How to Get Rid of the Binky???

Collect them for the binky fairy, who uses them for babies who really need them. Much like the tooth fairy, the binky fairy leaves a gift in exchange for the baby binkies.

My daughter was also attached to her nuk until she was 2 and a neighbor suggested I cut the tip of the top of the nuk off so i did and let them lay around the house she would find them and try to suck on them but it wasn't the same and she finally on her own threw them in the garbage.Either it really works or i got lucky and she didn't need them anymmoe. Good luck:) J.

M.,
I heard an idea awhile ago: take the nuk to Build a Bear and put it inside the bear that she picks out. Then she will know it's still with her, but not to be in her mouth! Good luck!

Go doll shopping. Explain that the dolls cost a certain number of binkies. The ones in your price range cost however many she has. the more expensive ones cost 20 binkies, so she can't "afford" them. Once she picks out a doll, take it to the register and have her "pay" with her baggie full of binkies. (The cashier can throw them away.)

Or take her to the dollar store and let her get one item for each one or two binkies.

(I took this idea from a parenting magazine. I don't know if it works- I've never used it, and my son never developed an attachment to the pacifiers or anything else like that. But it's an idea to try.)

I asked the same question on here about a year ago. I feel your pain. One of the many brilliant moms on here suggested cutting the tip of her binky. The first cut is small, more of a pin prick, then a couple of nights later, cut the very tip off, then cut it to about half way. Then cut it clean off.

I tried it and it worked like a charm! My daughter is very smart and headstrong. I thought for sure that she'd call me on it. But, when she'd put her bink in her mouth, she just looked kind of confused for a little while and then she'd take it out and just carry it around. She never even mentioned that something was wrong with her binky. No complaints, no tears, not a word; and it was gone within a week. She's still got a binky with no nipple in her bed, in case she's having a rough night, she can just hold it. I think it makes her feel better that it's not totally gone.

Her babysitter, whose been doing daycare for 21 years said that she's never seen such an easy transition off of the binky. She'd follow my steps and keep the tip of her naptime bink at the same level as the ones at home.

My son was just about three when he gave up his "meme." I was worried, too, about the potential for a melt down, but it actually went well. We decided that he could keep it until he was three, but talked a lot about giving it away to a baby who needed it on his birthday.The idea was working until one day we lost his "meme." Honest to goodness we lost it. he was upset that he had to nap without it, cried for about 5 minutes, and that was it. Asked for it a few times after that and I reminded him we lost it and he was fine. surprised me! I thought for sure we would have issues.

So maybe just prepare her for it's leaving so when it's gone she won't be so upset.
Good Luck!

Yes but why get rid of the binky? I don't understand. She is 3, and she obviously enjoys having it. It's a different thing when she's 5--with peer pressure and all, she'll voluntarily give it up eventually.

Here are some tips I saw in a magazine. One mother took the child to build a bear and they stuffed the binky in the bear, so the child could still have it close by. Another mother had the child help package the binky and they took it to the post office and mailed it to a baby character on Sesame Street. The mother put a note on top of the box for the post office worker to throw the box away when they left. I've not tried them but I thought they were very clever.
Good Luck!

I would poke holes in it with a needle to start that will break the suction and make it less desireable(sp). Give that a couple of weeks and then cut the very tip off of it and cut a little more off every week. She should eventually give it up on her own. Good luck, I took my daughter's away on her 2nd birthday and it was the biggest drama filled weekend there ever was! I hope this helps.
~J.~

We also were very attached to the binky. With my middle child, we made it a special game. A friend was having a baby and we told our daughter that her baby would be needing binky's. If we collected all the binky's and left them out at night, a "binky fairy" would come to take the binky's to a needy baby and in return leave behind a small gift as a token of appreciation. Of course, she was excited at the gift idea and she really got into helping a baby.

We took our son to Toys R Us to "buy" a "no-nukkie" toy with his. He picked out some $5 toy, and "paid" for it with the little bag of nukkies. (We had the cashier in on it.) He never looked back, and STILL has the toy (he was 2).

I know a few people that used the "binky fairy" and that worked well for them.

I agree with the Cold Turkey method. My son had his first dentist appointment at 3 and was still using his "Paci". The dentist took one look in his mouth and said "Paci" is gone tonight. As they get older with using a Pacifier, the mouth continues to grow around the Pacifier instead of developing correctly. So the dentist explained to him that the "Pacifier Fairy" will be coming tonight. We put his pacifier in the tree for the fairy and received a present the next morning. We did have a few hard nights following that and sometimes during the day he would ask for it back and cry a bit. But within two weeks he never mentioned it. I should have done this to him much earlier than 3 but it just didn't happen. Good luck.

My daughter (and now son) call theirs a nu-nu. We created a nu-nu fairy. She helped me decorate a box - she even put tissue paper in to make a little bed, pillow & blanket! Then we left it on her nightstand when she went to bed for the Nu-Nu Fairy. I told her the fairy would come & get her nu-nu, fix it, clean it up & give it to a baby that was very sad because he/she didn't have one. Then the Nu-Nu Fairy would leave her a present. We got her an Ariel bracelet that lights up thinking she could wear it in bed & maybe that would be her new "comfort" item. The first night was a little rough but not bad. Plus I still have the box & the old pacifier. I plan on sharing the story with her (and her little brother) when they are older.

Good luck!

Just take it. It will be rough for a couple of days but then it will be over. I have done it plenty of times and the easiest thing is just to go cold turkey.

COLD TURKEY! It sounds harsh, but it will save you & her more headache and heartache! It is only rough for a two or three days and them it's done. It seems harsher to me to have to battle with them day after day about why they can only have it at this time, or that time when they could before, they cry and fuss about it and parents give in and have to start all over later and go through the same anguish all over again!

Give her some credit and tell her she's a big girl and no more binkys! Have her get rid of it or box it up or leave it for the binky fairy or whatever and just do it! You can do and so can she!!!

binky fairy? donating binky to other kids who dont have one?

thats a tough one that im sure i will have to face someday. i really like the binky fairy cuz kids seem to respond to it (from what ive heard) just leave a new toy or doll or something to replace ? the comfort of the binky.

M.-

I recently saw an episode of Super Nanny
covering this very issue. While I normally
do not agree with her practices, her way of
handling the binky was beautiful

She sat down with the child and explained
that there were several new babies who
needed the binky's and that the "Binky
Fairy" has run out of binky's. So, she
asked him if he would send the binky's
to the "Binky Fairy"

The little boy agreed. That afternoon, they
tied the binks to a baloon and sent them up
into the air to the "Binky Fairy"

The next morning, he awoke to a special
box at the doorstep just for him. It was
from the "Binky Fairy" and included a Thank
You note, that all of the babies would be so
happy to receive his Binky's, included a little
glitter and a few new dinosaur toys.

The mother claimed that her son never asked for
his binky's again, because he knew they went to
a good cause.

I thought it was a great way to get rid of the binky
and teach a lesson about giving at the same time.

Hope this helps.

A. D.

When my son got rid of his I had him give it to a really good friend. We had a pacifier party and at the end the pacifier went home with the friend of his choice. It had a sad couple of nights but that was it. He was 2 yrs old and only had the pacifier while he slept.

Karla

A couple weeks before, start talking about how you think the binky is getting sick and is probably not going to be good anymore. After a couple weeks, cut the end and give it to her. We did this with both my boys around 3 years old and yes, they whimpered some but that was it. They knew it was coming and the binky was sick. It was very easy!!

Good luck

M., try to play games with the binky when its in her mouth, like turn the key , when she has it in her mouth say turn the key and turn it upside down, she will turn it back, every time just turn the key , she will eventually give up, or you can remove it from her mouth and put it in your mouth, and tell her you want to suck on it, she will grab it back and put back in her mouth, if she knows you will take it and turn it every time she may wnat to get rid of it, soon she will only put it in her mouth as a game, then you change up the game, hey ill give you some candy for every hour its not in your mouth, use m and ms or something small, or ive heard to cut the top of it, too, they cant get sucky power with the top of it cut off, , or try to give her some cheerios, insert food instead of binky, but make it small food so as to not upset the balance of dinners and things, if binky is a blanket, cut the blanket in half , then in half again ,etc, etc, till its about gone, hope these work, sorry was not sure if binky was pasifyer or blankie, ive both called it, D. s

When my oldest daughter was 3, we also decided to get rid of the binky. I don't remember where I got the idea from, but we decided to put all of her binkys in a big manilla envelope, and "mail" them to other babies that would really need them, since she is a big girl now and doesnt need her binky anymore. I made sure that she was involved every step of the way, by finding all of her binkys around the house (she had them hidden every where imaginable!), putting them in the envelope, and closing the envelope. I then put an "address" on the front of the envelope, along with a "stamp" and put it in the mailbox for the mailman. My daughter was very happy to give her binkys to other little boys and girls, and even though she cried off and on for about a week afterwards, she finally got used to not having the binky anymore.

When I weaned my oldest he was 17 months. I cut the tip off so there wasn't any more "suction". He was only ever allowed to use it at nap/bed time and after 2 nights he didn't want it anymore and hasn't looked back. I was worried that he would start stealing his baby brother's to use but he never did.

Hi M.,

My daughter was very attached to her binky. She also has Sensory Processing problems, so her binky became an emotional/pacifying item. When she got to be about 2 years old, or there abouts, she started losing or forgetting her binky when we'd go places. We told her that she had 6 binkys left; when the last binky was lost, she was done with the binky; we wouldn't buy anymore. We also reinforced the fact that she was becoming a big girl and didn't really need her binky anymore.

Her last binky was "lost" when we went to Kohl's one afternoon. I reminded her, when we were in the car and she realized it was gone, remember what Mommy said? When the last binky is lost (I never hid or threw them away; I let them naturally disappear), we're done with them. She had a few tears in the car, then seemed to accept that logic. She never cried or asked for another one again. I think she was about 2.5 yrs when she was finally done. In fact, when she'd find a lost binky around the house, she'd bring it to me so we could "throw it away." LOL

I'd read the "lost/done" method somewhere, and for us, it worked out very well.

A.

my daughter was 3 1/2 and we got a pretty bag and had her collect all her paci's and but them in the bag and then we set it out at bedtime for the paci fairy to collect for all the babies who don't have paci's .. we took pics of them and did a scrap page and she gave them up that easy.. she was very addicted to the paci too but this did the trick for us good luck

For my first daughter, the binky fairy worked like a charm. The Binky Fairy, if you didn't know, comes and takes the binkies of a "big kid" and gives them to the new babies. And then she leaves, in return for the big kid, a new toy. We gathered up all the binkies, put them in a basket outside the night before. And then the next morning, when Morgan woke up, she went outside and found a brand new Dora cash register! ;)

We tried the binky fairy with our second daughter but that didn't go over so well. So we threw out all the binkies except one. And when she lost that one, she was done. We went through a few rough nights but after a while, she got through it.

Since she's 3, I would say go cold turkey, too. The longer they have it, the harder it is for them to give it up. Like someone else pointed out, it will be hell for a couple of days, and then she will be fine.

Maybe buy her a toy she has had her eye on, and tell her that she is getting it since she is giving up her binky. She is a big girl now and the pacifier fairy will give her binky to a brand new baby that needs it.

Hello, My daughter who is now 3 1/2 was also very attached to her pacifier. We tried to ween her off before she turned three by only allowing its use for nap time or bed time. You could put something that has a pocket by the bed and that is where they place it when they wake up. For a month before she turned three we told her she would be a big girl and wouldn't need her pacifier anymore. She would even say it herself that when she had her birthday and turned three her pacifier would go away. Then after her birthday we got a paper sack and she put all her pacifiers in it, on the outside we wrote a letter to the pacifier fairy and said Dear Pacifier Fairy, Here are my pacifiers I will no longer need them since I turned three. I am a big girl now and am giving them to you. I even had her decorate the bag and put her name on it. (which at the time was little scribbles). Then we placed it outside her door before she crawled into bed. In the morning when she woke up she found a present from the fairy. She was so excited about her gift. She did cry for a couple of nights but we talked about what we did with her pacifiers and she would remember that she gave them to the pacifier fairy and she was three and didn't need them. (She had also just started preschool, so we were determined to say bye to them). After a few days she quit asking about them and then would tell people how she gave them to the pacifier fairy and how the fairy left her a present. It was very hard for her to give them up but I think since we talked about how she needed to get rid of them a lot leading up to the day we did the fairy experience helped a lot. (We also waited a few days after the birthday to give them to the fairy when the excitment of all the new toys had simmered down. Good luck! (This is just what worked for us.)

(Mommy to 3 1/2 year old, 19 month old and 4 month old all girls, I have my hands full)

The binky fairy worked great for us.

I explained that when he felt ready, the binky fairy would take all his binkies and give them to the babies who didn't have any. In exchange she would leave him some nice presents. My son decided when he wanted that to happen, we bagged up all his binkies, hung them in a tree. The next morning he found the toys and was thrilled. The next few weeks he asked for his binkies back at times. I always told him he could put the toys back in the tree and the fairy would return his binkies but he always ended up deciding that he would rather keep the toys.

One thing to realize though. Some kids need the oral input still. You might find that he starts chewing on clothes or other things. If so, I recommend a chewy tube (available from The Autism Shop in Hopkins). It was not addictive like the binky and helped my son through his chewing phase.

I went through the house and found my daughter's stash of binkies and cut a small slit at the tip of each one. While it wasn't noticable to her visually, every time she tried to suck on one of them the suction "power" was gone because of the hole. It was kind of comical watching her pick one up, put it in and see the perplexed look on her face when she wasn't getting the satisfaction she was used to. The first few she threw and starting yelling "It's broken!". It took about 2 days of trying them out, time after time, and then she never grabbed for one again. I will warn you that if she was used to going to sleep with one at night, that first night may be rough...do it on a weekend when no one has to get up early the next day. That one bad night was well worth it for us!

Don't get rid of it. Have her use it to cuddle and keep her stuffed animals warm. Does she have a doll? Tell her that the baby doll needs it to keep her warm. Wrap it around the baby. Have her wrap it around her favorite stuffed animal.

Our daughter is 18 and still has hers! She just used it for different things. Like her stuffed animals!

Best wishes!
J.