K.M. asks from Victoria, MN on December 04, 2008
How to Potty Train?
My daughter is 25 months and has started to become very interested in the potty. She will want to use the potty right after she goes in her diaper or any other time we mention changing her diaper. In the last week she has been on the potty A LOT!! I'm not complaining, however, she only wants to sit on it for a few seconds before getting off. She has never peed in the potty at home yet. This week at daycare they started putting her on the potty at her diaper changes. Today she actually went! My question is how to set up a routine for potty training. Right now she sit's on the potty when she wants, she gets off when she wants, then she flushes(although there's nothing to flush), we wash her hands, then put on a new diaper. Also, how to get her to tell us before she actually goes in her diaper. Thanks for any help/advice.
L.H. answers from Omaha on December 06, 2008
I think that putting her on the potty at diaper changes is a very good idea, it gives them the idea to use the potty instead of their diaper.I would keep a good schedule with the daycare and home this is very important when potty training,to keep her sitting longer try to sit there yourself or if the potty is intimidating to sit for very long try to read books to her or I sat mine in front of the tv for awhile and let my children become comfortable with their potty chairs then put them in the bathroom and they adjusted very well.
A.B. answers from Fargo on December 05, 2008
My kids loved to flush the toilet, so when I started to potty train them, I wouldn't let them flush unless they actually went potty/poopy. I turned it into a reward for using the potty. There was some crying when I first started doing that, but once they realized what was going on, it got better. Remember to give LOTS of praise for going and for trying!
K.F. answers from St. Cloud on December 05, 2008
personally i would put her on the tiolet about every 20 minutes to a half an hour until she goes... then about every hour and use a reward system (whatever she likes, candy stickers etc.) after about a month or so (every child is different) she will start to learn how to hold it and how to push it out or so you could say lol also i would get rid of the diapers all together they sell these training liners you put over the undies so if they have an accident it doesnt go all over. you might be doing a lot of laundry at first but this should work very well. in order to use this method u have to want to do it and get it done you dont want to realy turn back and revert to diapers . otherwise just keep putting her on the toilet at diaper changes and wait for her to do it on her own. hope this helps
N.B. answers from Milwaukee on December 13, 2008
It's funny reading your question because I am actually in this same situation. My daughter is 23 months old almost and we decided to try potty training also because she would go through the drill... pants down, sit on potty and pretend to go, wipe, pull pants up, flush, wash hands. Well, 2 weeks ago we put her on the potty and she would go every once in a while but I think it was just a coincidence. She just happened to be on there when she would go. She never tells us when she has the urge to go and I don't even know if she knows. They tried at daycare and would only poop on the toilet. She started getting frustrated and so we decided to put it on hold. Everyone was saying that when they're really ready they'll tell us. So I really have no idea myself when kids finally "get the urge" or " can tell" when they have to pee. Out of the blue today my daughter (after being in diapers again, not underpants) walks into the bathroom and says "mamma poop" and so I took out her potty seat and put her on the toilet and she actually did poop! I was shocked! So, I guess everyone is right... they'll just tell us. I guess for your situation, I would still continue taking her every 45 min-hour but back off if she is getting frustrated like mine did and then she won't find it so fun and won't want to sit up there! Good luck!
K.C. answers from Janesville-Beloit on December 05, 2008
Hi, you could start a schedule by just trying to take her every 30-60 minutes. She may be too young to realize she needs to use the bathroom before she actually goes. As far as how long to sit, have you tried singing songs and telling her that after the song she can get off? ABC's and Old McDonald's Farm are good ones for my son, especially OMF as you can make it as long or as short as you want. And he sometimes forgets that he is sitting on the potty and he actually sits longer. Good luck!
L.H. answers from Milwaukee on December 05, 2008
Your doing just fine with her. Children at that age tell you after the fact and it's perfectly mormal. Eventually she will tell you when she needs to go before she goes. Let her go when she wants-don't force her.
N.W. answers from Davenport on December 05, 2008
It does definately sound like she is ready for some encouragment since she is showing interest. It is best to be casual, but excited about it. It can put on a lot of pressure if you make it into a party everytime and then she will have something to with hold if she has any kind of stubborness in her (which maybe she doesn't).
Anyway, if you really want to do this I would suggest getting the training undies that are a little thicker, only because they absorb a little better, and easy on/off pants such as jogging pants or knit pants, something with an elastic waist. This will let her FEEL the pee, especially since she already knows when she does it, and make it easier to go in so frequently.
Start taking her in about every 30-45 min to sit. Children starting out don't usually tell you they have to pee, so just take her in, if you ask she will most likely tell you she doesn't have to pee even if she does. If she doesn't go that's fine do what you have already been doing. If she does go it is fine to offer her some kind of small reward like a sticker or a single M&M or a penny for her piggy bank, whatever you feel would be best. If you think she doesn't need this that is fine too. Some kids do well with words of praise alone.
just keep at it and she will catch on. WHEN she has accidents guide her and help when needed to take off the clothes and clean up herself and the floor if needed, and put on clean ones. If you let her do as much as she can she will learn this will give her ownership of using the potty. Be casual about accidents so as to not discourage her. i always say something along the lines of, whoopsy, you missed the potty. Let's clean up and you can try again next time. And leave it at that.
Soon she will catch on and start getting the hang of going each time you take her in. As she gets it stretch out the time between taking her in. Eventually she will realize she has to go and tell you. Wean off the rewards as you see fit. Some kids don't need them for long, others do. Pooping is a whole nother issue. Some fall into it esily others don't. If you know when she is going to go sit her on the potty, if not youmay get lucky and catch her. Night time training doesn't always happen right away either so you can keep her in diapers or pull ups, it won't confuse her. you can send me a message if you have any specific questions, I'd be happy to help you out! Congrats on your daughter's milestone!