S.D. asks from Durango, CO on August 11, 2008
I Need Advise on How to Keep a Clean House, and Sain Mind, & Not So Tired Body!
I'm a new first time mom. My daughter was born a month ago. I'm blessed on being able to stay home with her. I'm just in heaven being a stay at home mom. But, i'm struggling with trying to keep on top of the house work everyday, but it just never seems to go away, or get better, does anyone have suggestions, or little tricks that helpm them.
L.E. answers from Tucson on August 31, 2008
It's a free website that really helps to you to put things in order doing just a little bit at a time!
Good luck :)
B.B. answers from Phoenix on August 12, 2008
Hi there. I know, it's crazy--you think you have this baby and you are home all day, so why can't you keep up on house work? Well, I am now the stay at home mother of a 2 1/2 year old, and it just gets busier and you get less time. If you can afford one, get a maid. That is honestly the only way I could keep up. I do light picking up--i.e. the toys, laundry, etc throughout the two weeks, and the maid comes every two weeks and does the deep cleaning, It honestly saved my sanity, and i get to hang out with my daughter while my house gets cleaned...what could be better? :) Let me know if you need a referral--I have an amazing and reasonably priced maid.
J.K. answers from Phoenix on August 12, 2008
I had a similiar request a few months ago because I homeschool my 4 kids and I was never caught up no matter how hard I tried. I had a lot of people recommend flylady.net and that was wonderful. Her website is very full so what I did was get on her email list. She sends out emails daily and it really helps. The first month is daily reminders to help establish routines. It was extremely helpful to me.
D.J. answers from Phoenix on August 12, 2008
You can try flylady.net.
However, the real truth is that with a newborn, you are not going to be able to keep as clean of a house as you could before-baby. I have a 2yo, and I STILL can't keep my house nearly as clean as I could before he arrived - probably won't until he and any other kiddos leave home! The main thing is to pick your priorities and be 100% practical about it.
Here are some tips I used:
- Revamp your recipe collection (slowly) to include faster recipes (still healthy, just faster)
- Use the crockpot
- Make dinner earlier in the day. Dinner time is when baby is usually crankiest and when cooking ends up being a nightmare.
- I try to always use this habit: Whenever I walk from one room to another, I take one item to put away. I try to do the same thing when I am in a room - put at least one thing away.
- The fewer knickknacks you have, the easier it is to clean and the less there will be to destroy when your little one starts walking.
- One load of wash a day keeps a mountain of laundry from forming.
Good luck! It's NOT easy having a new baby in a society that is as isolating as ours is. Don't worry if you can't keep on top of it because NONE of us can!!! This is probably the hardest time of your life, but it will pass! Blessings!!
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T.M. answers from Las Cruces on August 12, 2008
I have three kids and I'm a stay at home mom, too. I dispise housework...I HATE it! But it obviously has to be done. My secret is spending 20 mins every evening with the kids and husband helping going around the house and picking up clutter. And I make a date with the wash machine once a week to do laundry so I'm not doing it everyday, and that's all I do that day. And the main thing...I know it's hard because you think when the baby is napping that it's a good time to do your chores, but you should really rest when you're baby is napping. At least take one of the baby's nap time to rest yourself. And if it gets too much, call a maid to come in once a week to do those jobs you absolutely hate. For instance, I hate doing the bathrooms, so I wouldn't mind if a maid came to my house once a week to only do the bathrooms and I can handle the rest. Good luck and enjoy the baby, the house work can wait or be put on the back burner for awhile.
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T.N. answers from Phoenix on August 12, 2008
Check out www.flylady.net Her systems might really help you find peace in your own life like it did for me. Routines really help, and little bits at a time. It really helps me keep my house clean and keep routines and have a healthy attitude towards it all. Less really is more. It is SO much easier to keep my house clean and organized and the pick up the toys, etc, because we don't a ton of stuff. Also enlist the help of your husband and children. Let your husband what you need him to do in a nondemanding way and without coming across like complaining. Hopefully he'll want to help ease your exhaustion.
My 3 year old takes his hamper full of clean clothes from the laundry room and puts them away into the labeled (with pictures and words) baskets. He also puts away the silverware and empties his own dishes out of the dishwasher into his little cupboard. He also puts his dirty dishes into the dishwasher and has been doing most of this since he was about 2 1/2. It takes time to teach, but it helps me out in the end, plus it's teaching him an important life skill and the value of responsibility and pitching in.
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D.H. answers from Phoenix on August 12, 2008
Congrats on the new baby and being able to stay home! I've been a SAHM for a year and a half, I have children that are 6 and 2 1/2 and honestly, I still have a hard time with all the things you're having trouble with! And your baby is still a newborn - you should be resting too! Take your time - don't try to do too much, or you'll be even MORE tired and stressed out. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to be "Super Mom" just yet. Recovery time and bonding with your newborn are the most important things right now - housework can be done anytime, it's not going anywhere! There will ALWAYS be housework!! ;o) I'm resigned to the fact that my house will be cluttered until my children are old enough to leave home!
P.S. answers from Phoenix on October 02, 2008
Hello S., I am a childcare provider from chandler, and I have 7 children in my care. I also have 4 children of my own. I am 38 years old. You have to set yourself a schedule and also try to put the baby on a schedule, alot of people say that if the shildren are under the age of 4 months that you cannot put them on one. "YES YOU CAN" i have been doing this going on 10 yrs. The routine I take is I get up about a hour earlier and believe it or not that hour you can accomplish a whole lot. I put the kids doen for thier nap at 12:00 noon and they sleep until 3:00 everyday even the infant of 4 months. I then do what I have to do for my house work but leave about at least a good 45 min. for yourself to be able to regroup yourself and you will find this very helpful. I starty work at 5:30 every morning and I work till 6:00pm. I have alot of my parents come in to my house and say Pat how do you keep your house so clean! I know that when you are a first time you fell you are very tired, because you get up alot at night. I learned from my mom that when I had my first I remember she always use to say you cannot let yourself be over come by being tired. I also know she started to tell me put yourself on a schedule and you will see that you will vercome whatever it is that you are struggleing with so I did and I will tell you what when my maternity leave was over I was able to go back to work and know that I had already accomplished alot and that my baby was also okay.I hope these words of encouragement could help you in some way. I know you will be fine and you will find it very rewarding. Smile and have a good day!!!!!!!!!!!!
T.T. answers from Phoenix on August 12, 2008
Your life will never be the same- I'm sure you know that by now. I felt the same way when I started having kids... I like things nice and tidy and it was impossible to keep it that way.
here's what I've learned over the years:
1. Don't try to do it all at once- take breaks and get your rest.
2. Keep up with it but don't let it consume you.
3. Focus on the visible things- floors, mirrors, bathrooms. Forget the little things like dusting blinds, keeping everything perfectly organized, polishing furniture and the kids rooms (those never stay clean anyway!!!)...
4. Stay up with laundry, dishes and trash and you'll feel like life in managable. And.. your house will appear clean even if it's not deep clean.
5. Put messes behind closed doors so you don't have to look at them- that's the only way I've survived 3 boys being a perfectionist!
God bless you and enjoy your new baby!
A.F. answers from Phoenix on August 12, 2008
Don't worry!!! It takes several months to get back into the swing of things (if not longer). A good friend told me with my first baby to be happy and positive about even ONE thing you accomplished, like making your bed or folding a load of laundry. It will get better, but for now just learn to relax--you'll be a lot happier.
D.M. answers from Phoenix on August 13, 2008
When I read this entry, I was so excited to reply because I feel like I had the same exact experiences when my first child was born :). I had become a Full Time Stay at Home Mom after working a career, in which I worked at least 60 hours a week. And, let me tell you, learning how to take care of a newborn, and keep up with housework, meals, and laundry was 10 x's harder than my career! I remember wondering why I couldn't "accomplish" anything during the day (except brushing my teeth at 5pm :) ). Then, in passing someone told me, "Remember, if your baby is able to take good naps today - whether you are holding them or they are asleep in their cribs - THAT is considered a good day of "accomplishment". It is an entirely new way of thinking! You also need to remember that you have JUST had a baby! You are still recovering from birth and not getting good sleep, providing constant care, etc. My motto is "the first 3 weeks are "survival"; by 6 weeks - you begin to turn a corner out of "survival mode"; and by the time the 3rd month hits - you are having "fun" as a Mother". So, in your new days as a Mom, if you can feed a baby, take a shower, get your teeth brushed, and eat, it is a good day. Take one day at a time. Enjoy your new treasure. Rest when you can. You will eventually have a moment here and there to catch up on laundry. If you can get "one thing" done a day - consider that a good day. God Bless you and remember that you are not alone :). You can also hire a house cleaning service to help you during these stages of life :) - that also makes life much more manageable :) :). I am a Mother of 4 treasures.