HS Reunion

I was very happy I went to my 20 year reunion and caught up with a few friends I hadn't see in years. I wasn't really popular but high school wasn't a miserable experience for me either. I'm glad to be back in contact with so many old friends. Also nearly everyone was pleasant to each other and I saw no leftover high school drama at the reunion.

Skip the 10 year reunion. Most people are still putting up a front. The 20 year reunion is when most people are genuinely happy to see each other and are fun to be around :-)

Mine was worth it but not for the reasons one would typically think - hubby said I was so hot and could not keep his hands off me! Lol. I am fairly certain that was the night we conceived our first child. :-)

(maybe this is another deterent for you?)

Good luck on your choice.
-C.

My 10 year reunion was a blast! I had so much fun!
I had a great time in high school and it was great that so many people were able to attend.
I went to my 25th and it was not well organized at all.
They just had the 30th recently and I didn't go. It wasn't well planned, there was no actual "dinner". It was just drinks and some people crashing at other people's homes if they wanted to.
I wasn't interested in that. Plus, I live an hour away from where it was held.
I just wasn't feeling it.

I think you should go if your husband wants to. It might be nice to say you went to at least one. You never know, it might be fun.
You won't be alone, you'll have your husband there.

It's just one night. Surely you and your hubby could use an evening out.

Just my opinion.

My husband and i have the same group of friends. We went to our 10 year. We got a hotel across the street first and had cocktails and appetizers. It helped to warm us up :)

It helps to get a cute shirt, shoes, highlights....anything to make you feel good. I was the odd girl. I had 4 kids already. I do understand where you are coming from with fb though. My 10 year was in 2005, no one really had a FB then :)

Both my husband and I skipped ours. Just didn't care. I am still in touch with anyone I cared anything about, including a couple of favorite teachers. I saw pictures from mine and I had no idea who any of them were. None of them were in the circles I was in . I went to a huge high school, thousands of kids. There was no way to know all of them. Most of the ones that went were the cheerleaders and jocks. I was in drama and choir and arts in general. Most of the cheerleaders and jocks were conceited jerks with money and not enjoyable to spend any time with. There were a couple exceptions but seriously, that was about it. My friend that graduated the same year and I were talking about it when we got the invite. He skipped it as well. He had no interest either.
I was absurdly expensive. At the time I had a very young exclusively breastfed child that I could not leave with a sitter plus my 2 older children.
I do not regret it at all. I am glad I didn't go.
Facebook has kept me in touch with anyone I cared about. We still live locally and can physically hang out with a good number of them and do when we can.
I don't see what the fuss is over high school reunions. It wasn't the most amazing time of my life. That didn't happen until after I graduated. It was a necessary evil of life. Nothing special.

Both of you should go and have a great time! Get a great dress and a new outfit for your husband and show your former classmates what a good marriage you have. Bring lots of photos of your baby.

Blessings.

Mine was this past summer.

I did not go.

Mainly because the friends I am still close with are not going.

I was pretty indifferent during my HS years. I had my core group of friends. My acquaintances I was not close enough with to care...Or I keep up with them on Facebook.

The other issue was the douche bag(pardon my use of language but I call them as I see them sometimes)that was planning it...was doing so from Arizona and was not planning on even attending. Which made it hard to get things done. Since he was the class President Senior year...He was the boss man.

I was very vocal on the fact I thought it was only really fair to have people here local to plan it. Because the micro managing of things was turning people off. Like in School though the popular kids fought with harsh words and bullying tactics...Which made me realize I truly had no want to catch up with them. They had not changed.

If you are having trouble deciding whether you should go or not.....Find out if anyone person you truly want to see is worth spending the bucks for it. Because it would be cheaper to try and attempt to see them outside of a 'set up'' play date.....

Much like cleaning out your closet...If you have not worn it in a year or more...Do you need to keep it. Same could be said for a reunion....Unless it is something you absolutely feel you need to do....you dont HAVE to do it.

I didn't go to my reunion, mostly because the people planning the reunion were kind of planning it for themselves and they wanted 75.00/pp. So, 150.00 bucks for me to see people who I already keep in touch with on FB and could meet at a local restaurant for FAR less? No thanks.

I *may* go to my 25th reunion but 10th people are still insecure and way too close to high school the have the life experience and perspective I'd love to see from some of them. It's all about how "successful" you've been in 10 years. Things start to even out around 25 years with most people falling into the middle ground of having gained a little weight, lost a little hair, raised some kids, worked awhile and just settled in with their lives.

Yeah, I'll probably go to the 25th reunion. THAT will be interesting.

I would go, especially if the hubby is there beside you. Rent a hotel room for the night. Have a plan that if you get to feeling extra uncomfortable you can go on to the room or something. That way he can spend time enjoying and you can have some quiet time if you need it.

I think this year is 35 years I have been out. I asked on FB if anyone was planning one so now I think they are. I weigh nearly 300lbs and hate the thought of going but I would like to see some of my friends in person. I am friends with the ones I think are important too.

If it is really important to your husband, then I think you should go. If you need to travel and get a hotel or if the price is the same as a vacation/concert somewhere better you could suggest that to your husband. Sometimes showing up at a less formal/cheaper event (a group of HS friends might go to a certain restaurant or bar) could be fun and take the stress out of the reunion.

We always attend and always end up having a great time.

My husband and I have known each other since middle school, but went to different High Schools. He also enjoys seeing everyone.

before the 10 year we put out a message that bygone, be bygones.. we were all grown up now and we were all going to be happy to see each other..

Even the divorced couples all got along.

If you go here is what I have learned to say when I I am greeting people..

Hi! I was L. M. I remember you from choir! How have you been?

Or
Hi, I was L. M. I cannot recall your name, but I know we had Math classes together! Please, remind me of your name.

Or
Hi, I was L. M. I need your help remembering that girls name over there.. Or that guy over there.

There are all sorts of excuses people make over the years and once they attend, I have had so many say, "I should have come, but I was worried about what it would be like.."

The baby sitter situation, just ask people that live in that community who they use or if they have church friends that will sit.. Or make arrangements for one of your parents to watch your child.. Make it a weekend get away..

My hubby and I went to his...our son was a couple months old, so it was a fun night out. We have family in town that could watch him - but it is a different story if you would have to search out a sitter.

My dad always liked going to my mom's reunions...but he is a goofball and did some really funny things. Maybe you could have a few glasses of wine and try one?? :-)
1: He would put on name tags of people who didn't show up, walk around to other classmates and say, "Guess who?" (this was at my mom's reunion where he did NOT go to school)
2: Put on a name tag of the opposite sex and tell people you had a sex change (but this might be offensive)

I think with the internet and being able to keep in touch via FB and other social media, the need for the reunions has kinda decreased. But, it still is nice to get out IN PERSON and see what people have turned into. At my 5 year, I got drunk off the free beer and had a BLAST!! It was nice to have a good time and not care about the opinions that mattered so much just a few years back!

My 10 year reunion was last year. I didn't go. For one, this one girl wanted to plan everything and would set meetings and not even attend herself. Then another girl took over and had everything planned, but the original girl got mad and wanted to still plan it. Then it still didn't get planned.

Finally, it turned into a dinner and drinks at a bar the second week of December. Which was another issue. I wasn't going to travel back for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and the reunion. We're talking 400 miles, 6 hours of driving ONE WAY. Because of the timing around the holidays, most of the people that lived more than a couple of hours away didn't go. Then because of the drama planning it, the few people that attended were mostly just the friends of the original girl.

The drama that played out on Facebook was ridiculous and I didn't want any part of it. I didn't really have a lot of close friends in high school, since I just moved there my freshman year and all of the cliques were already formed. It wasn't worth my time and money to go see acquaintances for two hours. I definitely don't regret not going.

ETA: And the cost! I forgot about that. It was going to be over $50 to attend, plus the cost of drinks and food. Add that to gas to get there and I was looking at about $200 for the night. Luckily I would have been able to stay with my parents and not have to pay for a hotel or babysitter or it would have been at least an extra $100. So not worth it!

For my 10 and my 20 I went to the happy hour, but not the reunion. I had a good time, but didn't have to stay a long time. I went with a friend to the 10 year, and my husband went with me to the 20 year.

I missed my 10 year reunion due to a death in my family, but my 20 year is this summer and I am planning to attend.

I went to my high school reunion. I came from a small private school, and our class was around 45. We were all very close, but more of a brother/sister type and would fight and had our set of friends, etc. I don't remember how much it was, but it was fun. It's great to see what everyone looks like and what they are up to ( this was before facebook was big), and some had children, etc.

It was funny because most of us were much the same that we were in highschool. The bitches were still bitches, and the nice guys were still nice. The best part was seeing one of my guy friends. He was the biggest guy in high school, and at the reunion people didn't recognize him at first. I did though. It was great to see him healthy and happy!
I think the 20th one will be better.

I didn't go to my 20 yr reunion and I regret it. I was in contact with a few people from school and it sucked to hear, after the fact who all was there and see the pics.

I went to my 10th and 30th. It was a waste of time and resources. The people that gave me a hard time then hadn't changed that much.

I did meet some nice people that I knew but wasn't friends with in high school, but overall, I'd have been much happier spending money on a vacation with my wife.

If your husband wants to go I'd let him. Once may be enough and then you can do something really interesting with him at a later date.

Good luck to you and yours.