Husband Snoring Need Advice

A snoring poem!

Sleeping with someone else is overrated. As long as they have sex and are happy and affectionate together, it won't affect the kids at all. She can just tell the kids, "We sleep apart 'cause dad snores."

It's not the end of the world to sleep apart. I can't imagine crying because I couldn't sleep with my husband, or writing a poem about it. It sounds like a blessed gift, to me, to sleep in my own room.

is this a haiku or something?
how is this something to cry about, or wring one's hands over 'will the kids understand'?
he goes to the doctor, gets a sleep study, and uses a C-Pap if necessary. or just gets the little breatheright strip and see if that helps.
if all else fails, sleep in separate rooms. it works for millions.
what ear problems result from ear plugs?
khairete
S.

This is not a big deal. People need to sleep. If the kids don't know Mom &
Dad are sleeping in separate rooms because of hte snoring, tell them. Maybe one morning just joke about it. "Hey, Bob, how was your night? I gotta tell you, I love you, but I'm so glad your snoring doesn't keep me up when you're in the other room :-)"

Just put it out there. The kids deserve to know the truth - nothing is wrong, but Mom and Dad sleep better in separate rooms due to Dad's snoring. No biggy!

Your friend needs to stop being so rigid. Maintaining a long term marriage and relationship requires flexibility and a willingness to change and compromise. If the sex and relationship are good who CARES where you sleep?! It's better to wake up refreshed and happy than cranky and resentful.

Your friend needs a good swift kick in the pants.
She wants to "cry" about this? Maybe she could change places with my sister for a while. Her formerly healthy, happy husband has basically been an invalid for almost a year, following an accident and complications arising from the accident. They can't even have sex right now let alone sleep together.
Now THATS something to cry about, but she doesn't she continues to love him and care for him and their three young kids.
This isn't a "fight" at all it's a grown woman pouting because she can't have what she wants.

My hubby and I quit sleeping in the same bed about a year ago for this exact reason. We still have a very active sex life, but when it's time to actually go to sleep, he gets up and goes to "his room." It has nothing to do with the state of our marriage or our sex life; we just both need to get a good nights sleep.

As for the kids, why doesn't she just tell them it's because of the snoring. If they see that their parents have a good marriage, I doubt the sleeping issue will be an issue for them.

And BTW, we don't FIGHT with this in our marriage. It is what it is and it's not a big deal - there is no "fight" about it or around it.

My husband and I often sleep apart. I have an illness that means I don't sleep well (so I was disturbing his sleep) and he snores from time to time, so we found we just sleep apart when we need to get a really good night's rest. My kids have never thought anything of it.

My husband has tried those sleep right (?) nose strips (not sure if that's the brand) when we have to sleep in hotels or tents. That way we can sleep. I will say they work with some success. In those cases, we just shake him if it gets bad, and he rolls over. They seem to only snore (or it's worse) in certain positions.

Alcohol makes my husband's snoring ten times worse. I have heard that from a lot of my friends. So that's something he is aware of. If we've been out, he always sleeps in spare room.

Weight is another factor. When my husband quit smoking and put some weight on initially (quite a bit) his snoring worsened. The doctor said that's a factor.

Hope that helps.

My mom and step dad have separate bedrooms due to his snoring. They used to do like you and try to sleep together but she got tired of being woken up and having to move all the time so she remodeled the spare bedroom and made it hers. At first he was a little hurt she moved out, but it has worked out better for them both. They can still have an active sex life, they just visit each other ;)

Do you hear your husband's breathing stop? If so then he really needs a sleep study. My friend just had one...they connected her in her house so she slept in her own bed.

my husband snores. i have been sleeping using earplugs for last 13 years. i don't hear him snore.

Has your husband gone to the doctor and asked for help with his snoring?

Is he a diabetic?
Is he overweight?
Does he drink a lot of alcohol?

I see you stated he refuses to do a sleep study. Tell him - fine. No sleep study? Let's up your life insurance because your snoring is going to result in long term issues - sleep deprivation and more. So if you fall asleep at the wheel? We will be covered! Tell him to grow the hell up. Get to the doctor. Get the sleep study done. He might need a CPAP machine - they have some that are relatively quiet (I know because my friend who was with my dad this summer used his in the motor home - and I didn't hear it!)

Stop moving. Elbow him and tell him to get out of bed. it's HIS snoring that is bothering you. HE needs to move. Keep elbowing him until he gets out.

Sorry but I have NO patience for adult males who refuse to see a doctor for something.

he needs to see the dr and get the sleep study done. my uncle refused it for quite a while. he then had a heart attack and while in the hospital he had a severe sleep apnea issue and nearly died. they did a sleep study and found that he was lucky to be alive with how severe his apnea is. his only symptom before diagnosis was loud snoring. so PLEASE talk to him about getting checked by the dr and doing a sleep study.

I use earplugs and they help a lot.

We also have a Sleep Number bed and have it raised up a bit at the head.

My hubby is routinely up by 2-3 am to work in the office, let the dogs out, check the armadillo traps, etc. My house is a circus from 2am and on through the night. Every time he opens the door the babysitter alarm goes off and now he is in the habit of leaving the door open to not bother me but that bothers me more since we live on a wooded lot and have little creatures running around that I don't want in my house.

Me? I need my sleep. It is not uncommon for me to take a couple of benedryl or Simply Sleep when I go to bed and I get a deep enough sleep that he does not wake me, however, my natural body clock is awake by 2am.

Our sleep cycles are different. He can easily function on 4-6 hours of sleep and I can't. Sometimes we do have musical beds and have been known to be in 3 different beds in 1 night.

The earplugs do help a lot.

He really needs that sleep study. My husband didn't want his either. Having apnea can be a very dangerous thing. I would ask him to do it based on the danger rather than tell him it bothers you. That should be more effective.

Have also struggled with this for 20 years. Not only does he snore, but gets up at 4:30. We do sleep in different rooms but continue intimate relationship before actually going to sleep. I am a horrible sleeper, so it's not all his fault. I am a much nicer patient person when I'm well rested. I'm a better wife and mother when I'm not pissed off that I was up all night.
That's all that has worked for me, so we just deal with it. We do have a spare room that I've installed black out shades and I sleep with a fan for white noise.
Every marriage has its challenges, and this is ours. We have worked it out and we consider our marriage fine, even after 20 years.

My husband has been snoring like a freight train most of our marriage. It doesn't wake me up (anymore), but it often keeps me awake as I always go to bed later than him. On nights that my insomnia kicks in and his snoring bugs me I just sleep on the couch. Everyone needs to rest. That's just a fact of life. Your friend may be a bit co-dependent in her marriage if she is this upset over such a non-issue.

She can't solve this problem. She can either sleep in a different room (and seriously the kids will understand that she can't sleep because daddy's snoring is too loud) or stay in the same room and have sleep disruption.

Hubby should be tested for sleep apnea. If he's just snoring then its annoying but ok. If he stops breathing while sleeping that's a huge issue.

Mr. Fuzzy snores when he sleeps on his back. I shake him, tell him he's snoring,he rolls onto his side, and the snoring stops.

Why won't he see a doctor? He may have sleep apnea. Does he think he'll be forced to use a CPAP and doesn't want to? My ILs have slept apart for many years due to snoring and restless leg syndrome. They still love each other and MIL can stay up late without bothering FIL. It works for them. I agree to be honest with the kids that this is still "your" room and should be respected same as if you only had one master bedroom. Does he know she cries because she want to sleep with him?

My hubby snores too. It can be particularly bad however I've learned several things along the way.

1. Fall asleep before him.
2. If his snoring wakes me get him to turn over which doesn't awaken either of us for long.

I would also advise you learn how to sleep deeper and heavier. You can't be getting a good nights sleep either if you are a light sleep. It's that deep sleep that is needed for the body's restoration and revitalization. Even if your husband doesn't do a sleep study perhaps you should. I'm concerned about your light sleeping.

In our house and our marriage separate bedrooms are NOT an option. So each of us are committed to doing what we need to to stay together.

I'm sorry - your friend needs to be more vigilant about insisting that he have a sleep study. It' snot just about her misery - which I understand is significant. Her husband is not going into REM sleep and is severely sleep deprived. His body is not going into that stage where it repairs and heals itself. He needs to be evaluated for sleep apnea. This is not just an inconvenience - he is quite possibly a danger to himself or others.

She should sleep in another room so that she is rested enough to be save driving. He is not safe behind the wheel, and she should refuse to drive with him or allow him to drive the children, even if he says "I'm fine." There are other health risks for untreated sleep apnea as well, and they are not minor.

They should not be deterred by stories about sleep apnea equipment (CPAP machines and so on). There are new treatments, both in terms of a simple breathing apparatus and also outpatient medical treatments that improve the shape of the soft palate and other structures in the back of the throat. For many people, these take care of the problem.

If she refuses to drive with him and insists that he increase his life insurance, maybe he will get the message. Our family has been positively impacted, and our marriage enhanced, by seeking treatment.