I probably have the least helpful advice, but I'll share with you a little about me.
First, I read your post and responses so I can get help too. I'm a single mom on only one, but none the less, working full time, raising my son and have had no help what-so-ever for over 10 years until I moved in with my boyfriend, Which was a whole new challenge in its self.
Some tips that helped me is I started out setting one goal at a time. I had to keep it real simple, I couldn’t just "change" over night and expect anything to work, I'd get my house clean and say "Now I'll keep it this way" next thing I knew , It was a pigsty and I didn’t even know what hit me. So my first goal was to buy Lysol wipes, and wipe down my bathroom sink every morning after doing my hair and makeup. My sink has never been dirty since.
Another thing that helped was to buy tons of baskets, I got a bunch from all-a-dollar and some larger cute ones from the craft store but laundry baskets work well too, but one basket is for shoes, one for hair care, another for make up, another for toys (or a bunch for toys) , one for library books, one for computer chords, even one for clean laundry, folding clothes was too much for me sometimes but I hated having clothes on the beds or couch, so I put it in a basket.
I also got a bunch of box’s, the kind w/o lid flaps (like the office storage box’s or packing box’s) and I labeled each one kind of like a grocery store labels there Isles. Electrical, plumbing, hair care, sprinkler, tools, paint…etc… and in each one, I’d have the items just tossed in the box. Like in the electrical box, I’d have anything you would find in the electrical isle of a grocery store, from phone chords and extension chords to light bulbs to wall plates. Very simple.
Ok, so I have the Box’s and Baskets (which all took time in its self), and I started incorporating one thing at a time in my routine, I’d do it for a few weeks, and add another thing, like folding socks. Or hanging my shirts, then opening my blinds in the morning and closing them at night, then clearing dishes off the table after a meal. Then starting the dish washer once a day, then taking out the garbage once a day. Just what ever needed to be done while keeping it simple.
(this may all be extreme for some people but Hey, I was overwhelmed and NOTHING was getting done)
Eventually my juggling extended out to my car, I made a commitment to start grabbing any garbage that was in the center consol between the front seats, then anything on the front passenger floor, etc.
I know I’ve progressed a lot, but its taken me 8 years to get to where I’m at, and I’m always setting goals to better my life, Now my goals have reached financial juggling and savings.
I also implement the same concept for my son, we set him a goal and let him get used to the new juggle, then we add another, he is becoming very organized, clean and financially smart.
(we also work on self too, like meditation, prayer, you know, mental and emotional balance & well being)
I’ve also heard “don't touch anything twice” I’m learning that one right now, especially when it comes to mail, papers and receipts. I usually shift that stuff from one pile to another, I’m learning to take care of that business “Right Now” Not “I’ll get it later”, and that’s a real hard one for me. But a filing cabinet works great (can’t live w/o one now).
Oh! One more thing I learned off a TV morning show. Get laundry baskets and when you have to do a quick clean, like if company is coming over, don't pay attention to what your picking up, just grab everything that needs to be picked up and put it in the basket, then put the basket away in a closet or something, later put the stuff in the basket where it needs to go. Which I liked this cleaning Idea, the house looked great in less than 10 min. And I would do that and then just clean out the basket as a form of cleaning.
Anyway, I’ve talked long enough.
Good luck and I’m going to check out this Fly-lady again, I tried her once and all I got was a Really clean Kitchen sink :) I need to look farther into it. Sounds like it could be really helpful.