R.A. asks from West Des Moines, IA on September 15, 2008
How to Transfer 19 Month Old to Toddler Bed
My husband and I are pregnant with our second baby, due in a few months, and are needing to transfer our 19 month old son out of the baby's crib. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to do this? He loves his crib and goes to bed wonderfully every night so I am nervous to change something working so well, but I need to start to get the nursery set up as I was on bed rest the last four weeks of my first pregnancy. Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
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Wow! Thanks to everyone for all of the great responses. My husband and I are still working on exactly what we will do but the ideas were all so helpful. We will likely use a bassinet or seperate crib for the new baby if my son isn't ready to make the transfer before then. We have a few months so I am still hopeful that he will wake up one day and want to be a big boy, but I know that isn't guaranteed. I really appreciate all of the suggestions....Thanks so much to everyone!
N.P. answers from Lincoln on September 23, 2008
I would of loved it if my kids stayed in their cribs longer! Once they knew how to get out I couldnt keep them in. Feel blessed that he stays in bed. Good luck with the new baby!
S.B. answers from Bismarck on September 16, 2008
Is there any reason why you can't use 2 cribs?? If he sleeps great where he is, I'd leave him alone and get another crib. Mine stayed in his crib until he was well over 3 years old. That was his little "nest". He had no idea how to get out of it and I never showed him! I guess he just wasn't a climber.
C.W. answers from Minneapolis on September 16, 2008
We have 4 kids, and all of them are between 18-26 months apart. We started using a pack-n-play for the baby, sleeping in the basinette part. That gained us several months of continuing to use the crib for the older child. We did also have a toddler bed that we used for the 3rd baby after the basinette, once he outgrew the pack-n-play. We were a able to keep him in there until we thought he may become mobile! Then, we switched the beds for the 2 youngest. By having the toddler bed visible to the older one, she gained interest, and was excited to sleep in the "baby's bed". Good luck!
Q.N. answers from Grand Forks on September 16, 2008
My second was also born 21 months after my first. We put the toddler bed in her room with the crib and let her play on it and get used to the bed. The two kids also had to share a room so the crib was going to be in the same room with her anyway. One day around 18-19 months she wanted to sleep in the bed and I just never put her in the crib again. I was waiting for her to ask and she never did. This way she made the choice and never felt like the baby took her bed. I like to have them in the new bed at least a month before the baby comes so they don't have that feeling of baby taking their bed. We had to do the same with my second and third children as they are 22 months apart. My son was harder to get to stay in bed during nap time mostly. We did a lot of sitting on the floor in his room refusing to talk to him while he went to sleep. Slowly we moved to the doorway and so on. It was a bit frustrating but worth it in the end as we did not want to buy another crib.
J.S. answers from Minneapolis on September 15, 2008
This is just me, but when my second was born my first was 20 months and I bought a second crib. My older son had not been a good sleeper, and was just starting to consistently sleep through the night and I did NOT want to screw that up! SO, I bought a used crib for $50 and it was totally worth it. My first stayed in this crib till he was nearly 3!
Good luck to you,
J.T. answers from Cedar Rapids on September 16, 2008
I would suggest when you transfer him that you take down the baby bed or put it where he cannot see it. I transferred my oldest when she was 18 months cause we were expecting our 2nd and put the crib away until after the new baby was born. Both my kids slept in the bassenett for about 8 weeks. My oldest had a hard time staying out of the crib after we put it back up and I once found her in bed with the baby, SCARY!! I would tell your little one what is going to happen about 2 weeks before it is going to actually happen so he can get used to the idea of a "big boy bed" and keep reminding him when it's getting closer so he is prepared too. Hope this helps and good luck to you:-)
L.H. answers from Minneapolis on September 16, 2008
I had the same issue as we were expecting twins, however our son started crawling out. I got some great advice- and we opted to upgrade to the twin bed instead of using the crib tent. I like the idea of taking the crib down so he associates it with the baby when it comes- in our case, we changed rooms around and made his nursery the guest bedroom, so the crib was moved into the former guest bedroom.... and he moved into a totally different room with a twin bed pushed against the wall with a bed rail on the opposite side. I started by sitting outside the room with the door open, but it took an hour plus and after a week wasn't getting better, and I found it hard to be consistent as he'd bring me books, etc and give me that look like, 'Just one more before bed?" I knew once the twins came I wouldn't be able to spend an hour after reading books and prayers, so ended up saying "goodnight" and shutting the door (as we did when he was in the crib). He still cries for a minute or two (as he always has) but then settles in. He's now 23 months and that's just how he goes to sleep- we also have a video monitor and a safety knob over the door knob so he can't get out until we get him. He LOVES his big bed... when It's nap time, I just tell him he needs to rest and read some books and have some quiet time- and he always falls asleep... but he can now get in and out of bed, grab books, etc. We haven't looked back since!
K.B. answers from Milwaukee on September 16, 2008
Please consider that there are plenty of adjustments for your little guy to except when the new baby comes. Taking away a crib where he completely loves may be a little too much for him. Maybe consider borrowing a crib or using a pack n play that has a bassinet attachment for a while. This may give your son a little time to adjust to being a big brother before switching him.
Congrats and good luck! A growing family is such a blessing!
E.B. answers from Duluth on September 16, 2008
We moved our first not because we were expecting but because we were afraid he was going to ruin the crib with all the bouncing he did. We set up a bed in the guest room (the nursery would stay a nursery, since we were trying to get pregnant at the time) and started him on naps in that room. Then we moved some toys...and he kinda had two rooms for a while. It was a very easy transition, esp since he was the only one and could spend time in both his former nursery and his new, big boy room.
M.C. answers from Des Moines on September 16, 2008
I first put a twin mattress on the floor because we had not gotten the furniture delivered yet. This worked for us but naptime was especially difficult. She kept getting off the mattress and coming out. When we got her furniture we put it up against the wall and a bedrail on the other side. We also put a baby gate in her doorway so she couldn't leave her room. We have a 2-story and I worried about her falling down the stairs at night. She eventually learned but it did take patience so it's good you are doing it before the baby comes. Good luck!
M.C. answers from Des Moines on September 16, 2008
We found a Graco Crib at Target for $150.00 Not a bad price and we really like it. It is convertible so we can use it as a toddler bed too.
Otherwise use the bed without the frame, so it is low to the floor. DO NOT put pillows on the floor for him to fall on. I heard an aweful story about an 18 month old baby suffocating when their parents did that (I don't want to scare you, but i think it is need to know information to keep your child safe)