I Need Out

National Domestic Violence Hotline:

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Georgia Coalition Against Domestic Violence
P.O. Box 7532, Athens, GA 30604
Atlanta, GA 30354
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Website: www.gcadv.org

Both organizations can help you with your options and hook you up with local resources, no matter what you decide to do.

My personal opinion? Get out. As hard as it seems, get out. If a man verbally and physically abuses you it is unlikely to get better unless HE decides to make drastic changes, usually associated with counseling. It doesn't sound like he is on that path. And your children could be next.

Many prayers and hope,
Liz

Find the battered women's center for your county and get help from them immediately before things get worse-and they will. The center can give you and your child temporary housing and help you find a new one. They can also help you find a lawyer who will work at a low or reduced rate. Keep in mind that even though your husband says everything is his, the law says half is yours and will require him to pay child support and maybe alimony(at least temporarily so you can finish school and have your baby). Good luck

Do you belong to a church? Wonderful source of support -- spiritual, financial, practical. There are many sources out there!!! I read some of the other posts -- you can find the help you need to get into a better place. It won't be easy, but you CAN get there. You won't be able to do this ALONE. But, you don't have to go it alone. Call the available resources to find lawyers, counselors, and for assistance. Call Mom/Dad/friend for the help they can offer.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

Do you have any family or friends that could help you? Maybe take you in until you can get on your feet? That is not a good situation or environment for you or your child. I am sure you know that though.

i'm praying and hoping that you have family that can help you out...family that you can stay with? even if it means moving? there is hope...i will keep you in my prayers...

K., have you told him how you feel? What was his reaction? Is counseling something you and he might consider?

I only ask these questions because I'm hearing a lot of stress and anxiety in your statement but not a lot about how you've tried to communicate your feelings to your husband or how you've BOTH attempted to work out your hard feelings.

If he's as bad as that, then take it to the next step and see a lawyer to find out EXACTLY what your options are for your particular situation. See several lawyers as advice changes from one to the next but learn to listen to anything that all of them say with consistency.

I'm not saying stay in the relationship if you feel you must leave. But I am saying that if you don't even attempt to get BETTER counseling or work out a plan, you'll go into your next relationship with the same attitudes, the same reactions to everything around you and you'll end up in the same rut.

Do you want that?