How Soon Can I Really Get Pregnant??!!!!

First of all I am very sorry for your loss. I have never had a miscarriage, but I have to assume the Dr. told you to wait 6 months so that way he could be sure that the infection is completly healed as are you. I know you want to hold a lil one, but I think waiting might be better for you as you might have a bette chance of carrying to term if you do to make sure there is no infection.

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My deepest sympathies to you... How wonderful it is that you feel ready and willing to move on so soon.
I lost my first son at 21 weeks gestation. I ended up needed a D&E, which is a bit more complex than just a D&C. I got pregnant with my next child 7 months later and had several complications from the surgery that I had. It made my cervix "incompetent" and every pregnancy after I had to have a Cerclage (Stitch to hold the cervix closed) because of pre-term labor issues.
Because of my 1st pregnancy and the cervix issues I was hospitalized 4 times with the 2nd pregnancy, 2 times with the 3rd, Once with the 4th and Once with the last. My advice is to at least wait 3 months, visit with the doctor again and open a discussion about your wishes with them. I'm sure they will give you the go-ahead if it's safe to.
Good Luck!

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So sorry for your loss. I really don't have any experience in becoming pregnant after a loss so far along. I have experienced several miscarages, 14 weeks was my longest. Unfortunately, due to other factors I didn't get pregnant for 6 years after that pregnancy. Then suffered several other early losses (9 & 10wks) Then I did have another miscarage at aprox 10wks in Dec 02 and got pregnant in Jan 03 again and had a Daughter in Sept 03. (with no cycle between) I had a very normal, uneventful pregnancy. Went on to have a second daughter born in 1/06. So I know it can be done, but it's best to follow your doctors advise.

E.

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I've had 2 miscarriages that late in pregnancy(1 earlier as well.)I got pregnant with my daughter now 4 3 months after the first miscarriage at 18weeks. There were no reasons given for any miscarriage I've ever had, so while my body did what it did for whatever reason, I didn't know the risks of what another pregnancy would do. The pregnancy with my daughter went perfectly fine and "normal." I delivered her early but that is my body's predisposition. I know you're not supposed to in order to give your body a chance to recover from all the trauma a pregnancy and subsequent miscarraige causes. Considering you have a reason why you miscarried your twins, of which I feel so incredibly sorry for your loss, it would be your best bet to follow your doctor's orders on this one. I am not familiar with the condition you had that caused things to happen but I hope for your sake, both mentally and physically, you'll take a moment to rest. I know how much you can ache, yearn for a new little one, but is it worth risking a possible loss because you chose not to wait? I am so sorry you are going through this though. Hopefully you can successfully have another little one soon. Talk to your doctor about the reasons why you need to wait, and about your desires to have another.

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There are more reasons than just your physical health to wait. If you had those babies to term.. you would wait longer to get pregnant again... and you carried these babies almost halfway. The doctor is a doctor for a reason and he/she has his/her reason for asking you to wait.. and there is more to consider than your physical well-being.. and consider the emotional state of your husband and your other children. Everyone needs time to heal physically and emotionallly. Your husband and your kids may feel left out and second rate so make sure you let them know you love them and spend time with them.. together and one on one.

Be good to your body and take care of it.. let it heal and be in the best shape - physicallly and emotionally for the next baby or babies you carry.

with warm regards and best wishes for a healthy/happy family..

JG

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Hi K.,

First, I would like to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. What a heartbreaking thing to go through.. I wish you the best for your physical and emotional recovery.

Second.. I had a miscarriage a few years ago at 18 weeks which was medically uneventful and complete. I did not need a d&c. I was told by midwife and her ob partner that because I did not require a d&c, I could begin trying to conceive as soon as I felt up to it.. however, sometimes the dissapointment of miscarriage can be overwhelming.. especially at that gestation and especially coupled with the dissapointment of not conceiving right away afterward that women can sometimes get really, really depressed.. I was told to watch for symptoms of depression that are beyond "grief".. If you did have a d&c - you should wait at least two weeks to have sex or use tampons or take baths in the tub - this reduces the risk of infection.
Your cycles will be a little haywire.. probably for at least 3 months.. so charting for conception (if you do that) may be difficult..

Best of luck to you!

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Sweet K.

don't be so hard on yourself! You have just been through a traumatic experience of losing not one but two babies. Your body, heart and psyche need to heal before you jump into pregnancy again.

Remember that your family suffered the loss too, not only losing the babies but seeing your sorrow. My advice! Take some time for yourself and your family. Dylan and Bethan need their mother more than they need a brother or sister at this point.

Love and Light

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