How Much Freedom to Give to 13 Year Old Boy?

A.

first good luck on your new baby...and no at 13 you donot let them in bedroom alone..or any where alone...13 is too young to me given the chance to leave alone with a girl...let him have a small get together with a few boys and girls but you right htere in ear and eye shot...my sons are 15 and 16 and i still do not let them alone wiht girls...it is only trouble to do that...but you do what you feel is right..L.

Firts off, congradulations! Firts you and you man need to come to a ruling, "Is he old enough for a girlfriend?" At 13 it is hard to say. Our rules are no, not until 16. Second, alone in the bedroom for any amount of time I would say No!I know parents that would disagree with me and I know parents that would agree. However, you have to make the choice. If you decide he is old enough for girlfriends, i would keep it where you and your husband can see them at all times. Second going over to girls houses no,no. Unless you have meet the parents, know what there rules are concering boys and if anyone is home while your son is at there home.At 13, I wouldnt allow the girl scene , but if i did, it would be strictly watched, no alone time at anyones home. As far as freedom, curfews,bed times, get names,phone numbers and addre. for every one of his friends. meet all the parents, let your mommy gut tell you yes or no.Let him have fun, but remeber that he is only 13 and think about the worst situation you do not want ot happen, and what you can do to help prevent it. I hope this helps.

I have a 13 year old daughter...but she isnt into boys at all, she could care less about them. My boys when they were growing up never did things like that because i never allowed it. My best advice to you is tell him what is appropriate and what isnt and enforce that. He is now in your home and he will have to go by YOUR rules not what he wants to do. Use tough love...if he doesnt like it oh well thats his problem not yours.

My oldest is 14 and a girl but even though my boys are only 4yr and 8 mo. The rules I set for my daughter will apply to them too. I know people are always worried about only protecting girls but boys have to deal with the consequences of their actions too. In this day and age I would be very careful. I would only let him go to the girls house if you had spoken with her parents and know that they will be monitored and in your house I would make them keep the door open to any room they are in. Better safe than sorry.

Teenagers these days are all different. What works for some won't for others. Where some may need tough love...others need consistent emotional and spiritual support. What ever teen wants, but sometimes doesn't have a clue to get it and keep it is...TRUST. It's not always the teen who doesn't deserve the trust, it's our perception however wrong or right, about society and its many temptations. I believe you would have to evaluate his values and beliefs to know where he stands on things. Since he recently came to live with you, you may or may not know what he already truly believes about life. When you find out interact with him in different scenarios to gain a deeper understanding of where he is coming from. Then you could tailor make a plan that will make you feel better about what choices you and your husband make raising him through the teenage years. Every so often you may want to revisit the scenario game to see if he's picking up on life and living it responsibly. That way you could better gage whether or not pulling tighter is needed or letting go seems more easier and justifiably warranted.

Good Luck and I hope I have helped. :)

Well I have a 12 year old who is the same. He doesnt have girls coming over or him going over there. Phone calls I allow and they go to public places as long as another adult is there to supervise. I'm not ready for this myself. Definately not ready for them to be alone together at all. Kids start too young these days.