R.D. asks from Richmond, VA on March 18, 2009
How Long Did It Take YOU?!
i know every woman (and man!) is different, but i was just generally wondering... how long did it take YOU to get pregnant?? were you trying? did you take any special vitamins/meds, or did you try different positions/diets/WHATEVER?! i had nooo problem getting pregnant the first two times, but i was a bit younger than i am now, and never with a man so much older than i am. this man is going to be my husband, so please, no judgements on that part... i just honest to god want to know the AVERAGE time it takes most women to conceive, how long YOU tried before getting that positive result. im just tired of peeing on sticks and starving myself of caffiene if this is going to take foreverrr ;) THANKS LADIES!!
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So What Happened?™
WELL NOW, guess i'm still as fertile as ever!... we started trying one month before i wrote this, and now, one month after, i got that positive test! we are SO excited :) THANKS for all your input ladies!!
K.L. answers from Washington DC on March 19, 2009
It took me a year of trying pretty consistently to get pregnant the first time. What finally worked was using the ovulation predictor strips. I was 35. The second one happened on her own without any help when I was 38.
S.H. answers from Richmond on March 19, 2009
It took me 4 1/2 months to get PG with my son and we were TRYING! I was 33 when I got PG and hubby was 41 so we are "older" and it didn't take too long. I remember waiting each month and I know how hard it is but hang in there!
R.D. answers from Washington DC on March 19, 2009
Hi R.! How ironic! I am R. D, have three kids, one 5 (6 in June), 3 (4 in April), and 2 (just turned)...am 26 and married for almost 5 years to an older man! Eerily similiar!! But I love him and my kids with all of my heart, I completely get you on the age thing!! I would say that you should talk to your doctor about it. It could be something with you, him, or the mixture of the two. See if he/she can do some research and go from there! Good luck!
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L.T. answers from Roanoke on March 20, 2009
R....try not to sweat it. I am an OBGYN doc so I know this can be stressful. The bottom line is take your prenatal vits, and give it up to a year...95% are pregnant by then. If not, you should see your gynecologist to find a reason. Also, consider preconceptual testing for cystic fibrosis, sickle cell, HIV and hepatitis. And make sure you are up to date on your immunizations. Best of luck :)
A.C. answers from Washington DC on March 19, 2009
It took me 15 years to have a successful pregnancy. It's not like we were TRYING hard those years, it was more of a 'if it happens it happens' type mentality. But once I was actually resoved within myself, I was ok if it didn't happen- Bam! If you are not having luck, maybe get the man's swimmers checked out. There are many things besides age that can slow them down. Good luck!
D.K. answers from Washington DC on March 19, 2009
I personally was pregnant the very first month we tried both times, but I was using Natural Family Planning to track my cycles and know my fertile days as birth control so it was easy to just switch from avoiding intimacy on my fertile days to ensuring intimacy on those days. My little sister did this too and it took her and her husband 4-6 months (don't remember exactly) to conceive. It really just depends on the man and woman involved. But if you haven't already, then look up NFP on the web and do some research. You can learn to do it all by yourself after a little bit of free reading online.
Also if you're trying to get pregnant, you should be taking prenatal vitamins and making sure that you're taking ones with enough folic acid in them (you can also get this through your diet, beans have a lot of it). Also make sure to drink plenty of water and take in plenty of calcium and iron. These things won't necessarily help you GET pregnant but once you do, they are oh so important right off the bat so it's important to already have a good supply in your system.
K.H. answers from Norfolk on March 18, 2009
To answer your question,the first time I got pregnant it took me a little over a year and we were not really trying and I was 20yrs old. The second time we were trying and I got pregnant within a month and I was 24. I am now 12 wks pregnant with our third child and I got pregnant about 3 months after we started trying and I am 28 now. All three times I did not take any special meds or vitamins. I think the only thing we did different was make love more often than normal. I also tryed to figure out when I was due to ovalulate so that I had a better chance of conceiving. Hopes this helps you and good luck.
A.V. answers from Washington DC on March 19, 2009
It took me a year, which is pretty average. I took folic acid, multivitamins, drank whole milk. He took Vits. C and E.
A.T. answers from Norfolk on March 19, 2009
It took me 4 months to get pregnant with my second. You are probably trying TOO hard. If you stress too much you will prevent your ovulation or delay it. So, take a breather. Then, plan to have sex everyday starting 2/3 days before your ovulation. You can use an ovulation predictor kit, but those will only give you a narrow window of time, b/c they are not sensitive enough. However, you are more likely to have a boy the closer you are to ovulation day. Ovulation occurs on the 14th day of an average 28 day cycle. For those who have longer cycles like 30 days just subtract 14 and that will tell you that you ovulate on the 16th day of your cycle. If your cycle is really irregular have sex for that full week straight. Try to make it fun though. What always worked for us was a trip alone. That is how we had both our kids.
A.D. answers from Washington DC on March 19, 2009
Hi R., First of all, if I had to give up caffiene to get pregnant, I would never have kids!!(lol)
I was told when I was 20yo, I would never have kids. My first boy came along as I was divorcing my 1st husband.
( A true sign from God, but I won't get into boring long details)
My 2nd husband and I tried for 1 1/2 years. After sex one night I put my lower back against the wall and my feet up in the air. I was in that position for 40 minutes. My husband thought I was crazy!! Well, it worked!! Now I have 2 crazy wild and wonderful boys!! Good Luck!!