I Lost My Daughters Best Friend

How old is your daughter? What kind of pet? how did you lose it?

When it comes to pets, sometimes there are situations that are hard to control. Like when a dog runs off. You do your best to get them home, and some just won't listen if they are not trained to respond. I found that my kids responded well to honest feelings of regret when it was my fault. This way they learn that we (parents) make mistakes also. I hope this helps in a little way.

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T.,

What happen?? I have dealt with pet loss and children under a few different cirrcumstances, but every sittuation is different.

Without knowing details, I can tell you that she needs to know that you are feeling her loss. Identify with her feelings and make her feel like she is not alone.

~J.

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Just let her know how sorry you are and give her time to get over it. Good luck.

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What do you mean??? You lost your daughter's best friend?? At the mall? Under the couch?

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There's not enough information here, T.. Are you talking about a five year old or someone much older? Obviously, something happened that would make her have such an abrupt response. You'll probably just have to wait and be open to talking it out when she's ready.

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How did you "lose" her? Did you lose her at the mall? Did you have disagreement? Was she your friend, or your daughter's friend? While I'd love to be able to help you, this is rather confusing. Perhaps you could post again with more details.

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T. C.,
What did you say or do that has made her so mad? Were you wrong in what you did, and if so did you apologize? Let her know how important it is to you and leave it to her to think about.
Okay, after reading the other responses, I found it you lost her pet or something. Try and relate it to something she has done so maybe she will understand it wasn't on purpose and things like that happen. Then tell you you would like to talk when she is ready and leave it up to her.
C. B.

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That is so sad! I don't know if my response will be helpful because I have no idea who/what the best friend was. My first idea was to explain that it was an accident & that you will take her to the store & let her pick out a new best friend. However, that doesn't go well with lessons on taking care of our things & how we can "buy love", etc... I would still try that with my kids, as an apologetic gesture from me... or I would try to replace the item with something I would hand-make. I also don't know how old your daughter is - is there any way to ask her how you can "replace" it (obviously you cannot "replace" it, I can't think of a better word). Tough one! Sorry you have to go through it. I've known parents who purchase duplicate items, so they can wash them without the child knowing, or so they can have a replacement in the worst case scenario. Well, I hope something is helpful & I hope she can forgive you soon!

C.

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what?
ditto what everyone else is saying.
good luck

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Ask her what you can do to make it better.

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T., hi:

how old is your daughter, and what kind of best friend did you get lost? a toy? a pet?

how did you lost her best friend? think about those questions and put your self in her shoes, then you may ask her for her understanding,etc. in time she will forgive you.... she needs to know that you value her and respect her things, but accidents do happen...
warmly,
sandy

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