I Am 9 Months Pregnant and Getting Depressed HELP!

I just had my 3rd child 2 months ago and went through the same thing. I didn't know what we were having, I went to a birthing center for the first time, and I was a few days later than when I thought I would be having the baby. I was so crabby the last part of my pregnancy I felt sorry for my own kids. This will pass:) You will have the baby and forget it all.

I hope this helps!

My heart goes out to you. I was so depressed by the end of my last pregnancy. I spent half my days talking myself out of slitting my writs (seriously). It is horrible! I wish I had wise words, but the only thing you can do is hang in there. Cry when you need to cry. Scream when you need to scream. It truly will be over soon and it will be like a distant memory.

One thing I did during my lowest points was write down my emotions. I use those writings to inspire me now for example to go to the gym when I am not motivated so I do not feel fat and ugly like I did then.

While I can't say I had depression issues much, I did pick fights with anyone and everyone while I was prego!

It sounds like a faily meeting is in order. One that outlines the fact that while they might think the dishes magically get washed and the laundry gets done by imps...this simply isn't the case!

Now...on to the depression and need of estrogen...I have a 17 month old daughter, I myself am looking for some mature and reasonable women to befriend. I find alot of ladies in my age range have different priorities then I do, so I tend to get bored quickly, but I am trying to find a few good friends. Besides, hangin with some fun girls is always a blast! I like to garden and grill, and I hate to do dishes! My daughter is alot of fun as well!

Anways, I hope you feel better, and that you can whip those boys into shape!

Oh and do you have a Body Pillow? I found ita HUGE help in my sleep, both while prego and since!

Hi A.,
Yes it is normal, there is nothing wrong with you. You are just waiting for the delivery, which hopefully will be soon. Aimee I have 4 boys and my husbnd, I have discovered that with men one has to be specific when we ask them to do things. They do not realise things, or think whet they need to and can overlook things. You need to tell them what you need done.
Things will get better.
All the best for your safe and healthy delivery.

S.

Hi A.. I too am in my 9th month of pregnancy, and this baby can't come out soon enough for me. What you are describing is pretty normal. I was depressed during my 1st pregnancy, and it was a lot different than what you are describing now. Don't feel guilty for being human. We all have times when we are irritable with the people in our lives. I was so mad at my husband last night that I couldn't see straight. I'm still not quite sure why. But just the sight of him sent me off the edge. The baby has to come out eventually (at least thats what I'm told), and I think that will probably take some of the stress off of you. I know it's hard to be this big, hot, aching hormonal mess surrounded by insensitive morons. I am still trying to come up with a clever response to the stupid questions people ask. Maybe you could talk to your doctor about scheduling an induction. At least then you will have a light at the end of the tunnel. That is what my doctor has done for me. I'm scheduled for induction on Sept. 21st, but would prefer to go into labor before then (today would be nice). My thoughts are with you. Hang in there!

I'm in the same boat. I'm due Monday and I am SICK of being pregnant. Actually, I was sick of being pregnant after the first day of morning sickness back in January. I really think it is all hormones. I have been miserable for 9 months and can't wait for this little guy to make his appearance. I was the same way 2 years ago before I had my daughter. I went through a bad depression during my last trimester with her.

My hope comes from knowing that pregnancy doesn't last forever and after the baby comes, I will return to my normal self again. I really don't like me right now, and it affects all of my other relationships. When your unhappy with yourself, you don't have much to offer anyone else.

I had a total meltdown on Sunday and cried my eyes out. I think it helped relieve some of the frustration. I still hate being pregnant, but I do feel better than I did. Also, my doctor gave me pain meds yesterday to take the edge off of the constant contractions that I've been having for a week now. That has helped a lot. I actually slept last night!

Hang in there! The end is in sight. You aren't alone.

T.

Hi A.,

i spent most of my last pregnancy in a deep funk i didnt want the baby, i didnt want any one near me, i didnt want to go through with the whole thing i just wanted it to go away. i'm also a pretty happy person but my mom told me that the depression will get better and eventually you will return to being that very happy loving mom that you are. it helped alot that i had her to talk to same as you i have a house full of boys and even the cat is a male so im always out voted...my depression went away a few months after the birth of my last child. now we are one big happy bunch (most of the time) but talk out your feelings my husband was clueless as to how i felt and how lonely i was even in a house full of people. after i told him he was and still is much more attentive to my feelings and can help through the rough patches..much luck and i hope you get to hold your new baby soon...
take care
S.

Hi A.,

I am very sorry for what you're going through and you will be in my prayers. I wanted to let you know that it is not out of the ordinary, regardless of whether child 1 & 2 were "normal", my mother was severely depressed with me, and I'm the youngest, but was fine with my two older siblings. I also had a difficult (emotional/depressive) preganancy as well, not that I was surrounded by people that drove me crazy, but that I was not in contact with anyone at all. I moved away from my family and friends before I found out I was pregnant, actually waited out all the hurricanes of 2004 in the pinellas pennisula with nowhere else to go. I was supposed to go into a great career field before I found out I was pregnant, and that was given to someone else once I had to tell them...then you could hear the sighs of disappointment, which made me feel horrible. Also, I had some thoughts that I feel ashamed now to even say, but, it happens sometimes. I love my son and he's the biggest blessing I've ever received.
Anyhow, I don't have any true words of wisdom either, but the way I see it, this is your time, you are supposed to be the one being catered to...if they don't wash the dishes, gosh darn it, then they just don't get washed...they'll wash 'em when they need 'em (I hope, but with men you never know). Do what you want and need to do that's going to make you and your baby healthy/happy, that's what matters most. However, if it does get unbearable, you could question your doctor about a possible enduction...even if it's just a week earlier than your due date. Anyhow, best of luck and you'll be in my prayers.

OMG--what you are experiencing is soooo normal the last month of pregnancy! All the fears of labor (even though you've had 2)--being super uncomfortable because of you and your babies size! My Dr.(and many others) actually suggested 1/2 glass of wine before bed to relax!
I was so big during my pg that the last month I couldn't even tie my own shoes. And my shoes didn't fit because my ankles were so huge. It didn't matter what position I was in--my sons head or foot or elbow was always poking me somewhere painful! Just keep telling yourself it's almost over! But then of course, you'll have a new set of challenges...

Pay attention to your depression though--if it continues for more that 2 weeks after your delivery-talk to your DR! It's natural for us to be moody and temperamental with the amount of hormones running through our systems--and then suddenly the absence after the baby is born--but if it continues for more than two weeks or it is so drastic you can't cope with your newborn--please talk to your Dr so he can get an Rx to help you through balancing everything out---

Hang in there! You will have that baby soon and everything will be fine. Mention your feelings to your OB/GYN perhaps he can help you as well.
Us moms certainly understand those feelings you are having. Been there done that!!! I have three children and I know it is very difficult to have to do the dishes while there are capable bodies there in front of you! Make them do the dishes and other things from now on!!!!!!!!! You will need their help when the baby finally comes!

A.,

First things, first. Try to let go of the guilt you feel for feeling the way you do. I honestly believe that all too often Mother's guilt stays with us and it never goes away, whether it is not being able to accomplish 36 hours worth of work in a 24 hour period, with a cold, children, all the household responsiblities and in your case pregnant! I am just as guilty as anyone and I know some of what you are going through. I am four months pregnant and have a two year old. My husband works out of town a lot and has been gone for about a month and a half. I had the worst weekend thinking that I was a terrible mother because all I wanted was to be somewhere else other than with my son 24/7 with no break (our family does not live here).
As far as the housework, I do agree that most men need to be told step by step what needs to be done and then they will take care of it. They are "fixers" and if you sit down and have an honest and calm (as much as is possible) talk with your husband, I am sure he will do whatever it takes to make life easier for you. Also, don't feel bad about doing something a little selfish for yourself, whether it is a pregnancy massage or just some alone time. You are definitely not alone in the way you feel, so stop beating yourself up about it. Remember, you have every right to feel all the feelings that you do and don't ever let anyone tell you different!
Bless you and your family and I know that it will get better for you soon!

A.,

You'll make it! During the last month of my pregnancy my husband asked my mom if I would ever go back to normal? (good thing he didn't say anything to me!) My daughter was born a week after her scheduled due date, that last week was hell. I tried walking miles and just about every other method of spurring on delivery because I just didn't want to be pregnant anymore!
So yes it's normal to hate yourself and everyone else around you no matter how patient or kind they can be!
Good luck! And go do something that you would normally enjoy, ie see a movie, go out to dinner, etc!

I am sorry to hear that you are feeling quilty. At least you don't feel guilty. I have wondered what it feels like to be a blanket. hehehe. Yes I was happy/sad all of the time with my first child. With my second I was just tired. One minute I would be laughing hysterically the next I would be crying. Well your in your home stretch. keep up the good work.

I am sure you have heard the same thing from many others, but i know it helped me to hear it a lot. this is not uncommon. i felt the same way with my last pregnancy, I was super moody and exhausted all the time from my two year old and being soooo pregnant (had twins).
what you do need to be on the watch for is after the baby is born. it is normal to be emotional, sad, moody, happy, fearful etc. but please do not let these emotions get too out of hand (post partum depression) before you get help.
in all honesty, my moodiness lasted throughout the first three months post birth, mostly from lack of sleep i think.
remember to get help if you feel you are too emotional or you are getting depressed. your ob/gyn can help.
my advice for you, find a support person outside of your husband. preferably someone who has had a child and can relate. someone you feel comfortable talking to, crying to, complaining to. it is always nice to get things off of your chest, and not doing so can cause an emotional avalanche! i wish you the best of luck and please contact me if you need to talk (cry, complain etc). i felt like you did and i truly wish i had had someone to talk to. good luck and congrats!

A.,
HI I am J.. Your probably sick of hearing that that you are emotional because you are pregnant, but it has alot to do with the way you feel. No one did dishes ever when I was pregnant. It's frustrating when you can barelly do things and people don't help. Once you see your new baby you'll feel better. And if you are anxious to have the baby, talk to your DR. and see if she'll scrape your membrane. It usually helps you go into labor. Besisdes it doesn't hurt to ask. I have no cure for your depression. But rest, rest, rest! You know your body is working over time right now, you can catch up on the house work later. Or once you calm down after being upset ask your husband or son to help you. My 11 year old loved to help me while I was pregnant. And he kept right on helping, no my daughter is 3 months, and I practically have to fight him for her. I was depressed off and on during my entire pregnancy, I think it is normal. And if you are very depressed talk to your doctor at your next visit. They are pretty reassuring. Or can help you gt help if you need any. GOOD LUCK and CONGRATS on your soon new boy. ____@____.com

Hello! I just had my second son. He is twenty weeks old now. Let me tell you, I talked my husband into having him just positive he would be a girl!! Well, needless to say I spent a lot of my pregnency depressed, especially the last month when you can't tie your shoes because you can't reach your feet! Or you have to roll out of bed(after little or no sleep!) because you can't sit up anymore. Every little task seems daunting and everyone seems demanding and annoying, even your beloved husband and children. OF COURSE IT'S NORMAL! Don't feel the slightest bit guilty, just hold on to the knowledge that it's almost over! Remeber that when your holding that little boy in your arms it will all have been worth it! I didn't feel that way with my first son either but I didn't have any other children to take care of while I was pregnant, I'm sure you have a lot more going on this time which makes feeling as huge as a whale and extremly uncomfortable ALL THE TIME more exhausting then before! Good luck, your almost there!!!

The way you feel is perfectly normal. You have been excited about this for 9 months and you are now at the end.
Your ready to hold your baby. As you know that baby cannot stay inside. He/she will be born.
If you need to cry, cry. Then wash your face and move on. Let us all know when your special delivery arrives.

A.,
I am so sorry you are going through this. I got very depressed (even suicidal) late in my pregnancy...everyone talks about POSTpartum depression, I had antepartum or prenatal depression. I spoke to my OBGYN about my feelings of depression and suicide and I was prescribed Zoloft. I remember one night just getting up and driving to a vacant parking lot and just sitting there crying and writing a note to my husband, I didn't know if it was going to be a suicide not, but I just was writing everything that was in my mind down. I stayed in that car til it was light out.

Please speak up to your OBGYN, even if she/he can refer you to get some counseling, ANYTHING will help!

Writing my thoughts down helps me cope as well, sometimes showing those written thoughts to your other kids and your husband, can help them better understand your feelings.

Update us on how you are coping!

Good Luck!