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How Do I Get My 2 Year Old Out of My Bed?????

Hi, My 2 year old daughter has been in our bed since she was a baby,and don't get me wrong we do enjoy her in bed with us,but we are thinking maybe it's time to move her to her own room. The only problem is we can't stand to her scream for us so that option is out.Does anyone have any ideas on how to get her to sleep in her own room,without it turning into a huge ordeal.

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What I did w/my daughter, at about 1 year old, was lie down w/her until she fell asleep in my bed. Then, I would carry her into her own bed. After a while, I would put her in her bed while awake and put a movie on for her until she fell asleep. She is 3 years old now, but still wakes up in the middle of the night to get in my bed. Sometimes, I carry her right back to her own bed.
I just try to reiterate that she needs to be comfortable in her own bed and my bed is MY BED............
i hope that helps a bit.

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Hi S.,
First try a toddler bed in your room and have her start sleeping there. As many times as she gets out, put her back. Then after she gets sleeping in the bed down pat, move her to her own room and camp out in there with her. It sounds alot easier then it will actually be. My 22 month old stillsleeps with us. She slept upstairs with her big sister a # of times, I did put her bed together up their. My worry is her falling down the steps in the middle of the night. So far so good.
Good luck!
K.

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I'd start slowly by doing some activities during the day to help prepare her for being in her own bed. Maybe you can buy her a special "sleep time" doll that has her very own bed (having your daughter praise the doll for being a "big girl" by sleeping in her own bed, practice night time routines, etc.). If she seems responsive to helping her doll sleep on her own, try having her shop with you for special "big girl" bedding for her very own bed. I don't know about starting her out in your room just because I can't imagine at what point she'd be ok with leaving your room. I say when you feel she understands the "big girl" bed concept, you form a bed time ritual (bath, book, snuggle, sleep) and sit with her until she falls asleep in her own bed. Do this for several nights in a row before starting to slowly move away (use a stool or chair). Eventually, she should be able to go to sleep with you sitting in the doorway and then outside the door, etc.

Look into getting the Sleep Lady book!

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I have a 16 month old son and i had the same problem i started at 12 months. i put him in the pack and play in our bedroom. to get him sleeping in his own bed. After he was ok with sleeping in his own bed in our room. i started let him fall asleep in our room and puting him in his own room so he could get use to that. then as he get use to the baby steps. it took me about 3 months but now he is sleeping in his own room and bed. Also you may try letting her take naps in her bed and room, it may help her use to her room.

Dear S.,
The Family Bed is something that is wonderful for a time, and should always be an option for you child. We had a Family bed with our only son until he was around 2 years old at that point we weaned him away from our bed to his slowley similar to how I weaned him off of breast feeding.
First we started with a small toddler bed in our room right next to our bed for about 3 months. Then we moved the room around so he was closer to the door and his own room, this lasted about 6 weeks. Finally we moved the toddler bed into his room with his "Big Boy" bed. For the first week I slept in his bed while he slept in the toddler bed. Then I didn't change the sheets on his bed so that they smelled like mama. I moved him to his big bed and each night about 1/2 hour before his bedtime we would take turns reading him a story. One of us would sit on the toddler bed and he would lay peacefully in his bed while we read him to sleep. By the time we finished Moby Dick...that is the book we chose, he was finesaying his prayers, being tucked in and going to sleep. I think what it boiled down to was we kept the same routine from when we had a family bed. Don't get me wrong he still had night when a nightmare would bring him into our bed. That was allowed, but after he was safe and felt comfortable he was taken back to his own room and tucked back in, usually with a lullaby.
All children are different and what worked for us may not work for you. But, It is worth a try. The worst that can happen is that it doesn't work.
The most important thing about getting him into his own room is keeping up a routine, young children feel safer when things are familiar.
Good Luck and Let me know how you get on with this.

Take care,

J.

We have the same problem. My son is almost 3 and the only way we got him to stop sleeping in our bed is to put his toddler bed right beside our bed and after nights of screaming and pleading w/ him to sleep in his own bed, he finally did. Now, we just got to work on getting him out of our room completely and in his own room.

What I did w/my daughter, at about 1 year old, was lie down w/her until she fell asleep in my bed. Then, I would carry her into her own bed. After a while, I would put her in her bed while awake and put a movie on for her until she fell asleep. She is 3 years old now, but still wakes up in the middle of the night to get in my bed. Sometimes, I carry her right back to her own bed.
I just try to reiterate that she needs to be comfortable in her own bed and my bed is MY BED............
i hope that helps a bit.

My son has never really been in regular habit of sleeping in my bed but once every couple months he will have a small section in time where he feels he needs to be there, he uses every excuse possible to get to sleep in my room, nightmares, scary noises, etc, being a single mom it's harder to say no because I'm alone in my bed. To try to soothe him I have found that I can go in his room and lay with him, I always read him a book or two of his choice before he goes to sleep to start calming him down, sometimes he has a movie on, other times with music and once he falls asleep he's good. He also it a sucker for drinking a little bit of milk before bed to, seems to help him fall asleep. Also in the beginning when I made the switch from his crib to a bed he was really hesitant. Try making it fun, buying new "sheets" with the character of her choice or a new BIG stuff animal for her to cuddle with, something that may make staying in her "big girl" bed exciting. I also put on music or tv for my son to try to drown out the "scary" noises he says he can hear at night, he also has a very 'festive' nightlight in his room that he loves to turn on and it makes shapes on his ceiling, sometimes just watching that will make him fall asleep. I hope this helps. Feel free to ask any questions if you have any!! Good Luck!

We had the same problem. My mom got my daughter Dora sheets for her bed for her 2nd birthday, and as soon as I started putting them on her bed, she started sleeping in it. So, maybe if you can find something that your daughter likes, maybe that will compensate for having to be with you.

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