lol L..... so many responses... were any effective?
I was married 26 years. I hated sex with him for years and years and years. Men see sex as a "release" and women see it as "emotional" we want to feeeeel something. I was so disgusted with him in that way, that I would read while he "did his thing". I knew that my sex drive had shriveled up and died.
THEN I dumped him. Moved to a new state. Have no contact with him. Started dating for the first time in 25+ years and let me tell you, it wasn't ME that was shriveled up and died. I am the horniest I have been in my entire life and I'm (GASP) 50 years old!!! My boyfriend will sing to me... and I get excited. My boyfriend will talk with his low voice and I get excited. My boyfriend will hug me and I get excited. Get the picture?
Soooo how is your marriage outside of the bedroom? Are you happy with him? Does the sight of him coming thru the door or asking you a question send chalkboard-type noises in your head? Do you enjoy going places together? Is there still things to talk about, to share, to laugh about together?
THESE are the questions you need to ask yourself . . . because you only go thru this life once, and it is much to short to be in a relationship where there is nothing but longevity holding it together.
Do you love him? Then talk about it with him. If he went to work today and didn't come home, would you notice?
Good luck to you !