How to Control My Emotions

Updated on November 30, 2010
J.L. asks from Fontana, CA
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Hi mommy's
I am 6 weeks pregnant and my mom told me she is moving back to washington along with my sisters and brothers I'm very sad and everytime I think about I start crying a lot like if something bad happen like when a baby gets his feelings hurt .. it hurts I just know I'm super emotional because of my pregnancy. How do I deal with this =''(

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B.R.

answers from Phoenix on

I am not and never will be pregnant as I am a man ;-). I can only tell you what I have observed. I recently had a co-worker become pregnant...she will cry at everything regardless (for example. we have a lot of down time at work and we occaisionally will play a game and she will cry if she wins and cry if she loses). From her and others I have observed that this behavior is completely normal and goes away after the pregnancy. By tomorrow you will probably have several answers though telling you the intricate reasons for this as the more experienced answers.

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V.B.

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When I was 5 months prego with my second child, my mom moved to Nevada (from CA). I was so mad! How could she leave her only grandbabies to live in Las Vegas? Didn't she want to see them grow up? There were all kinds of questions and lots of emotions to deal with. I was in a crappy marriage and having another kid. All I needed was to be abandoned by my mother to boot!

So here I am 9 years later. Mom is still in Vegas. I am out of the crappy marriage. Everyone is much happier. I got over being mad when we got to go visit and she would come out here. And we actually (believe it or not) have a stronger relationship now than we ever had! We see eachother maybe twice a year but talk ALL the time.

The point is, everything happens for a reason. My mom told me that she left so I could live my life and not have her constantly stepping in. It was nice because when I left my husband, she was limited in her influence. If we had to have "face-to-face" conversations about it she might have been able to talk me into staying a bit longer (SHe hated my husband but thought at least being with him was better than being alone...she would have been WRONG!) She also doesn't get to criticize me for the way I raise my children and she can enjoy them when she does get to see them instead of feeling that she has to have a hand in raising them.

I know this has no real bearing on how to control your emotions but I thought a little perspective might help. To be truly honest, there is no real way to control your emotions while pregnant because your hormones are going nuts! Find yourself some distractions. Start scrapbooking pictures of your mother and siblings so that when the baby does come, you can both look at pictures and the baby will recognise them when you do see them. There are many ways to put a positive spin on this situation, you just have to weed through the emotions to find them. ;) Best of luck and congratulations!

C.B.

answers from Kansas City on

sweetie, you don't have to rush out and get therapy. it is completely natural to be upset that your mom is leaving, ESPECIALLY when you are pregnant, that is when we need our moms the most! and i see from some previous posts you have realistic and natural fears about pregnancy. yes, the over emotional side of it is probably because you are pregnant. but girl, i moved 1000 miles to start a family with my mom close by, because i couldn't imagine doing it without her. you're not crazy. you just love your mom.

the good thing is we are all a lot stronger than we think. you'll be okay. it will be hard but you'll get through it. sending hugs!

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P.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

First thought: Don't CONTROL emotions. When you feel like crying, give it all you've got.

Secon thought: Life will be full of perplexing and disappointing times. The best way I have found to cope is to mix in what I call little JOY INJECTIONS with the pain to balance t hings out. Take some time and think of at least two things that when do, see, feel, or eat them you get that sense of "aah".

It could be a glance at a sunset, a walk through your favorite park, a scoop of Haagan Daas. A manni/peddi appt, or even a $45 massage.

Find out what your JOY INJECTIONS are and give you self a shot as offten as possible to keep yourself going.

Best Wishes.

Pam A.

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N.V.

answers from Las Vegas on

It's understandable that you're upset, especially being pregnant. Does your mom know you're pregnant yet? (many people don't share the news by 6 weeks) I would suggest you:
-Let the feelings out.
-Talk to your mom.
-Write down your feelings, either in a journal or anywhere.
-Discuss it with someone you trust, to get it off your chest and gain a different perspective.
-Do the basics for good health - get plenty of rest, eat nutritious foods, exercise and/or yoga (yes, you can while pregnant; just don't go crazy if you're not already active), and drink lots and lots of water.
-Do your favorite hobbies, to keep yourself productive and happy.

I'm here if you'd like to chat any more. My thoughts are with you!
~N.

S.P.

answers from Los Angeles on

Are you living with your mom and siblings?
Or are you living with your significant other (baby's father)?
How old are you?
If you've seen a doctor (or nurse practitioner) regarding your pregnancy,
you can ask them for a referral to a therapist.
It would be a good thing to have some counseling,
about your emotional health, about your mother,
about your feelings of abandonment, etc.

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