How Long Did It Take YOU?!

Hi R.! How ironic! I am R. D, have three kids, one 5 (6 in June), 3 (4 in April), and 2 (just turned)...am 26 and married for almost 5 years to an older man! Eerily similiar!! But I love him and my kids with all of my heart, I completely get you on the age thing!! I would say that you should talk to your doctor about it. It could be something with you, him, or the mixture of the two. See if he/she can do some research and go from there! Good luck!

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R....try not to sweat it. I am an OBGYN doc so I know this can be stressful. The bottom line is take your prenatal vits, and give it up to a year...95% are pregnant by then. If not, you should see your gynecologist to find a reason. Also, consider preconceptual testing for cystic fibrosis, sickle cell, HIV and hepatitis. And make sure you are up to date on your immunizations. Best of luck :)

It took me 15 years to have a successful pregnancy. It's not like we were TRYING hard those years, it was more of a 'if it happens it happens' type mentality. But once I was actually resoved within myself, I was ok if it didn't happen- Bam! If you are not having luck, maybe get the man's swimmers checked out. There are many things besides age that can slow them down. Good luck!

I personally was pregnant the very first month we tried both times, but I was using Natural Family Planning to track my cycles and know my fertile days as birth control so it was easy to just switch from avoiding intimacy on my fertile days to ensuring intimacy on those days. My little sister did this too and it took her and her husband 4-6 months (don't remember exactly) to conceive. It really just depends on the man and woman involved. But if you haven't already, then look up NFP on the web and do some research. You can learn to do it all by yourself after a little bit of free reading online.

Also if you're trying to get pregnant, you should be taking prenatal vitamins and making sure that you're taking ones with enough folic acid in them (you can also get this through your diet, beans have a lot of it). Also make sure to drink plenty of water and take in plenty of calcium and iron. These things won't necessarily help you GET pregnant but once you do, they are oh so important right off the bat so it's important to already have a good supply in your system.

Hi R.,
To answer your question,the first time I got pregnant it took me a little over a year and we were not really trying and I was 20yrs old. The second time we were trying and I got pregnant within a month and I was 24. I am now 12 wks pregnant with our third child and I got pregnant about 3 months after we started trying and I am 28 now. All three times I did not take any special meds or vitamins. I think the only thing we did different was make love more often than normal. I also tryed to figure out when I was due to ovalulate so that I had a better chance of conceiving. Hopes this helps you and good luck.

It took me a year, which is pretty average. I took folic acid, multivitamins, drank whole milk. He took Vits. C and E.

It took me 4 months to get pregnant with my second. You are probably trying TOO hard. If you stress too much you will prevent your ovulation or delay it. So, take a breather. Then, plan to have sex everyday starting 2/3 days before your ovulation. You can use an ovulation predictor kit, but those will only give you a narrow window of time, b/c they are not sensitive enough. However, you are more likely to have a boy the closer you are to ovulation day. Ovulation occurs on the 14th day of an average 28 day cycle. For those who have longer cycles like 30 days just subtract 14 and that will tell you that you ovulate on the 16th day of your cycle. If your cycle is really irregular have sex for that full week straight. Try to make it fun though. What always worked for us was a trip alone. That is how we had both our kids.

Hi R., First of all, if I had to give up caffiene to get pregnant, I would never have kids!!(lol)
I was told when I was 20yo, I would never have kids. My first boy came along as I was divorcing my 1st husband.
( A true sign from God, but I won't get into boring long details)
My 2nd husband and I tried for 1 1/2 years. After sex one night I put my lower back against the wall and my feet up in the air. I was in that position for 40 minutes. My husband thought I was crazy!! Well, it worked!! Now I have 2 crazy wild and wonderful boys!! Good Luck!!

Hi

With my first it took 3 months and with my 2nd & 3rd it happened the same month we started trying , I didn't take any special vitamins. I just made sure that it was around ovulation time and afterwards I lay with my hips elevated.

Everyone is different though , my sister in law took 2 years to concieve.

Hope you get that posistive result soon!

It took me 4 1/2 months to get PG with my son and we were TRYING! I was 33 when I got PG and hubby was 41 so we are "older" and it didn't take too long. I remember waiting each month and I know how hard it is but hang in there!

Well 25 is not old at all. I got pregnant in 2 months and I am 38. I tell you that new system that you can buy that you check for ovulation that is electronic reader is right on target. I stopped BC for a year and monitored my cycle for 6 months. If you watch your cycle and count the days you will know the ovulation cycle and this test is great. Try it!! If you are regular you will have no issues. Good Luck! I am 23 weeks now and we got married in October! We are so excited!!

It took me a year of trying pretty consistently to get pregnant the first time. What finally worked was using the ovulation predictor strips. I was 35. The second one happened on her own without any help when I was 38.

Get the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility".

One question no one asked yet. How old is he. Has he been checked out? We know you can have kids, but is he sending out fisheys??

I know that medically they consider within one year to be normal, only after one year of trying to conceive is considered "having a hard time"

It's different for everyone - I have a friend who hasn't been protected for 2 years and she and her husband WANT a baby but it hasn't happened for them yet...whereas my other friend JUST got pregnant and it was her first try - she has only been married for a few months....You never mentioned how old your fiance is, but if you two want kids, just try and if nothing happens in a few months of really trying, then have him tested. You are super young, so it shouldn't be an issue for you (esp since you have had two to begin with). I was always worried that I would have one on accident...my husband had two with his first wife and I thought for sure if we werent' careful we would have one immediately, but we tried one time and it didn't happen, so it's a wonder there are so many teens with unwanted pregnancies...looks like they could rub off on women that actually want babies! Women can safely have babies up til 34, then afterward there are increased risks, but it's still possible - I think Sarah Jessica Parker had James Wilkie when she was 39....and my grandma had my mom when she was 40 - and that was before all the modern day technology and information....so don't worry so soon! If it is meant to be, then it will happen.

Took me one month each time- at age 34 and 36. using basal temperature and tracking ovulation.
Good luck!

Stop trying!!!! That is the most sure-fire way to get pregnant - have fun, live life, have a drink or two or a bottle (homemade wine has gotten many a woman pregnant). Just like looking for love, when you are relaxed and least expecting it is when it will happen. And, honey, 25 is far from old to get pregnant easily - at 29 years old, I was pregnant within 3 weeks of going off birth control.

It took about 7 months the first time-the dr had to put me on 10 days of Provera to get me ovulating and the next month it happened. Looking back I think part of it was also the stress of worrying about it that made it take longer. Baby #2 took only about 2 months, I wasn't thinking about it and it just happened. I tried ovulation predictors with my second, but I misread the stick (I read it as not ovulating when I was). I would also try to get to know your body. i usually have signs that I am ovulating. good luck

I had heard it can take (on average) 6 months for the hormones to process out of your system if you're on the pill. So, almost 6 months to the day after I stopped taking the pill, my husband and I conceived. I was 29 years old and he was 30 at the time of conception. Best of luck to you.

With my son he was not expected. And with my daughter it took 16 months. When I was ttc I took prenatal vitamins. And about 13 months into trying I started charting my temp, 3 months later I was prego. Oh, I always elvated my hips after love making. Good luck & I hope it happens quickly for you