This is going on my daughters fourth week at daycare and every morning she cries when I drop her off. The staff say once I leave she is okay, but I'm slightly bothered by this. I pretended to leave once and after a few minutes she was okay; she sat and ate breakfast without problems. I just wanted to know if any other moms experienced this and if I should be concerned. Also how long should it take her to adjust.
Although she still cries each morning it's easier for me to walk away knowing that others have experienced the same. I tried to make funny faces before leaving put it only worked for a second then she was crying. Thanks ladies
My son's first 3 months in a mother's day out program he cried everyday he was there sometimes all day and some days before we even got there. He did not settle as quickly as you say your daughter does though. I think she is doing just fine if she can settle that quickly. I think you have nothing to be worried about. Especially if you have seen her settle with your own eyes. You're doing just fine Mama.
I have 3 children that have gone through this and it is perfectly normal. My oldest had the hardest time. She had to sit in the office/workroom of the preschool each school day for a while. She got very upset each day. As the school year went on things got easier for her. My youngest two had some random crying episodes but that stopped quickly. Now all of them love going to "school". Don't worry everything will turnout well.
This totally depends on your daughter, her age and personality. My son did it every day from 8 weeks to 4 years. He would have to be peeled off me every morning at it's worst (2-3 years). It was hard, not really how I wanted to start the work day. But, I stayed and observed many times and he quickly recovered and was fine. He was always having fun when I picked him up and I totally trusted his daycare. My daughter only did this from age 18 months to 20 months or so and random other times.
This is completely normal. I babysit two girls and one of them cried like that for 2 months straight, but only for a couple of minutes and then she was fine the rest of the day. Now, she never wants to leave.
My son did the same thing when I dropped him off at daycare. It broke my heart, but he was fine by the time I hit the front door. Just make your goodbye's quick, don't linger or it will just prolong the agony for you. Have a goodbye routine that's silly so he can laugh and maybe even look forward to it. Make a new silly face in the window as you leave each day. It's totally normal and they will get over it. You have the hardest part here because you think about it for the rest of the day. I guarantee the kids don't have another thought until they see you after work and realize it's time to go home.
My mom told me that when I was a kid I cried when getting dropped off at the church nursery, but I cried when I got picked up b/c I didn't want to leave! This is normal for a lot of kids. I worked in daycare for many years, and there were some kids that just had a hard time when mom/dad left. Seperation anxiety is also a tough thing for some kids, but not others. As long as she's fine the rest of the day, there's nothing to worry about. Just keep it a brief goodbye, b/c long goodbye's actually make it harder, both on you and your daughter.
I've worked at a daycare center and also do in home childcare, as well as observing things at my church's nursery so I see kids cry when they say bye to their moms ALL THE TIME. For my son, he would cry when I'd take him to his room, but I'd just squeeze him tight and say "I love you and will be back" and kiss him and walk away (fast goodbyes are much better than long ones). I'd lean against the wall to settle my nerves for a minute or two, and when I peeked in, he was TOTALLY fine and playing! It was crazy as a first time mom to see how he could go from broken hearted to happy and engaging that fast. :P Now I watch a little boy and occasionally he'll cry or be upset to say goodbye to his parents, and will cry on the porch but by the time we've walked in and closed the door, he's smiling, telling me what he wants to drink, and what he did last night. I think it's not fun to say goodbye, but once done, they do get on with the day. My son now kisses me at the door to church and I have to chase him all the way to his children's class so he can run in and play. In time, they realize and understand you ARE coming back, so have fun while they can.
