L.B. asks from Bedford, TX on February 14, 2009
I Have a Phone Phobia!
Can anyone else relate? I HATE to answer the phone. Guess it's from years of handling heavy phonework when I was working. Now I'm a stay at home Mom with a special needs son and a hubby who travels quite a bit. You'd think I'd be lonely but I'm not. I would much rather answer emails or do text messaging.
How can I get over this fear?
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So What Happened?™
Thank you to everyone who responded to my "phone" problem! I guess my misery has plenty of company, in that most of you have that same aversion to answering the phone! I do have an answering machine and voice mail, but eventually I do have to return the calls. I try to make it a point of calling at least one person back every day, and keep it short (I use my son as an excuse to get off the phone, heheh!). I don't think I'll ever get over hating the phone, but at least I'm coping a little better!
S.K. answers from Dallas on February 15, 2009
I hate the phone too. I wonder if it comes from dealing with a special needs kid? I have one too. He is 21 though. And a 19 month old. My husband travels all the time and he is on the phone constantly even when he is at home. He talks to lots of friends all the time. Me - basically if I can't keep up over e-mail then I just don't talk to my friends that much. It is hard to talk with the baby around and when she is occupied or sleeping the last thing I feel like doing is talking on the phone. Sorry I can't help you because I have the same problem. Seems lately that my best friends are my online friends. Thank goodness for facebook because at least I do still keep up with some old friends that way.
M.T. answers from Dallas on February 15, 2009
I think it's great! Your son needs you and being wrapped up on the phone takes your complete attention away from him. I sometimes feel guilty because I get to gabbing on the phone and I know it's very neglecting to my children. My husband's mother talked on the phone while he was growing up so much that he HATES the phone. It was always just very painful for him when she held up her finger and said, "I'M ON THE PHONE!!!!" There were 5 boys in the house and they just ran wild! So I really try to limit it. I do the thing the other person responded and pick a time to return calls during the day. I should do better, though!
Hope this helps. I can't think of one kid who likes it when their mother is on the phone!
C.P. answers from Dallas on February 15, 2009
I can relate! It seems like every time the phone rings is just after I crawled under something, climbed on something or put both hands into something! Oh, and don't forget the grabbing the kids to leave the house...that seems to be a definitely phone calls flood in. I also have a question for you... could it be the tone your phone has? I know it sound silly but some rings are so abnoxious that instantly put me in a bad mood. I don't know if you have call forwarding and would like to try forwarding the calls to your cellphone and changing the rigntones and see if it doesn't irritate you as much.
By the way, I'm NOT trying to convince you to answer the phone...but if you find a ringtone that doesn't irritate you... you can still ignore the calls and not be so irritated w/ it. Also, can you change it so the answering machine picks up after 2 rings, or better yet, directly to answering machine??
thinking about your question inspired me to google and look what I found: The RM-200 Magic Ringtone MP3 lets you use any MP3 track as your incoming home phone ringtone.
I've never heard of it but sounds cool. now I want one. LOL....
Good luck! ~C.~
K.S. answers from Dallas on February 15, 2009
Wow, you pretty much described me with the husband traveling, still not caring to answer the phone and not feeling lonely! It is easier to text or email b/c you are really not investing of giving of yourself. You are already sacrificing so much in taking care of your son, etc. I do think it is okay sometimes, but not as a rule. I am in ministry and also super busy, so I often have to force myself to answer the phone, especially when I have so very few moments to myself. However, life is not just about my needs or comfort zone. Others need that connection with us. And even though you do not feel lonely, you still need to connect with and to be in community with others. It is important to not to isolate either yourself or your son. But, I think you probably feel that or you wouldn't have posted your question. Hats off to you for all you do to bless your son and family.
J.S. answers from Dallas on February 14, 2009
I can very much relate. I will check caller id, and even if it is someone I enjoy talking to, I either don't answer, or almost have to talk myself into answering. I also put off making phone calls--I don't know why. I don't have any suggestions to help you, but I will definitely be checking back to see if you get any helpful responses.
K.H. answers from Dallas on February 14, 2009
i do the same thing. i just get tired of answering calls. so i have a time of day that i turn off the ringer for a couple of hours. if it's important then they will leave a message. of course i always have my cell in case its an emergency but i just feel that people always think they HAVE to answer the phone whenever it rings. if i'm busy or don't want to talk then i don't answer. this may not be the kind of advice you're looking for but this is just how i feel
M.L. answers from Dallas on February 15, 2009
I don't have suggestions for getting over it, but I will tell you that can I totally relate. I HATE talking on the phone! I almost never answer my phone unless it is my husband or my mom calling (and it drives my mother-in-law nuts), and sometimes my sisters. I would so much rather email or text. I even make myself 'invisible' when I'm online so I can choose when I chat with someone, rather than being surprised or interrupted by someone wanting to chat with me. It's sad, and I honestly wish it wasn't this way because I know my mom especially wishes I would call her more. I feel like I am becoming something of a hermit, because all I want to do is spend time with my husband and kids - which isn't bad, but I feel like I need to expand my social life so it doesn't just revolve around them ... but I don't know how. I guess I'll be checking back to see what suggestions others have.
Just know that you aren't alone in this phobia.