H.S. asks from Aurora, OH on March 04, 2008
How to Potty Train My 2.5 Daughter! She Shows No Interest???
I don't know what to do? This is my first child and we have had the potty now for 6 months or so, but everythime I take her to it.... she wants no part of it and she will fight me, if I try and put her on it, what to do? I have no idea! What is the best way to get her interested? I work part time too, so I am afraid potty training will not go well, since I can't be home everyday to help her with it, am I wrong in thinking this way? I am really unsure about having my husband helping with the training process either.... not sure how well he will do, he is not sure how well he will do, he has no confidence in that department! Any information will help, thanks!
So What Happened?™
I just wanted to thank everyone for their help! I feel a lot better now that I have read everyone's responses. I know now, that I'm not the only one who has a kid that isn't potty trained yet! It makes me feel good about how I am handling my daughter and it's nice to know that I am going about things the right way!
M.D. answers from Cleveland on March 05, 2008
Well, I had my first and only daughter at age 40 and I had no idea how to do anything. I never even changed a diaper! But everything worked out fine. I don't have any great idea. I though potty training would be difficult, but my daughter actually learned on her own. All I did was put the potty chair in the bathroom. When I went to the bathroom, she would go with me, sit on her potty and she learned quickly. She wore regular underwear before she was 2 and never had an accident. I was very fortunate. Good luck!
J.M. answers from Columbus on March 05, 2008
I have a 2.5 year old daughter myself and I found that giving her a treat everytime she goes to the potty works well for us. Whether it be a couple gummy bears or just something I know she likes and if she does well for a week I try to treat her with something nice like a toy or pizza or something at the end of the week.
L.G. answers from Lima on March 05, 2008
try sitting her on the big people toilet. AT that age my daughter was big enough to get up on it and much preferred that over the potty chair, plus you don't have to empty or clean up the toilet.
S.H. answers from Columbus on March 05, 2008
I started potty training my 2.5 old son 1 1/2 weeks ago. I too had heard that they would show interest but he never has. I just decided to bite the bullet and do it. I made a big deal...took him to the store and bought "big boy underware" with his favorite characters and told him that he was a big boy now and wouldn't wear diapers anymore. He gets an m&m when he goes in the potty. (proven to be a big motivator-he RARELY gets sweets so this is a big deal)
The first 4 days he didn't get it. I think he went on the potty once during that time. I was starting to think he was too young. He didn't even notice when he had an accident. But then, on the evening of the 4th day he told me he had to go poppie and he's been going on the potty ever since! I couldn't believe it. It was like it just clicked with him.
I work full-time and I think my sitter was even starting to question after the first few days if he was ready. But he was, he just needed some time to figure it out. BTW-my husband got frustrated with him at first and we had to have a talk about the fact that he's only been doing this for 3 days so give him a break.
I think the key is to stay committed and don't go back and forth with diapers/pull-ups and underware
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A.D. answers from Columbus on March 04, 2008
My daughter was the same, i wanted her to be potty trained before we went on a trip out of the country last summer so i won't have to take all these diapers with us and she wouldn't do it so i gave up and took the diapers with us.. any way we came back, a few months later, before she turned 3 she went potty in the bathroom all by herself ( i realized she went because she was walking around naked, didn't put her training panties back on) and immediately after that first time, she didn't want training panties anymore and has been potty trained ever since ( same thing for nighttime she refused the panties at night as well)..i realized She just has to be ready for it. It's not only a physical readiness but mental too.Hope this helps,
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M.S. answers from Cincinnati on March 06, 2008
if she shows no interest she is not ready
L.E. answers from Columbus on March 05, 2008
My advice is to just wait a year or so. I wanted to have my son trained before my daughter was born, and it was such a struggle. I finally gave up, and he figured it out when she was 2 months old. (He was 3 1/4 yrs old then.) I think that he decided that it was time to "be a big boy" once he realized that he was wearing diapers like his baby sister was. Unless you have to have her trained by a certain date in order for her to be in a preschool, don't worry about it. (We actually had a potty when he was 18 mths old that he used sporadically, but he didn't really get into it until he was closer to 3 yrs old.) I've heard that most kids figure it out by the time they're 3 1/2 or 4. Yes, it seems easier than diapers, but just wait until you're in a dressing room, half-dressed, with a sleeping baby in the stoller, and your elder child says, "Mommy, I have to go NOW!" (Or, be smarter than me and don't even attempt to try on clothes with two kids!) :) Good luck!
C.E. answers from Muncie on March 05, 2008
The only advice I can give is that I believe your daughter will be 'ready' when she begins to show some interest. I have an 8 yr old son and a 4 yr old daughter and I started them out on books and videos from the library about going to the potty. We're also a very open family and so wherever mommy and daddy are, so are the children...including the bathroom. I believe my children were able to mimic 'potty procedures' as well as found the resources interesting and then were open to training. I was fearful with my children that I would turn them off to training if I tried to push them, so I just tried introducing the potty a few times and if they reacted against it I would leave it alone for a week or so and then revisit it later.
I hope you find this helpful.
A.H. answers from Cincinnati on March 05, 2008
First, just relax : ) She may not be ready. I have had one train at 33 months and one at 37 months - and when they are ready and excited about it you'll be shocked at how easy it was : ) Keep the potty in the bathroom and let her "play" with it, sit on it etc...She will be potty trained, don't worry. And don't let anyone pressure you into getting it done right now! Once it is time, rewards for everything work - sitting on it, going pee and especially #2 : )
A.M. answers from Cincinnati on March 04, 2008
My daughter was 3.5 when we finally got her fully potty trained. But I went out an had her pick out her favor candy, M&M's and I put it in a clear jar in the bathroom. Every time she would sit on the potty I would give her 1 M&M and if she peed she got 3. She finally got the hang of it after about a month. Then if she poop on the potty she got 5. I was really against using this because I thought this was not a good way to get her interest. I also used a sticker chart. When she would pee on the potty she would also get 1 sticker and 2 for pooping. When the chart got full she got to get a prize from the dollar store.
Hope these ideas help.
K.W. answers from Cleveland on March 05, 2008
Mine was daytime trained by two and night-time by 2.5. Unfortunately, there's really nothing you can do if she's not interested. She will do it when she's ready. First thing I can stress to you is that you MUST have a good support system, meaning when you're at work and she's in someone else's care, they MUST be willing to continue what you have started so not to put a wrench in your schedule, making you start all over again, every day! Consistency is key. (Unfortunately, I'm trying to figure out how to be consistent with discipline at an older age - but that's another topic I'll probably post for help!!)
Since she's not interested, don't make her sit there for long, but DO take her. EVERY 30-45 minutes. Set the timer on the stove if you have to. It's a hard routine to get into, especially when you're doing things around the house. Even if it's just to pull her pants down. She's at least learning that that's what she does at the potty. If she will sit for you for a couple minutes, read a short story. We kept a basket of "office supplies" (aka: reading material - daddy is in his "office" for a while!) for her right next to daddy's....lol. When she goes, make sure you make a HUGE deal about it. Clap, sing, make noise, etc. Give her a sticker to put right on her potty so she sees her rewards whenever she goes. If she doesn't go, it's okay. She may go as soon as she gets her clothes back on....and that's okay too. Just be consistent. The other thing that worked for us was letting her pick out whatever big girl panties she wanted. We let her wear those during the day with a pair of rubber/plastic pants (just to protect the furniture). The reason was so that she could feel that she was wet. Sometimes she peed a tiny bit and stopped it until she told me she had to go...sometimes she peed and then told me she went "potty"...not exactly the "potty", but at least she was recognizing the need to go - and that's what you're aiming for. One day, it was announced that she went potty but she was dry and she escorted us to her potty and sure enough....she did it all by herself - she had actually peed on the floor and in the potty...but she did it like a big girl!! ** We had ice cream and cereal for dinner that night! ** lol. (Whatever works, right?) It wasn't smooth sailing from then on....but she was getting the hang of it. Again...I can't stress enough the importance of having a child care provider willing to help you with his. It's a BIG job. There are many books and articles out there that guarantee to train your child in a weekend, a day, whatever...but we didn't even try those. Night-time is another story....we just got her up before we went to bed, put her on the potty (sometimes had to hold her up because she was still sleeping!). Usually she'd go, sometimes not, but eventually, she started waking up dry more often...that's when we said "no more pull ups at night" and did the panties at night (with no plastic/rubber over them - my own preference) and used a mattress protector/plastic sheet under the fitted sheet. Washing the bed sheet was much cheaper than pull ups!
Good luck! Sounds like you're off to a good start just by asking for help! She'll get it.