Hubby's Vasectomy Tomorrow - Any Advice?

My husband wished he had put frozen peas on his testicles straight out of the office, rather than waiting to get home. He felt near perfect in 2 days.

Buy his something special? Wow, you are nicer than I am. I pushed 4 babies out of my vagina, without ANY drugs, with the largest being 11 pounds and I never got anything. A few days in bed sounds like reward enough. LOL

The doc will tell him to stay in bed for 3 days or so, tell him to DO IT! When I had mine done I went home that morning and layed on the couch. The next morning I felt better and went about as normal, driving, mowed the yard (pain pills can be quite deceptive). The NEXT day, I paid for it big time! I spent the next 5 days in bed.
I'm not one to stay still for long so this was tough. Good Luck!

Follw the Dr's advice.

My hubby felt great and refused the ice. OH BOY, was he swollen so much I thought he was going to explode.

He did not feel bad until he neglected to put the ice on anyway. Same thing happened with our neighbor.. He came over for cocktails and he was in bed next day.

IF they follow Dr advice, it is not an issue. Not much pain, etc. It hard to get some men to just take it easy for a day or two which is needed in this case.

More advice for you - expect a big old baby! ha ha

Seriously, tell him to LISTEN to the doctor and stay off his feet for a couple of days or more. ICE, ICE, ICE! And don't be stoic, and take the pain meds. :)

Jennifer P hit the nail on the head. You're nice for wanting to do something nice or buy him something special, but a vasectomy pales in comparison to having babies.The few days of being in bed should be enough "special".

My husband was only sore for about 2 days but not to much pain. He put frozen peas on his stuff right after he left the dr office. My husband was up moving around on the 2nd day. You are nicer then I was to. I agree with Jennifer P. I had the babies and it was not easy and I didn't even get recovery time so I think a day rest on the couch is good enough. For you child just say that Dad is laid up for a day or two and leave it as that. If he asks more question answer them honestly. It is part of life! Good Luck with everything

When your hubby is laying in bed with his legs apart don't let your son jump on the bed between his legs.... even if your son isn't even close enough to hit "him".

My son did that and my ex jumped up SO fast and from that movement he swelled WAY up. Also a bag of frozen peas work wonderfully as an ice pack.

Due to that movement he was in bed for a day and a half to two days. Otherwise I think he would have been up and around the next day.

I guess our experience was not of any of these, nor where any of our friend's husbands or any other that I have heard about when done properly. My hubby told me he could have gone back to work the same day. Now grant it, he has a desk job (lol)! He never had any problems.... You almost could not even tell it was done besides the two stitches. In the medical world, we have seen a huge difference in urologist performed v/s family practice performed. The complications and recovery are both little to none when a urologist performs one and the guys follow the rules. They do so many, that the manipulation to get to the vas deference is almost none. Now do know, that it is or should be told to the guy not to have sexual intercourse nor should he masterbate or take on any sexual pleasure for those two weeks. Many times they swell because they have had the rush of semen from outside stimulation. If they keep those little "ducts" free and the manipulation was minimum then the inflamation is almost nothing and there is little to no pain. Stock up on the Ibuprofen and have him take 4 (800mg) every 6 hours for 3 days and he should be good to go. It is the swelling that causes pain. Of course no bike riding/spinning. No overly done exercise for a couple of weeks and he should be JUST FINE! It is a bigger deal for us to push out babies, have c/sections or tubes tied than that. Just think, we send ladies home the next day after vaginal deliveries and after have tubals and they do not go home and get in the bed. So if you have a hubby who needs to be in the bed (he is totally milking it). (SHHH)! Do not be nervous, he will be fine if you have a doctor who does them routine. Everyone is saying "peas"; that is so funny to me. The only reason they use to suggest peas is because they are frozen, flexiable and cheap! There is no magic in peas. He can use a true ice pack. They are soft when frozen. He can also use what we have women use, frozen cabbage leaves.

Do not worry, he will do just fine if you guys keep all sexual content and ideas out of your heads for a couple of weeks. Do not think of it as the "Big V". When you went to push that watermelon out from between your legs, did we call it the "Big D"? (LOL... ) Trust me, that was BIG!

Congratulations on him taking on the responsibility and not make it yours. Also congratulations on knowing your family is complete; even though that cuts down on my job stability ;) Also tell him that all men report his orgasms will not be any different, down the line. It will just be less sticky for you!

Good luck!

When my ex-husband had his - he was in pain for about 24 hours. He used ice packs and took Tylenol.

Talk to the urologist who is performing the procedure and see what they say to expect.

I don't know your husband's threshold for pain. So that needs to be taken into account as well.

When one of our friend's had his done - he was skiing the next day. It was ice for the first 24 hours - and after that - he was great. Another friend, Nicky's Godfather, had his done - he was down for about 48 hours. Then good to go.

Have ibuprofen ready to go in the house and 3-4 bags of frozen corn or peas for ice packs. Start the pain meds and ice constantly the first couple of days and that will make the recovery much quicker. Make sure he doesn't lift anything the first couple of days.

I LOVE Jennifer P's answer! :o)

You could buy him a nice big box of condoms and tell him you are looking forward to seeing the lab report that he is cleared :)

You'll need ice and ibuprofen as others have stated.

Surprisingly, I thought my husband would be a baby, but he handled it really well. Just give him a couple days of rest. My husband wanted beer, so he got some of that also. But he was back up and at work on Monday after the procedure on Friday. (My husband was a huge help to me after having our girls...so I returned the favor.)

My hubby said he was really surprised he wasn't in more pain. He didn't have much swelling either. But he prepared for it and followed the doctor's order to a t. We bought three of those ice packs...the gel kind that get cold but don't freeze solid. I spent all day handing him cold ice packs for him. He said he didn't really feel like he needed the ice, but wanted to do it just to prevent any swelling or pain. The next two days he lounged on the couch. He felt fine and wanted to do stuff, but he was worried about hurting himself (I imagine he played google doctor before the appointment). I know he didn't take the prescription pain meds and I don't think he even took any Tylenol after. Monday he was back at work feeling fine.

No advice on how he'll be - I think alot depends on how he handles pain in general. Some people are big babies some are very stoic. I think as long as he has the remote in his hand he'll be find. ;o)

As for what kind of present... take a cue from what he got you for carrying his babies, pushing them out and then taking care of them in the middle of the night, when they're sick, doing homework, laundry, etc. Some husbands are greatly appreciate of all their wives do and some aren't. He's really not *doing* anything - just getting a teeny-tiny snip which is smaller and easier than it's ever been before. ;o)

My husband was sore for about 2 days. He DID NOT need to lay down in bed. He DID use ice packs as instructed. I personally hate ice packs, but he doesn't mind the cold at all....

Don't worry about what the five year old would say. My husband just ended up sitting on the couch and watching more TV than usual, not one of my four children were concerned. Something special for your husband? I just brought things over to him that he needed so he didn't have to get up a bunch of times. I think I ordered take out at a nicer restaurant one night and brought it to him... My husband performed in a rock concert the same week (he's a musician) he got it done. He got it done Monday, and performed on Saturday.

It really isn't much of a big deal... He'll be fine:)

My husband was fine right after...but then in pain for about 2 weeks. Have bags of frozen peas on hand. My husband used that to help with the pain.

He'll be fine. My husband said the procedure itself wasn't bad - it took maybe 10 minutes and I was in the room with him. The doctor was HILARIOUS!! So that helped :).

But yea, my husband who goes to work even when he feels like death took a few days off. Maybe he milked it some though :).

It's been 2 years and things are fine now - good luck!

Make sure you have a few bags of frozen peas to alternate and tell him that he needs to keep those on as much as possible for the first few days and also to stay off of his feet. Everyone is different, but my hubby, who almost never complains about pain, had a really, really rough time with his V. From what he said, his urologist had a really hard time cutting through his vas deferens and was tugging and pulling a lot. He was in a lot of pain during the procedure and was white as a ghost afterwards. He followed his doctor's orders and iced himself like he was supposed to and he still had quite a bit of swelling and a lot of pain. I don't remember how long it took before he felt back to normal, but it was definitely longer than 2 weeks for him. He also said that if the procedure didn't work the first time that he definitely was not going to go through it again.

Good luck to your hubby.

They all handle it differently. Some guys will be all macho and act like nothing's happened and some will lay in bed like they just had part of their brain removed and want/need to be waited on.
My husband didnt stay down, he walked around the house (slowly), just didnt do any lifting and such. I've had friends whose husbands required cold compress changes and breakfast in bed for 3 days.
So, it's a toss up.
If he chooses to stay in bed and lay around, all you have to tell the kids is that he isnt feeling well, they dont need any more detail than that.
Just make sure you have an ice pack, that's about the only thing he'll need for swelling if he has some. There will be bruising too. I'm sure you will be checking his "wound" on a regular basis since you will be able to see it better than he can. Have a hand mirror by the bed so he can check his boys on his own if you dont want to be giving the hourly detail on what it looks like ;)

My hubby was back on his feet doing chores the next day.
Pretty sore for day 1. But he laid on the couch with his feet up. He didn't take his pain meds - didn't need them.

It really wasn't a big deal at all.
I can't imagine a scenario where he'll need to be in bed for more than 1 day. I know lots of men that have had them, and all of them were back to normal the following day.

I agree with the frozen peas. That being said, I know some people who said they "felt fine" afterwards and went walking around the mall with their wife and ended up swelling up very bad. My advise is, even if he feels fine he should go home and lay down for about 24 hours after. My husband did this and was good to go the day after "the procedure". :) Good luck! My sweet hubby just slept the day away. I would make sure he has plenty of movies to watch, books to read, or video games to play. :)

My hubby was a BIG baby. He as very little pain tolerance. It took him probably 2 weeks to get over the swelling/bruising, but up and about in a few days. Like Julie F's hubby, mine was very pale afterward (it took several tries of the local anesthetic before it worked)...he almost got sick in the car!

Didn't really do anything "special" other than normal "take care me, I'm sick" stuff. :)