How Old Are Boys When They Start Dating?

M., in all honesty, I wouldn't worry about it. I have asixteen year old nephew that loves to watch the girls, but has no interest in talking to them. He is shy, but school and sports come first to him. Maybe you are just one of the lucky ones. There is also the alternative. Even though we say it wouldn't matter if our sons were "gay", it would way heavily on all of us. I really wouldn't make it an issue as perhaps his head is on straight which is a sign of your great parenting skills and list of prioritys in life. He has friends and is socializing fairly normal with his job and such. After all, Bill Gates waited a lonngggg time and look where it got him, haha.

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I'd be thankful that he is not dating. You say he has great friends and that must come with a social life. Don't worry - he is working and still going to school I assume. Girls would just distract him from his studies.

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I personally say you have one mature young man there. He seems to have a good head on his shoulders. He is so young and there is plenty of time for that.

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Like the other have say I would not worry about it, my Jeff who is 25 so far has one serous girlfriend in his past. He is wanting to take his time and make the right choices. He also did not have the serious friend until 18 and she was 18 too. They were both two young to know what they wanted. So I would not look for trouble where there is none.

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Don't push him. He'll date when he's ready. Boys mature emotionally more slowly than girsl, and he may just not be ready to deal with all that yet.

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My husband barely dated when he was in high school. I think he started in his senior year. He really just liked being a guy and, I think, not having to mind his manners all that much ;) He was into sports and worked a job that he really loved.

I think he would have polished up some skills in the dating/romance dept. if he had started in high school, but he's a very, very sweet and loving guy, so I take the slightly rough edges willingly :)

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personally i think hes being very responsible. Im sure he's seen friends get into emotional dramas that, really at that age is a waste. Not to mention kids getting into very adult situations at his age..I would imagine hes got a friend or two with, if not a pregnancy, a pregnancy scare at least. Hes got his future to line up, kudos to him for not mixing drama he's not ready for into that.

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We have an 18 yr. old son and I've got lots of friends with this age boys and even older (college age). We agree that kids don't socialize the same as we did with everyone having boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Lots of them don't "date" they just hang out in groups until that special one comes along that seems worth it to go solo with. This may not be until college for him or even later. Our son is gone all the time with friends, both girls and boys. Don't pressure him. I would never think about him being afraid to date, just taking his time and doing what seems to be more normal now, and that's going out with a group.

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Hi,
I agree with Randi. We have nine children and are teaching them "courtship". Our two oldest daughters never had a boyfriend and when they courted their guys, they always had someone with them and their first kisses were at the marriage altar. Many times, they were teased or questioned, but as their peers went through break-ups and premarital pregnancy, others began appreciating what our family does. Dating is a set-up for divorce. It teaches our kids that "feelings" (not commitment) are what's important and when things get rough, just leave. Our kids don't court until they are ready for marriage and with lots of prayer and parental influence. Good for your son!

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