S.S. asks from Lees Summit, MO on February 16, 2008
How Do I Get My 4 Mo. Old to like Solids?
I started my almost 4 month old on solids last week. For the past week I have worked on giving him rice cereal morning and night with a spoon, but today I started 3 times a day. He absolutley hates it and screams and screams. I think it's just the fact that it's a spoon, not a bottle, and there's a foreign object in his mouth he's not sure what to do with. He LOVES his bottle, but when he's hungry he doesn't give me any signals, he just starts screaming. So to get him to eat a few spoonfuls of rice I have had to give him a few ounces of milk first to calm him down. Then just a few spoonfuls of cereal is all he'll stand, and then I give him the rest of the bottle. Even tho I was told to feed him the cereal first, that doesn't work because he starts screaming and then chokes on the cereal. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas on how to get him used to eating solids and having food spooned into his mouth? My mother is telling me to start mixing a little fruit in with it but I realy don't think he cares what it tastes like, he just needs to get used to it. This is a new experience for me so any ideas would be appreciated!
K.K. answers from St. Louis on March 27, 2008
alright i know this is a little late, but i am kinda going through that right now with my 6 month old. I was just wondering how it was going and to see if you needed any help. I am also a singe mom. I have a 6 month old son.
C.M. answers from St. Louis on February 24, 2008
Wait I did not start feeding solids until 5 months it might just be too early wait a month and try it again!
K.G. answers from St. Louis on February 20, 2008
My son, now 15 months, had issues with the spoon at first. He didn't open his mouth enough to get it in, then it was just a struggle.
My husband hit upon a great idea: use a medical syringe (a baby one meant for their mouth). We would load that up with rice cereal or oatmeal (he likes that a lot better), put it in his mouth, and squirt a little in. When we did that, he was able to calm down and eat. It was less steps for him to take, and he could just eat.
T.K. answers from Kansas City on February 19, 2008
At 4 months your baby may not be ready for solids yet. Most pedi's now days suggest waiting until 6 months to start solids. I have 3 boys (6 years, 14 months, and 8 weeks) I did not start solids until after 6 months and I started with vegie then went to fruit skipping the cereal all together with my oldest two and I do not intend to give my youngest anything til at least 6 months.
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M.S. answers from Columbia on February 18, 2008
Your mom may be right. There are cereals with fruit in them, you could try that. As far as him not letting you know when he's hungry. What you might want to do is start keeping track when you feed him through out the day, usually they stay pretty close to the same routine every day. That way you'll have a round-a-bout idea when he'll be hungry. I have a 2 yr old son. I use to mix his formula with his cereal. However many tablespoons he get's, with formula to whatever thickness you want. He ate that right down. He'll eventually get use to the taste, this is new for him too. Good luck!!
C.M. answers from Kansas City on February 17, 2008
I agree that he might just not be ready for it yet. With my first one, I started her on cereal at 4 months because the doctor said that I could and I had heard that was what you were supposed to do. I never could get more then a couple of bites down her and ended up wasteing a lot of cereal. Once she was a little older and I started adding vegies and fruits, she didn't have any problems at all. My second one, I didn't even attempt the cereal until closer to 6 months and she took right to it without any problems at all. If you really feel like he needs the extra food (which he probably doesn't if he is a chubby healthy baby) then you might try giving it to him inbetween the bottles. If he is really hungery when you are trying to give it to him, he will only want what he knows is going to comfort him. So if he is on a 3 hour feeding schedule, try the cereal about an 1 1/2 to 2 hours after he eats so that he is a little hungery but not starving. Once he realized that the cereal will fill up his belly too, he will be fine. It can be frustrating at first but he will get it when he is ready for it. You will learn to follow his cues which will not always be what the books or even the doctors tell you he "should" be doing.
R.K. answers from St. Louis on February 18, 2008
My kids are all teenagers now, but I had four of them and every one of them was different when it came to feeding. Being a first time mom, you are probably trying the best you can to do everything "right" and by the book. I learned after two kids that you need to chill out and choose your battles! In my humble opinion your baby is not ready for solid foods yet, even through the books probably say it's time. I think you are absolutely doing the right thing by giving the bottle first. If you were ravonously hungry and you were offered a plate of food that was completely foreign to you, and you had to eat it with chopsticks which you'd never used before - you'd be frustrated too! I think letting your baby get a grip on his hunger with the bottle, then offering the cereal once he's calmed and mostly satisfied is the right thing to do. The last thing you want is for mealtime to become a battlefield. Your baby will soon realize that he has complete control over what he actually eats - you cannot physically MAKE him eat anything! Eating has to be a happy and pleasant experience early on. If it's really the spoon that's bothering him - there are a few things you can do. One is to reduce the spoon feeding to just a few spoonfuls after the bottle - and stop before he gets upset. Tell him he's a good boy every time he takes a bite. Second, you can let him hold the spoon (I'm assuming you're using a baby spoon) and let him play with it and put it in his mouth before he starts eating. Let him know the spoon is a happy thing. Also, make sure you're not shoving food into his mouth. Let him see the spoon and the food and gently touch his lips with it. Let him lick or suck the food off the spoon - or even grab it with his hands. When he gets the idea the yummy food is delivered by this spoon, he'll likely cut to the chase and open his mouth for it. When his little body is actually ready for solid food, the bottle will become less satisfying than the cereal and he'll want the cereal to fill his tummy. I think from a baby's perspective (whose only mission in life is to eat and grow) all hunger is an emergency that must be dealt with immediately! So the baby wants whatever works fastest! Hope that helps!
K.M. answers from Topeka on February 18, 2008
Rice cereal is very bland, and not all babies like it. That doesn't necessarily mean he isn't ready for solids. Try the oatmeal or barely flake cereal, it might taste better to him.
M.D. answers from Kansas City on February 18, 2008
I had the same problem! I have an almost 7 month-old little girl that was acting like she was ready for solids but HATES cereal! I kno they say to start them on cereal when you're trying solids, but we gave up and started giving her fruits and vegetables and she loves them! If the spoon is a problem, which was also the case with my daughter, try letting them hold it and play with it... you kno 4 month olds love to stick anything they can get their little hands on in their mouth! Hope this helps
C.C. answers from St. Louis on February 18, 2008
make the hole in the nipple a little bigger and then just put the cereal in with the formula - great tip from a pediatrician when my 24 year old baby girl did the same thing. Once they get used to the solid in the mouth, give it a few weeks and then use the spoon......they're just hungry!!
G.C. answers from Springfield on February 18, 2008
I'm a single mom to my one-and-only 2 year old, well, 3 in May. I know there are different opinions, but my Pediatrition and the WIC nutritionist recommended waiting 6 months for solids. Said formula or breast milk was sufficient until then. It might be that he is just not ready yet! Do you have the "What to Expect: the First Year" book? It is a great reference for month-by-month advice. I used mine continuously, and now have "What to Expect: the Toddler Years." Love 'em!
If you're a single mom, have you checked out WIC? It is a government sponsored program, Women, Infants & Children, to help provide basic nutrition for up to 5 years. They also have nutrition classes. It has helped me quite a bit.