T.O. asks from Manteca, CA on July 10, 2007
I Need Ideas to Keep My 2Yr Old and Me Busy
I have a wonderful smart 22 month old boy who I am currently home with while I job hunt. We are watching WAY too much PBS. I am so blaa right now it seems we have become very monotonous. Clean the kitchen, the living room, run arrands, lay around the house, wash rinse repeat. I feel like a sloth who only does very boring things. O.K. we do do things we color for 5 mins at a time we made cookies twice, we jump on the bed and play baby turtle (My baby puts a blanket or pillow on his back and says "Mama, (I'm a) baby turtle!" to and from the car we count all the bushes. My husband is my main conection to the adult world and he's not much of a talker. I love playing with my baby but this board mama is lossing her creativity and my son is becoming very mamacentric (He used to stay with my Mother in Law while I was at work and played with a 3yr old girl she also watched) How can we excape this deserted island we've found ourselfs on??
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K.L. answers from San Francisco on July 11, 2007
I have a very active 19 month old, and I stay at home with her while working full-time out of my home (I am currently a nanny to an infant girl) and we definitely have those days of PBS and Sesame DVD watching maybe two times a week - it's okay to plop your little one in front of some educational TV for an hour or so while you get done what you need to do around the house. I'd never get any housework done if I couldn't sit the kid in front of Sesame for a hour or two so as not to bother me while washing the kitchen floor or cleaning the bathroom, so don't feel bad at ALL about that! I found myself in the same situation as you when my daughter turned about 1, and was really eager to get out of the house.
Your two year old is now becomming more creative than he ever has been, so utilize those skills to keep him busy - take out some old magazines, a glue stick, and a piece of construction paper and make a collage of animals or people (some theme). Fingerpaint, build things with play-doh, create a story on a piece of paper with stickers of his choice. Take simple "nature" walks around the neighborhood and collect different leaves and flowers and inspect them when you get home - point out the birds, the bugs, the cats, anything that you see around to create conversation. I take my little ones to the park at least twice a week so that they can get some socialization with the other kids (and it gets em good and tired). Sometimes I give my daughter a bath at an unconventional time of day to mix things up. We go to the grocery store and I let her hold all the fruits and veggies while we talk about them - when I want to get a starbucks coffee, I get her a cup of milk in a starbucks cup which keeps her busy and happy.
You just have to use your imagination to bring a little more fun to things that you might do everyday. Call on your teaching skills (I am a teacher as well) and do things with your son as you would with your students - expand on otherwise boring or monotonous tasks to make them fun. Go to the nearest bookstore and let him pick out some books for himself. When I was a kid I loved it when my parents let me make "concoctions" by putting all sorts of different spices from the spice cabinet in a bowl of water (keeps em occupied for HOURS). Be creative, but dont think you have to go so out of your way to make things fun ;)
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K.C. answers from San Francisco on July 22, 2007
I am going to go against the grain here and suggest that instead of finding new ways to entertain your child, you step back and let him learn to entertain himself. I think too many parents these days run themselves ragged trying to "keep them busy" and it is doing a real disservice to kids. Provide him with open ended creative toys such as blocks, cars, people, playdough, and my personal favorite, felt boards. :) Model for him how to play with them independently, like go to the blocks and talk out loud as you build a roadway and drive cars over it, or make a tower and knock it down. Make up stories as you play by yourself and pretty soon he will know what to do. Sometimes when kids are used to being entertained all day you have to teach them how to play, so whenever you introduce a new toy get down on the floor and model it for him and pretty soon he will get it. I really believe kids need a long period of time of independent play every day. I joke around that I "ignore him all day" and go about my business, but my 3 year old is so creative and independent because of it. Good luck!
R.S. answers from Sacramento on July 12, 2007
i have the same issues with my 18 month old twins. here are some things we do to keep busy and play... build tents, play with bubbles, we go to the playarea at our local malls, we go to the park in the morning when it's not so hot, i take them to my parents property to run around and play with balls, we go meet daddy for lunch and walk around the busy downtown streets, grocery shopping, mall shopping, playgroups when we can, we also attend a music together class once a week. i hope this helps. i still feel like the girls need more interaction. try www.meetup.com for playgroups in your local area.
K.V. answers from San Francisco on July 12, 2007
Have you thought about joining some classes w/your son? If you live close to a YMCA, check them out. Check your local Park & Rec department as they sometimes offer music, gym classes or mom's groups. If you have some money to spend, there's also Gymboree. I did this w/both our boys (luckily I worked for them so classes were free) & all 3 of us loved it. With our first son, it was more for me so that I could get out of the house & meet some other moms. As you know, being a SAHM can be isolating. Going to the park is also a great way to meet other moms. Good luck!
K.P. answers from Sacramento on July 12, 2007
Join a play group! I belong to MOMS club of Antelope. We're there for each other. We do things with the kiddos but also have moms night outs and just get to network, vent and find support in people who are in your same position. MOMS Club International is found in every community and is open to all moms.
A.M. answers from Sacramento on July 11, 2007
hi tammi
check out motherssupportnetwork.org. this is a group of moms that get together with there kids most of the kids there are around your sons age one of my friends is involved in it they have singing time and play dates they gather at different parks around the sacramento area and sometimes they go to the zoo and fairytale town and all the mothers there are nice and welcoming so its good for the both of you not just your son. they do have a website which I gave at the start of this message and they have different groups they have one in Folsom and Greater Sacramento it's all on the website I hope this helps go out and have some fun. :)
E.S. answers from Sacramento on July 12, 2007
Dear T.,
As an early childhood educator and a parent of three children, I too found myself overwhelmed with creative ideas for my children. I consider myself to be very creative and talented with hands on materials and ideas, but doing it everyday, almost all day was toooo much for me! I started subscribing to magazines like Family Fun, Parenting, Jr Science, and, "The Mailbox" for ideas. The children had a blast with all the new ideas. Their favorites included: making vocanoes, decorating cakes, making hats for different holidays, knitting, and drafting (they surprised me with their drafting skills), and so on. Don't underestimate their ability to master certain skills. Just keep in mind, that everyone learns at their own pace. As you know, all these experiences helps develop their small/large motor skills, helps problem solve, and most important, they learn through exploration. Exposing young children to these types of execises while they are young allows them to be creative, outgoing, and will make them feel confident when given new experiments in school. Your son may be bored if he doesn't have friends his own age to engage with. There are serval mother-groups in just about every neighborhood that you may be able to join. Like adults, children too need others their own age to socialize with. Good luck, feel free to email me with any questions.
P.S. Have you thought about the posibility to operate a childcare business from your home? Take care!
E.
A.W. answers from Stockton on July 11, 2007
Do you drive? The Parks and Rec departments in Manteca and Stockton have some wonderful Mommy and Me classes to get you up and about. The libraries all have preschool story times, as does Barnes and Noble. If you go to the mall early, you can have the play area all to yourself! You could also join the Mall walkers group... put your son in the stroller and talk to him while you do a mile around the mall..... You mentioned you wanted to learn sign language... have you looked into BabySigns classes? You and your baby could learn together! :)
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