How to Show Im Attracted to My Hubby

I would explain that you have a problem with your body the same as he does his. Then ask him if he still finds you attractive, and he says yes, I would say exactly!!! That is my point, EXACTLY!!! I would point out the fact that you both have changed and that you both have insecurities about your bodies, but if he finds you attractive then how could he expect less of you. I would also explain that you aren't so shallow of a person that you are attracted to just looks, but rather the entire person. The scars and being heavier is what happens in time and they are just book marks showing where you two have been together throughout your marriage. They are proof that there is love and affection that is much deeper than the surface.

My husband is very attractive,but just had 22 lipomas removed. He looks like he got into a knife fight and lost. I personally don't even look at them. I don't care in the slightest, but I can tell you that every scar will remind me of having to go through the whole ordeal and it will remind him that I was right there by his side. My 2 C-sections left my stomach not close to what it was and he swears it doesn't bother him at all and I truly believe him. If it weren't for those surgeries we wouldn't have two of the four children we do.

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Heres what I would do, Get a babysitter for the night. Get a wonderful bottle of champagne and strawberries or a wine. Make his favorite dinner with candle light. Put on some very mellow music and try to get him to relax with a massage. i think you could take it from there =)

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Tell him what you told us. Again.

Have you ever read "The Five Love Languages"? Perhaps verbal words of affirmation is not his love language but it is yours?

Exercise helps me to feel more attractive. It helps my husband too. Perhaps finding a new hobby together that includes a little physical activity would help.

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I know with my hubby it takes showing him. Putting a little action in my words makes the words go a lot further. I know it's not always easy with little ones around. Since he's been working at home, we'll occasionally just lock the door while the kids are otherwise occupied (nap for the littlest). He loves that I am the one who initiates. All the words in the world never made him feel attractive. Since we've been doing this, he's even lost 15 pounds! Unfortunately, I'm gaining since I'm pregnant, but it's been fun to watch our weight together, especially since it was his idea.

You are so sweet. I have one word for you - massage. People with eating disorders who received regular massages got better. You can do the same thing for him. Get a book or get into a massage school, this can also heal a lot of trauma from those surgeries, which can make a person feel more like a piece of meat than a human being. Good luck.