Please don't mind my advice. If you don't want, just ignore but...
1. While your children are young it is important that you get enough sleep too. Early to bed for all. Your child needs 12 hours of sleep or he will be a bear in the a.m. You need at least 8 especially if you are nursing.
a. You will need to pack everything at night.
b. Set out clothes so no guessing or searching or matching
c. You should plan an hour for yourself and a half hour for nursing and another hour for getting out the door. Yes, that's 2 1/2 hours in the a.m. If you don;t wear makeup or do your hair, 30min. :)
2. Why do people insist on potty training so early? What stress. Wait until its nice out and send him outside with no bottoms or cloth pants if you don't have privacy in the back yard. I am sure your little guy is just reacting to exhaustion in the morning if he is almost there now.
3. Best thing is to prepare for bedtime a couple hours in advance.
Start winding down with quiet time around 4-5p with dinner, bath (no tv), in the last hour, a quiet game of cards then a book while in bed. Make the room dark and quiet in the house. (turn down the news.)
Once in this routine they will get used to bedtime. If you need more help read "Child Wise." It should help with bedtime struggles too.
If you are worried about daddy time, maybe it would be nice for husband time while they are small during the week.
We've all been there so please remember, this too shall pass. They will get older and help you.
God bless, C