F.S. asks from Provo, UT on April 11, 2008
How Do You Plan Your Day?
I am a SAHM to my 9mo girl. She is so wonderful, and is beginning to be more independant. My husband works all day till around five, when he gets home he would like to have the house clean and dinner on. (like all men). He is very understanding when its not, but I am trying to find out how I can make it easier on myself so I am not so tired when he gets home. How do you plan your day to get the kitchen, living room, bedrooms, and laundry done all in one day? I try to be organized, but I just dont know how. Any tips would be LOVELY!!
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So What Happened?™
well, I took a little of every ones advise!! Thank you Every one!! I went onto Flylady, and am currently doing her weekly things. I am also doing one load of laundry a day. Thank you for suggesting that (that is one of the biggest helps!!) I talked everything out with my husband and he agrees with all of you. I left him with Maleah for a week end!! I went to a Confrence and he took over. He has a new understanding of how it all works. LOL. He was soooo tired when I got home. I had a crock pot from our wedding, but never had used it before now, and your right!!! It is sooo amazing! I chop up all my veggies and meats as I buy them then I put them in pre-package amounts! then decide what to through together in the mornings! I cant thank you enough. My husband and I did a full cleaning of the house and I have a pretty clean house now and I am sure I will be able to keep it up! I couldnt have done it with out you guys!!
A.H. answers from Grand Junction on April 12, 2008
I mentioned to someone before with a similar problem: don't do it all in one day!
I do laundry one day, dishes one day, vacuuming one day, the bathroom one day, each kids room one day, outside work one day, and paperwork one day. Sometimes I can get both kids rooms done in one day, or the paperwork or vacuuming is minimal. Every day I rinse and use the dishwasher, I carry the laundry to the laundry room, and I'm constantly pushing toys back to the kids rooms from whereever they've roamed away to. Sometimes I start my morning out in the yard, especially as the days are warming, to mow or rake or water, just to have a quiet start.
And I added to the end of my response to the other mom with a similar question, It's got a historical and traditional background to do things this way: http://kids.niehs.nih.gov/lyrics/mulberry.htm
N.J. answers from Grand Junction on April 12, 2008
For me cleaning all rooms of the house is too much for one day (but I am also working a part time job). Instead I have Mondays as the day to clean floors, Tuesdays as laundry day, etc. It seems easier to break it down throughout the week, yet I also try to put things away when we are done using them so that the house stays in a tidy condition day by day. However, depending on the unexpected things that arise I am not always able to stick to this schedule. Hope you find something that works well for you. Good Luck!
A.P. answers from Pocatello on April 12, 2008
My favorite tip is to keep a laundry basket (or decorative basket) in the front room or any other important room, and toss all the toys in the basket about 15-30 minutes before dad comes home. The house magically looks clean, and you can put things away later. The first day I did this, my husband actaully complimented my "cleaning." Also, I have incorporated many of the tips from the Fly Lady's book "Sink Reflections"--her stuff is also available online at flylady.net. Good job being motivated!!
D.K. answers from Denver on April 11, 2008
My friends say I am TOO organized. I have to be.
I just do the daily cleaning when kids are at school or when someone is napping.
I keep the kitchen cleaned up, vacuum downstairs, toys put away, trash out daily. I do a load of laundry every morning and fold it later so I don't have ten loads come the weekend.
Then for every day of the week I do one big chore.
Like Mondays I clean all the bathrooms
Tuesdays I change all the sheets on the beds and pick up bedrooms.
Wednesday I dust the whole house and vacuum upstairs
Thursday I have to take the trash to the curb, clean the fish bowl and other smaller things.
Friday I have some other things to do and errands.
I don't put in more then an hour and a half into my day cleaning. It is done by Friday and I have very little to do on the weekends.
There are many things that don't have to be done daily. Your baby naps, take one of those nap times to do your stuff, the other naptime to relax or start getting things ready for dinnertime so it is a easy cooking process.
Don't spend more then two hours a day on house stuff, it is possible.
If you throw a load of laundry in first thing in the morning, come back later, put it in the dryer, start up the dishwasher and then when your daughter is napping, fold and put dishes away.
Hang in there, you will find your groove! :)
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J.L. answers from Salt Lake City on April 12, 2008
My husband liked the same thing, and I really wanted to give him what he wanted. After all, I don't envy him the responsibility of having to be up and to the job day in and day out. At least at home I can take breaks and schedule my day around how I feel, etc. Anyway, what worked for me is the following. I did one deep clean a day. Mondays it was the living room and hall. Tuesdays it was my bedroom and bathroom. Wednesdays I cleaned the other bath and the laundry room. Thursdays I actually made bread and did the laundry, and Fridays I cleaned the office and did paperwork. Saturdays I tackled the kitchen. (I actually don't do all this now because my kids are getting old enough to do jobs everyday and deep clean on Saturdays - Hallelujah!) That helped me get everything really clean at least once a week, but I wasn't doing too much in one day.
The other trick that kept both me and my husband sane was that I decided the entire house would be clean one time during the day. Many people choose this time to be at night before they go to bed. Some choose it to be in the morning. I decided my one clean time would be at 4:00 pm, 1/2 hr before my husband came home. At about 3:30 I'd do a quick sweep of the house getting all the surface clutter straightened up so that everything looked nice. Then I'd start dinner. When he got home at 4:30, the house was reasonably clean and dinner was on. I explained my thinking to him and he was happy to go to bed with a cluttered house in exchange for having the house nice when he got home from work.
Of course you will have adjustments depending on your schedule. But if each area gets deep cleaned once a week and straightened once during the day, you should be able to feel comfortable with the cleanliness of your home. Good luck with all.
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J.S. answers from Boise on April 11, 2008
My little girl is 9 months old today and I just don't think you can get as much done as you like. Does your husband watch the baby? Because when my husband watches our now active daughter, he has a renewed appreciation and always says "I don't know how you get ANYTHING done during the day!"
I just try to start laundry during her morning nap, but vacuuming is pretty much out unless her dad is home on the weekend. Any kind of cleaning, so long as it does not involve chemicals obviously, can be a game with your baby (folding laundry, putting away dishes) if you make it one. During her morning snack she sits in her highchair while I spend 10 minutes cleaning up the kitchen. I can no longer make dinner because of the way our house is set up - the hughchair is the only place for her to be that is safe, and if she is in it, she expects to be fed immediately! I do what I can, when I can, but my husband often makes dinner. Both of us like the house to be clean, but life is different now and we have learned to accept it. In my opinion, you should save some of your energy for being a wife and for your relationship when he comes home! I know my husband prefers to have some attention from me after my daughter goes to bed, rather than me cleaning or being to wiped out for "us" time!
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E.J. answers from Salt Lake City on April 12, 2008
I also have a nine month old, and a five year old. I find that I do the same things at the same times of day, usually. Like, in the morning when the baby's in his high chair, I might sweep the kitchen. When he's in his crib falling asleep for his morning nap, I load the dishwasher. I try to put loads of laundry in whenever I think of it during the day, and I almost always do a load at night. I would say that at night when the kids are in bed it's a good time for you or your husband to do a clean sweep of the house and do a general de-cluttering job so that things are in control the next morning.
And, by the way, it makes me a little crazy that your husband goes to work and comes home and wants "the house clean and dinner on". You've been busy too and have a life too. Yes, the majority of household cleaning duties and cooking fall on you as the stay at home mother, but if the house isn't as clean as he'd like it, he'd better pitch in and help out when he gets home. If it helps, maybe there should be certain jobs that are always his jobs, like dishes or cleaning the bathrooms, etc. Just because he "works all day" does not mean he's exempt from helping to keep the house together.
J.D. answers from Denver on April 13, 2008
Hi F.-my first thought was to say, what is this, the 1950s? The only women "did it all" then was because playpens and daytime martinis were actually acceptable. I'm fairly certain if your husband spent a few days with your lovely daughter, he'd have almost nothing done at the end of the day. Because your job is to take care of her--everything else is a bonus. I work 3 days a week as a marketing director and am home with my daughter the other 2 days. I can tell you being at work is a lot easier. I can have conversations, eat, even go to the bathroom whenever I want--which is more than you get at home! But speaking practically, here are some thoughts: get a sling that your daughter likes and wear her while you do chores. We use the ergo sling and I can do a lot around the house with her while she's sitting happily in the ergo. I make her a part of the tasks--telling her about laundry, talking about what I'm doing, etc. You probably shouldn't be using a lot of chemicals around you or the baby, especially if you're breastfeeding, so my husband cleans the bathrooms and does the tasks with the heavy household cleaners. I also recommend making a big meal Sunday night like lasagna, a casserole or something, so that you can have it for several days. We also do a breakfast for dinner about 1 night a week--so easy to throw together eggs, potatoes and such for dinner. The crockpot is the third lifesaver. I don't know where you live, but I always keep dinners in the fridge from the Organic Dish (theorganicdish.com) or Supper Solutions (suppersolutionsinc.com) so that I always have something I can throw together. We also bought the Lil Playzone Play yard from One Step Ahead and it's totally worth it. We bought some extra panels so she has a lot of room to happily play so that I can get some cooking or tasks done. I know she's safe, so I don't mind running out of the room. Anytime your husband needs a reminder, just leave your daughter with your husband and see how he deals. My husband gets so overwhelmed just after a few hours, let alone all day. Best of luck!
S.M. answers from Billings on April 12, 2008
Instead of trying to clean it all every day, why not try to pick one room to clean each day. As far as the laundry goes, I consider it an accomplishment to get one load DONE every day. That means wash, dry, fold , and put away. For your meals why not plan a menu for the week. Got to the store to get everything you need. Then just stick to the menu. I would also try to go around the house for about 1/2 hour every night to pick up toys etc. When your baby gets to be a little older, she could help with this before bed. She may even want to help plan the menu when she's older. Hope this is what you were looking for!
R.M. answers from Salt Lake City on April 12, 2008
If you try to get all of that done daily, with a 9 month old you will be exhausted! I try to keep things generally tidy throughout the day and pick one area to "deep clean" daily. I do laundry only once a week, unless my kids have gone through too many clothing changes. Remember to enjoy your day and enjoy your time with your baby. You don't have to be perfect, and it doesn't sound like your husband expects it. It is also OK for him to help with some small cleaning in the evenings. Good luck!
A.G. answers from Salt Lake City on April 12, 2008
I like the other ideas that were said. But I do a thing that I didn't see mentioned. I wash my dishes in the dishwasher at night, when I am getting ready for bed and my little one is asleep. Then in the morning I unload the dishes. And throughout the day, instead of letting them build up in the sink, I just throw them in the dishwasher and by night the dishwasher should be full and then I run it, and repeat the process. This keeps your sink clean and dishes from crusting over. Oh and I make sure I rinse the junk off the dishes so it won't get crusty in the dishwasher.
I also recommend, this was said before, to do a load of laundry a day ( plus babies love to help pull the laundry out of the basket while you fold, at least mine did!). This helps keep the need to do a big project of laundry down.
Hope this helps! And don't feel bad when you can't do it all. Some days I just can't do it. And other days I seem to get more done then thought. Take it a day at a time!