I totally know where you are coming from. My husband isn't as bad with the traditional role talk but I know deep down he thinks it. My sister is also in the same boat. I tell my husband and any other man that thinks his wife is his slave that slavery was abolished long ago. And women 'back then' also didn't work at all usually, they stayed home with the kids and took care of the house. But it was always the man's responsibility to take care of the outside of the house, car and any repairs. I find that my husband can't even be bothered with his own traditional responsibilities but he expects me to take care of mine while running the entire household and my own two businesses. And he expects me to be his own personal secretary for his business. It drives me crazy. I don't have any good advice, sorry. I wish I did. I just wanted to let you know that you are not the only one. I have tried nagging, asking nicely, screaming my head off, and nothing has worked. I even tried guilt and he started to help out for a few days and then things went right back to the way they were. If you find something that works let me know.