S.S. asks from Osgood, IN on February 18, 2011
I Am Lazy and Stupid for Being a SAHM..what!
So this is more a rant then anything else. my neighbor told me that i was an idiot who couldnt get a job (now this is the first time i have ever talked to her) now my last job i was promoted twice within two months so I am good at what i do (or use to do lol) i told her that I stayed home so i could raise my son (who is 18mnths old and i enjoy every minute of it...or most of them anyway) she said "its called daycare." I told her that I wasnt raised that way (dont get me wrong i have nothing against working mom its just that my mom was a SAHM and i really sppreciated it and since it is possiable for us to do it I want to be there in that way for my son, and I am greatfull that I can be a SAHM in fact my hubby works two jobs so that it can be possiable) she told be I was just being stupid and lazy. any of you other SAHMs come across this kind of thing. how did you react?
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So What Happened?™
thank u so much everyone for all the answers! now that i am thinking clearer I will give you a little background. our neighbor rents the house and i guess when they moved in there were never told where the property line was. no big deal we were use to a neighbor who has 5 kids who used our yard as a playground (we were sad when they moved because they had such great kids) she is not married and lives by herself (except for her sister and her kid who come over and stay off and on) her dad comes over to mow her yard. well this summer we had a drought and he still insisted on mowing every week. he was mowing our side yard to and killed the grass. still we said nothing, but one day my hubby and I were around the property line talking about putting in a border garden (we cant do a fence because of the way our yard drains and the way our houses sit.) and her dad was mowing he saw where we were standing and asked if he was mowing to far over. we said that he was and that it was no big deal and pointed out the property line. well she still puts stuff on our property, she rakes her leaves into our yard and puts her garbage bags in our yard instead of the curb. but i dont think its worth fighting over so i have said nothing. well now she has a new puppy and my son and i were playing in our yard and i noticed that she had put the stake to its leash on our property line. the puppy is not big but big enough to knock our my 18mnth and was doing its buisness in our yard (and my son thinks he needs to put this is his mouth..eww!)) I knocked on her door. and nicely pointed out the property line again and asked if she could just move the dog back al little so it is not in our yard (she doesnt really have a front yard but has a huge back yard so i am not sure why she is sticking it in the front yard anyway. well she tells me its not killing you so stop complaining. I said no its not killing me but i dont want its poop in my yard because the bacteria will get in my sons mouth if he finds it and touches it. she told me to mind my buisness and i told her its my yard and my son and it is my buisness and once again to please move her dog then i walked away. i am in my yard when her dog leaps up and sratches my son. (its a puppy so i know it didnt know any better but still) I have my son in my arms so i use my foot to push him away. she comes out screaming that I kicked her dog. then starts in on how i need to get a life and a job and put my kid in daycare yada yada yada. then told me if she saw me again she would kick my a$$. seriously she did scare me I call my hubby who was on his way home. we called the sheriff (seriously this woman is crazy) to tell him of the threat and we are told there are no cops in our town till tomorrow at 7pm (we called at 2:30 pm) crazy. I guess its a good thing it wasnt an emergency. but now i am afraid to take my son out to play intill the matter is solved
A.H. answers from Canton on February 18, 2011
Geez that was really harsh. I am not a stay at home nor do I think I could be. IMO stay at home Moms (especially ones with small children) work harder than most people with paying jobs.
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D.M. answers from Denver on February 18, 2011
She is just ignorant. Do waste any more energy on her or her ignorant opinions... enjoy the little guy!
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S.M. answers from Kansas City on February 18, 2011
Did she really use those words? I can NOT imagine a non-related, uninvolved person saying such a thing.
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J.S. answers from Chicago on February 18, 2011
If she works, she's jealous of you.
I have been asked what do I do all day long now that the kids are in school - like being a mom stops when your kids are in school. I say that I lay on the couch, eat bon bons, drink champagne and f*ck the pool boy. Then I walk away from their stunned faces. I have no use for people like that.
Pay no attention to her.
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S.L. answers from New York on February 18, 2011
You should have said "I want to make absolutely sure my children grow up to be well informed, well educated, thoughtful, respectful people. Too bad your mother didnt bother.
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M.J. answers from Sacramento on February 18, 2011
People say just as awful things to us working moms. I think people who criticize others' life choices are just unhappy with their own. What difference does it make to anyone else whether you work outside the home or stay at home? Do what's right for your family and don't let people like that get to you. She's a nut.
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M.K. answers from Kansas City on February 18, 2011
"Maybe I am lazy and stupid but at least I'm not a rude B*tch!"
This is the first time you talked to her?!? The nerve!
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M.M. answers from Fort Collins on February 18, 2011
Just laugh at her; tell her yes; you are a bit stupid 'sometimes I forget to turn off the BBQ, other times I forget which one is the brake and which one is the clutch so don't be surprised if you accidentally burn down your house and hers or drive through her front door ;-)
The fact she would even say something so rude and judgemental to someone she barely knows means you should never value yourself based on her opinion.
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T.K. answers from Dallas on February 18, 2011
I'm just soooooo curious what brought this up in conversation. I can't imagine a perfectly sane woman walking up to you and randomly calling you names. How did the subject come up?
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J.B. answers from Atlanta on February 18, 2011
OMG -you've never talked to this person and she said this to you?!?! AND she's a neighbor of yours? She sounds like she has personality disorder! Even if she thinks that, she should learn how to filter!
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D.N. answers from Chicago on February 18, 2011
I actually got the reverse when my older kids were born. We could not get a sitter for them--no one was willing to watch 3 babies for the price we could pay and the amount they wanted could have qualified for extortion. I didn't think it was fair to leave them off on my mom )promised myself I would not do that when all my bros and sisters did) Anyway, I had insurance and daddy didn't. He stayed home. He got comments that I was lazy and did not care about my kids and it must be so hard to take care of them, poor daddy. This came from his side. Because it was my job to take care of everyone. When I got home, he went to work so we switched off. Taking care of kids is hard work--1000 jobs rolled into one so if you get the comment again, and really want to comment, tell the person you have the best job because it is the one you really want and you enjoy it. The best job is the one you love, in or out of the home.
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