Need to Know What Other Parent Do

I'd like to suggest the following two articles:

http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/autism-improvement-lewis...

and

http://www.emofree.com/children/underdevelopment.htm

Once you've read those, browse or search the entire site and you'll probably find one or two articles on the other problems you mentioned.

I hope you and your family find peace.

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I feel your pain. I was a major part in raising my younger brother who is autistic. He has an IQ of 52 and is emotionally on the level with most 3rd graders today. He also went to a psychiatric hospital in his early teens. The meds are never going to be right, no matter what there is going to be a reation or complication. I am disgusted at the statistics of how much $$ is spent on researching diet pills vs. pediatric medications for children with special needs. I know you may have already tried, but risperdal (an anti psychotic) seemed to have the best result for my brother. He has been on it for years now. As he is maturing, the dosage is being reduced more and more. They combied that with an antidepressant and the change was amazing. After about 6 weeks, he was... wow. I noticed you liked reading. I wanted to suggest a couple of books. "100 Questions and Answers about Your Child's Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)" (also available for other disorders) "1001 Great Ideas for Teaching or Raising Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders" "Achieving Best Behavior for Children with Developmental Disabilities: A Step-by-Step Workbook for Parents and Carer's" There are so many more... But those tend to be easier to read when distracted. If you want more, or whant to know where to find other books available let me know. Good Luck!

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I'm a grandmother of a 11 year old that i'm raising and he also has ADHD-BI-POLAR we have been down the same road and it is very hard. We have had good with the bad, the first thing that we learned to help is that he gets nothing with red food dye. The specialist that we talk to said there is something in they dye that sets a person with ADHD-BI-POLAR off. He is now just takeing his daily medication and is making straight A's in school. I have faith in children with this because with the right person to help and be there for them they will do well. My mother said that God only gives special people children with special needs, as of today I do believe this I also have 3 children with special needs. Keep up the good work and you will have the biggest reward some day.

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B., I have no words of advise for you. But please know that as a mother, my heart goes out to you and your family. I do hope that the Dr's are able to help your daughter. ::hugz::

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Hi B.-

I don't know if I can help. But I might have a few different ideas. I am a special ed teacher for kids with emotional disturbances. I see your daughter has a laundry list of diagnoses. What are somethings you have tried? What kind of supports do you have in place currently?

B.

I work with children who have a lot of physical issues. I know it is hard dealing with everything. I don't have any suggestions but to keep helping her in everyway you can! Keep trying to find the meds that will help her. Give her all the love and support you can. It sounds like to me you have did a lot and you are a great mom!

I wish I had some advice to give you. I really feel for you and what you are going through. I will offer you a prayer, though, and hope that you will find answers soon.

First off, what kind of medications is she on? Could there be a connection in what meds she is taking and how they are interacting with one another?
Second, is the structure and discipline in the home the same for all three children? Do you guys do things as a family or are the kids left to "take care of themselves"?

It sounds as if your daughter has learned a lot of ways to get her needs met. I am so sorry that it has taken a fourth trip to a mental health facility. I hope that you guys can find a way to get what your family needs out of this stay. It is a difficult and trying process and place to be. Sometimes, children want to return to the hospital because they, then, don't have to deal with whatever emotional problems they are experiencing. Is she attending outpatient services after she is released from the hospital? That is extremely important.

Good luck and God Bless you and your family.

hi B., i'm B.. i'm a single parent ,a son 28,who's left the nest. a son 15 with high functioning autisum, a daughter 13, who has adhd, "mood disorder", depresasion and anxiety, she also has only 1 working kidney and hypothriod. both of my youngest have been in mental health hospitals too. all they seem to do is put the kids on more meds, which does not help. my 15yr. old is 6'1" tall now and can be or try to be intimidating. my daughter is following in his foot steps.
the only thing i can say is never give up, nevergive up! the kids know we love them and are doing our best, but they can take atvantage of us.i"m going a bit crazy myself these days myself.
i'm trying to find out about any support groups or anything that can help in my area. i'm new to mo. i have no family here except my dad, who is very ill. i think getting things out of your system like this is good for you. you cannot keep things bottled up, trust me i know. it will start to take a toll on your body. i almost died in late jan. 2007 with blood clots in my lungs. one day at a time, is my moto now. please let me know how your daughter is doing. take care, B.